To be annoyed that he's obsessed with walking everywhere?

YANBU that he is being inconsiderate of what you want. He sounds bossy and annoying. YABU if you don't like the fact that he likes walking.
Just compromise fgs, and come to terms with your own feelings about laziness/not laziness.

Any other similar bossy decisions made by him that overlook your own views OP?

Look, if it's merely annoying for you there is compromise. You choose one destination setting that doesn't require a mad bag heavy walk, and he chooses the next one, but you get some form of transport and let him jog walk on.

I'm sure I would be mad as hell if my DP refused to consider me in any decisions made, travel or otherwise.

I think I'd probably kill him TBH and flounce off on the bus to another hotel!

With heavy bags and an endo flare?
I'm lucky if I can walk to the kettle with an endo flare let alone 30 mins

Why does he get to be the boss and book holiday accommodation that you don't want? You are equal partners in this relationship or should be. Stand up for yourself and stop letting him walk all over you (no pun intended)

This really.

Why does he have a say on your travel arrangements. He can walk. You can get the bus. No issue except that he makes one of the situation.

He's undermining you and I hope he doesn't do that in other ways.

I would much rather walk but he sounds annoying! He needs to just get over it.

Alright alright, I am not afraid to say I'm wrong, I had forgotten about village buses and ones that go in a loop round shopping centres where it can, sometimes, be faster to walk. Sorry!

However, OP's post implies that in her situation, like mine (I am typing this on a bus LOL) the bus would be the faster choice. I guess we just have to accept that sometimes, other people's lives experience is different to our own 😉

Well, I walk everywhere, including the school run which is a half hour walk each way. I would never get the bus ( it’s actually faster to walk!)

You are not wrong for wanting to get the bus and your partner is not wrong for wanting to walk. However, he shouldn’t have given you a hard time about it & he definitely should have offered to carry a bag if insisting you walk!

I walk everywhere and haven’t got a bus for donkeys years so can’t criticise your dh!

We have the same husband 😂

See I think this IS LTB worthy. It might bs OCD, it might be simple nastiness but for me that kind of behaviour is definitely a red flag. He does not get to control your choices EVER

BOTH of the bags

but that's YOUR choice, not someone else's expectation. OP I'd tell him to bog off and stop the bullying.

I have a husband who used to play this game. Especially when the kids were small.

I walk 4-5miles a day. Every day. 10000 steps.

But I won't walk with heavy bags, I will consider what I am doing when I get where I am walking to - so if it's heavily raining and we're going out for a meal I won't walk as I won't want to sit in wet clothes, if there is alot of 'on the go' once I arrive then I'll use transport to get there - and potentially tilly walk back.

I wouldn't put up with a partner who tried to dictate. He wants to walk - go ahead, I'll see you there. He wants to drag 2 preschoolers on a 30min hike into town... go ahead but I'll take the kids on the bus, and the most annoying... he races off as we 'walk too slow' I turn tail. Every. Single. Time. That is just plain rude and there is no way someone is treating me like that.

Mine learnt... eventually...

If you're on holiday somewhere where you are going to be doing lots of walking around generally or it's really hot, you probably could do without a 25 minute walk from and to your accommodation. Much more relaxed of an evening to walk 5 or 10 minutes from restaurants, etc. Also if you're in a beach type resort, the roads are unlit, there's no pavement and it's not particularly safe to walk 25 minutes out of town in a lot of places.

We live a 25 minute walk from the nearest village. Sometimes I walk, sometimes I drive depending on the time available, weather and how I'm feeling. Just because I can walk in doesn't mean I do!

He can walk, you take the bus - tell him you’ll meet him at the destination. Compromise required here😊

How many posters on here have actually taken a bus?? 10 minutes walk it's borderline which will be quicker, with stops, traffic etc. Over a 30 minute walk, a bus will virtually ALWAYS be quicker. You guys are delulu, as the young folk say.

I do and in my area due to roadworks and being near a tourist attraction, walking is usually faster. I have looked at bus times and have walked home only to see the bus I would have gotten on bypass me after I’ve walked passed the stop I’ve would have gotten off at so no the bus isn’t always faster.

Sometimes you can’t be arsed. YANBU. This would annoy me too. Does he thinks it makes him better than you? Get the bus when you want. It’s not a crime.

I’m half an hour walk from town, and I’ll always walk. Never even consider getting the bus.

Good exercise, cheaper, and by the time you’ve waited for a bus to turn up, and then drive around the houses before eventually getting to your stop, the bus isn’t really any quicker.

I love walking personally. Surely you can both compromise??

I like to walk if there's time but if carrying a massive bag I wouldn't. Sulking if someone carrying a huge bag wants to get the bus AND not offering to carry the bag is wankerish in the extreme.

Having read your updates, I don't think this is an issue of you being 'lazy' - it sounds like your partner is being very rigid.
Walking when possible is great, but if you're carrying heavy bags, why wouldn't you get the bus on that occasion?
It sounds like he's very unaccommodating - I would be reading him the riot act with regards to his treatment of you.
Do you want to be with someone who won't support you when you're feeling unwell & in pain?

And yes definitely ask him if he can help with bags. It’s pretty shocking that he didn’t offer. My friends teen son always offers if we go anywhere!

Some people are either missing the point or haven’t read all the updates. It’s not really about whether you walk 15,000 steps a day or not. Before I had a leg injury I used to walk 10-20K daily on my commute even when I had my period and I’d tend to stand on the train or tube rather than sit. But that’s me. If someone doesn’t want to walk 30 minutes it’s perfectly reasonable too especially when they are carrying bags and have health issues which OP has clearly stated.

OP your issue is he has a lack of empathy. I have two brothers that were raised exactly the same but one of them lacks empathy for some reason.

He will always suggest I walk with bags to the train station rather than give me a lift in his car, even if it’s quite late and if I’m unwell he’s always quite disbelieving and acts as if I’m exaggerating pain. And he is just generally doubtful of me if I say I need help with something. So you can imagine how much fun it was when I had post viral fatigue for 6 months dealing with his scepticism. As a result of that I’ve always steered clear of men with that kind of attitude.

I think you need to sit down and have a real heart to heart about this. If it continues things will only get worse and you could find yourself in real pain one day and he’s totally switched off.

My DH is a bit like this too! He forgets he is fitter, stronger and taller than me so can walk faster!
I generally don't mind walking, I don't think 30 minutes is excessive, it's better for the environment and good exercise.
The only situation where I would refuse to walk are if I need to carry something heavy or wear heels and I don't want to carry spare shoes around.
I would probably compromise by walking in to town and getting the bus home with the shopping.