How and when did you move your child(ren) into their own room? Is this too soon?

The breathing thing is true up to a certain age.

as for babies hating being in their own if they’re with their parents for months, that has not been my experience at all. Mine were all 10-14 months co sleeping. They all went into their own rooms with no issues and apart from when ill never wanted to sleep in our bed after moving.

My eldest son was about 1, my daughter was 10 months and my youngest was 14 months. Just when it felt right really or they stopped breast feeding in the night.

We moved DD at 6 months. From 4 months we got her napping in her cot in her room so she wasn't shocked by the idea. We had an audio monitor and bedroom next door so quite safe.

She didn't really sleep through til 10 months or so. We had to increase evening feed to stop her waking up hungry.

6 and a half months as we also started waking each other up!
We had a week where none of us slept and then my friend suggested we were all waking each other up which I hadn’t even thought about, moved him that night and we’ve all slept well since!

2 and 4 weeks with mine but that was over 20’years ago.

12 weeks for both of mine.

My son was about 7 months I think, when we moved him into his own room. He was in a Moses basket right next to the bed until he outgrew that at a month old then moved to his cot on the other side of the bedroom. It’s a very big (weirdly so, for the fact it’s actually not a huge house!) room and this worked until he got to about 6 months before we were all disturbing and waking each other left, right and centre. I hadn’t got his room ready so it took about a month to rejig things, find a new home for my office, rearrange furniture, decorate etc etc.

40 odd years ago both of mine slept in their own rooms from day one. Like most new mums, I slept lightly and had a comfy chair in there for breastfeeding - it meant my husband (who worked long hours) got a good night's sleep. Paying all the bills was him supporting his family. Neither of us would have slept a wink with a snuffling, fidgety baby in the room! I accept this is yet another old-fashioned concept but all my friends did it and it seemed to work out fine. Mine were confident, self-assured children and both work in professional roles with happy families themselves.

My youngest is 40 and their was no rule about keeping them in your room until they were 6 months old then. My eldest was in our room until we finally moved into a 2 bedroom flat just before she was 2. My youngest never slept in our room.

We moved DD at 5.5m- we were moving from co-sleeping and it seemed silly to transition her to a cot in our room only to have to transition her again a couple of months later.
I actually think it would have been harder if we had left it longer- at that age she was fairly amenable.
We started by putting her into her own cot at the beginning of the night- she would settle to sleep easily and then putting her in with us when she woke for a feed a couple of hours later. After a few days of that I went to just putting her back in her cot after the feed and she was fine except she went from 1 feed a night to 2- something we didn't manage to change for about 4 months!

I slept terribly when my kids were in the room - am a super light sleeper and woke up every time they moved. I moved my daughter into her own room (next door) around 8 months as we were travelling for a bit before. I moved my son around 7 months but into my daughter's room. I slept so much better after that which made me a much better mum.

6 weeks, she hated being swaddled and the crib was too small so she woke every time she flailed her arms in her sleep.

I mostly slept in the same room as her until she was about 7 months though. Spare bedroom with space for a cot and a comfy chair for overnight feeds. Left DH to sleep through and bring me breakfast before he went to work so it all worked well.

DC2 lasted a bit longer as a different house but by 4 months we had the same issue with waking each other up as the OP. So she joined her big sister. She was a much better sleeper though and we got a good routine with a dream feed so second time around I wasn't spending the wee hours feeding and reading Mumsnet.

I’ve never heard that explanation! Second HV said it was so babies learn from adults breathing. I was never convinced - partly because she was useless and HV 1 was brilliant. HV 1 said it was the only part of the safe sleeping guidance that she did not agree with it. Everything else makes sense - feet to foot, not over warming, no smoking- but if babies stay in with parents for months it is very likely that they will hate being in their own room later and there will be serious sleep problems.

In our experience with DS2 she was absolutely right - but he was snuggly with colds and we decided it was best to have him right next to us in the big cot.

My DD is almost 3 and still sleeps in same room/bed as us
We have a cot bed in the room and once she's asleep we move her into that. She'll wake randomly in middle of night and join us in the big bed

I have zero rush to move her into her own bed and will do it when it feels right

Thankfully we all get decent sleep. I imagine if none of us were sleeping well it would be different

6 months is the minimum so you're fine. I cosleep with my 14 month old so she's in with me but I think I'm in the minority among my friends.

In that case get it done while she's still little!

The OPs child is 10 months old.

The day they came home from the hospital. Whatever complaints they might have about their childhood they obviously haven't mentioned feeling abandonned.

Spend some time playing in her room and making comfortable, do naps in the cot in there for a few days and then move her at night and see how you get on?

I moved both of mine around this age, when we began disturbing each other. Risk of SIDS is reduced in tiny babies when room sharing so never considered it before then

Unfortunately my DD doesn't have the option to have her own room. We live in a small flat and she has co slept with me from about 5 weeks until now 7 months. We were getting 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, but she is currently having a growth spurt so are waking twice in the night for feeds. She has her own cot to toddler bed next to mine but we haven't really used it, mostly because our current arrangement is working really well. I thought I'd be like @AgainandagainandagainSS, but no. I've tried to keep a good routine though. We do story time on the floor and she knows when we get into the grown up bed it's time to sleep. She goes from crawling around on the floor to fast asleep on a couple of minutes after lights out.

My first was about a month old, he slept all night and seemed silly not to move him into his own space. He had always been chilled and content ... many years later he still is, so obviously didn't feel abandoned.

My other, well, devil child who was clingy, so moved much later - they are lovely now though.

Good luck and don't feel guilty.

About 3 weeks. But my eldest is 31 and youngest is 17. Probably very old fashioned now. My granddaugher is still in with parents at 12 months.

Mine were all young - 8 weeks, 6 weeks & 6 weeks. Pretty much when they started sleeping through.

10 months is absolutely fine! I bet you will all sleep much better.

6 months is the recommendation. I followed this and it’s worked out really well for my 4 year old. Currently just started with my 6 month old, going well so far. I have a baby Camera set up so that helps

Dd was in her own room at 10 weeks - I do feel bad about that now but our room (rented flat at the time) had really bad damp in it and I’d been having to camp out in her room every night. Wasn’t ideal but I really wanted to get back into my own bed with my then DH.

DS went into his own room at 6 months. He was always a good sleeper from the point when he had his tongue tie snipped but it was just at a point when we had time to move everything around.