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To not have another child simply because…

55 replies

herh · 01/10/2024 19:22

I can’t be arsed? Dd is 3. I’ve found it relatively easy, mostly enjoyable and think I’m pretty ok at parenting. We have enough money. Lots of support. DP can’t understand why I don’t want a second, he would have another but also isn’t pushing for it in a big way. I am almost 38 so don’t have much time to change my mind.

I just can’t be arsed, basically. It was lovely and fun when she was tiny and I do miss those moments, the tiny baby months etc. but I can’t be arsed doing it again. DP thinks this is an odd reason. Am I alone in this?! Will I regret it?!

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Gettingbysomehow · 01/10/2024 19:25

I only had one as I couldn't afford 2 on my own. I've never regretted it. DS who is nowc41 has never expressed a wish for a sibling and we are very happy.
Imagine if I'd had another and they were severely disabled or whatever or a high needs baby. I would have had to kiss goodbye to my career.

ChesterCats · 01/10/2024 19:25

I get it. I had two but the idea of doing it again makes me want to go and lie down! Little kids are lovely but boring AF!

BunsenBurnerBaby · 01/10/2024 19:25

CBA is the best reason to not have any more. It’s your internal systems saying you are done. Listen to it.

MeMyCatsAndI · 01/10/2024 19:23

Nope, I can't be arsed to have more kids. The idea of sleepless nights, poonamis, toddler strops, ugh no thank you I'd rather have my sleep. Grin

YouveGotAFastCar · 01/10/2024 19:23

No, plenty of people are one and done. You are. It sounds like you’ve enjoyed it but have no urge to do it again, and that’s absolutely fine. There’s no obligation to, and I’m sure it’d all feel a lot harder the second time around if you don’t really want it.