How and when did you move your child(ren) into their own room? Is this too soon?

To all the people who have their children in the same room or even the same bed for years, do you feel you miss out on private time with your partner? Yes I mean sex, not only at night but in the morning, and also just cuddling in bed and chatting on your own? Presumably you're not having sex in the room while the child is in there.

The evidence shows babies regulate their breathing better if they're in the same room as an adult. So HV2 was sort of correct. Babies can hold their breath- sleep apnoea. This doesn't happen in cultures that co sleep as standard hut does where babies are put alone very young. It's not conclusive but it's a hard thing to test.

Mine went into their own room at 7 and 8 months, I night weaned at the same time and we all slept better. Apart from maybe Dp who had to do a few nights on their floors. Next baby will be much the same. I'd prefer 6 months but I thinks there's too much going on with starting solids and them learning to crawl.

Yes I was squashed in between them! Wasn’t ideal but it worked for that short period. I’ve already told DH if we have a third I’m going to need a much bigger bed 😂

DS was 5.5 years old! Loved co-sleeping with him for all those years.

DD... 6 weeks. Would've been earlier if I had the room ready!

I moved mine at 13 months and kept a cot in my room for about 5 months so that sometimes when he woke up crying I could bring him back next to me, safely

Both of ours probably about 7 months?
Establishing a lovely bedtime routine goes some way to helping. We also would repeatedly take them when a bit smaller, into their rooms and place them in their cot if we needed to do a couple of quick errands upstairs, just to get them familiar with it.

Baby monitor on, read a story, give them a little cuddle and don’t make a big fuss or hang around loads.

DS was a dream and took to it straight away but he was sleeping through from quite young. DD fought it a lot and still sometimes does at 20 months but she’s completely different 😂.

Be prepared for lots of making you feel guilty but stand firm if you’re going to do it. If they cry for a good few minutes, we’d go in and comfort but not give in to them coming out of the room. Sometimes we’d spend ages cuddling up comforting in their nursery chair until they got more settled.

Hehe it’s definitely a side benefit ! The True Goal is trying to keep us from freezing - house is listed so we only have single paned windows and it’s bloody cold!

Mine were 5 and 14. Yes that’s years not months. 😆

But I’m a different person with different children so if 10m works for you both then go for it! It’s not too early.

I probably didn't have that as my goal (mostly because I didn't know it was a thing - my children are in their 20s now!) but because it just felt right! x

Yes same with my children. My children are happy,uncomplicated adults!

My dd is 22 months and has a cabin bed in her room but been cosleeping with us since birth.

She knows it's her room and a few days ago she was playing with some toys in her room and we said "this is your room and this is your bed and these are your toys!" She agreed and started pretending to sleep in it. So from that night, we put her to bed in her own room. So far so good. She does sometimes wake up at about 4am and climbs back in with us. But it is so nice to be able to come to bed and put a lamp on and read for a bit or chat, or something else...!

Baby would be in the next to me until they are robust! My little one is such a still sleeper, I’m the yoga snoozer.

its probably less about academics and more about life learning if that makes sense ? Things like settling in the secure (hopefully!!) attachment, social cues, fine/gross motor skills, emotional intelligence… This probably makes me sound incredibly lazy but it’s nice providing that benefit literally in my sleep!! She is naturally bright so I have no doubt she’ll do well academically but who knows if that’s even an area that’s important to her long term goals ? (Currently she loves gymnastics and is putting in at least three hours a day on the mat so who knows!)

And then there’s the fact I’m a therapist and have a very neuroscience based practice so it feels poor form not to practice what I preach…

Well I've got my 10.5 year old in the bed with me now.
He does have his own room but never once slept in it. Compromised with a single bed in our room.

Fair play to you, I never tried it. Did you sleep in the middle of the two of them?

I'm also a great believer in doing whatever makes your life easier!

I think it might be tough to co-sleep with both of them - I'd be afraid of tiny baby being hurt or older child rolling onto baby I think?

Ramp up all the excitement of her being a big girl - let her help pick furnishings etc!

Don't worry about all that brain goodness 😂I was very academic when I was young and I think I thought I'd having having mini brains of Britain lol! The three of them have been pretty solidly averagely academic; two are graduates and the other is 2/3 of the way there. First has a professional career, 2nd is working on establishing one, and I hope the 3rd will too.

I love and adore them, and I am so proud of them, but none of them is finding the cure for cancer, let's face it!

My close friend's three kids never co-slept and were never breastfed, and their parents are probably average academically, and all three of them have way surpassed mine!

I managed to co sleep with both mine for a while, in the very early weeks the baby settled fine in his next to me but then it was easier to have him actually in next to me. Eldest had the choice of his own room but slept on the other side of me for the first 4 months before deciding it was time to go to his own bed and he’s slept in there every night since. It was sometimes a squash but DS1 was so used to sleeping next to me he never woke when the baby cried! And it meant I wasn’t being disturbed even more by him waking and coming through to my room, or needing me to go through to him. I think just do what makes the early months bearable, especially if you’re on your own, don’t put any extra pressure on yourself than you need to.

She’s quite excited for it which is a good thing but I don’t think she fully realises what it means … and I still worry that she needs that deep sleep for all the brain goodness!

im also a solo mum so part of me still feels it’s easier to have them all in one space ? I can see how it’s better if one parent can stay with the baby and the other goes next door but I feel like I’ll be dragging one or the other into the cold!

I did too @IMBCRound2 because I knew I wouldn't have moved her otherwise! It didn't scar her for life lo! We did the foul deed a few months before baby was due so that she would be used to it. It was just fine!

32 years ago. Moved him into his own room at about 8 weeks and he started sleeping right through the night. Pretty sure he's never experienced abandonment issues.

We moved DS at 5 months. We had planned to at 6 months but it was during those super hot 40 degree days we had, his nursery was at the back of the house where it was much cooler, whereas ours was at the front where it was really hot so we weighed up risks and decided it was better for him to be cooler. He was getting too big for the bedside crib anyway. He started sleeping through the night quite quickly after that, I think we might have been waking him up. 10 months I think is absolutely fine.

Similar timeline here, still got the youngest DC in bed with me and he’s 2 in a couple of months. But I know for some people co-sleeping with a toddler would be awful, so whatever works for different folks! I do it partly out of laziness as we need to turn DH’s office into a bedroom for the kids and move his stuff into the smaller bedroom, between full time work & small children neither of us have the energy to do the rearranging, so DS stays in with us and seems quite happy with the arrangement! Have booked some leave in November to make the switch so might have my bed back by Christmas, but I don’t feel any huge rush to have him sleep elsewhere.

There were no recommendations in the 1990s. DC1 was moved at 10 days as I was getting no sleep. I don't think the other two ever slept in our room.

My dd went in her room at 6 months, we both slept much better after that.

She's 18 now and doesn't seem to have any abandonment issues 😉

If you feel ready to move her and think sleep will be better all round then go for it, they now say that from 6 months onwards it's fine.

If you don't feel ready then don't! There's a lot of pressure around to force babies into a certain type of independence before they are ready in my opinion. On mumsnet you will find lots of people saying they put their babies in rooms on their own from day one, sleep trained etc and how they've slept perfectly since but in my experience and most parents I've known, this is very rare.

You should do whatever you feel is best for your family and what you feel comfortable with.

I think our son was about 4 weeks home when I moved him into his own room. But he'd slept for eleven weeks on various NICU wards and so was used to not having somebody alongside for the last few of those (nurses sat at entrance to ward).