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Problem with male colleague not doing what asked

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tropicalfizz · 01/10/2024 18:05

I'm new, been in my job a few months. He has been here over 10 years so I understand he has experience etc. He has moved into a higher role than he was before and this is his first time doing this role. Within my role I have to task colleagues to do things and I also have to make sure it's well documented. If I don't do this it could have extremely bad consequences on others safety. WE are in different departments but have to work together. Last week I had push back from this colleague when I asked if he could call someone . He sent me an email telling me he didn't think this was the right course of action with others copied in. My line manager backed me and told him he needs to do it and explained we need to follow the procedures we have in place to keep others safe. He said he had called the appropriate people but he didn't record this down and I don't believe he actually did it.
Today I've tasked him with something else. Instead of replying to me, he went to a colleaugue who is in my department and said something like he has been doing what I asked. This colleague asked if he had recorded it though, he said no he had not. He's now updated the system but again has ignored what I've asked and is not following what we need to do to keep others safe. It seems he thinks that he thinks what he does in his department is just his decisions and what our department asks (or just me) he will not do. My department has say over every department because we ultimately keep others safe.
Another colleague in my department tasked him to get one of our customers a referral, he has come back and basically our customer has improved and he doesnt think any further action is needed. It's not his call to make, he is not trained to make this call.
How can I deal with this kind of colleague? I'm starting to feel anxious when I email him now because I think what is he going to throw back now.

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KingOfPeace · 01/10/2024 18:17

Keep an email trail, escalate to your manager if or when necessary.

Do not reference his sex, it's a protective characteristic and you run the risk of looking sexist.

Tae1 · 01/10/2024 18:16

As this is a safety issue and he is not following procedure and is behaving as if established procedures and protocols do not apply to him, you email your concerns to your boss and ask for guidance.
Do not keep to yourself the fact he is not following safety protocols.
Cover your arse carefully.
I think you will need to email all requests to him and follow up with an explanation as to why protocols have not been followed.
Forward everything to your boss and ask for guidance.

MiddleClassProblem · 01/10/2024 18:14

Without being someone in your industry so may be completely wrong but I would raise all the issues with your line manager. There must be someone who above him or your line manager who can enforce he is doing the job correctly.

If he says he has done something but didn’t record it but you have that in writing then maybe archive those email chains in case anything comes back including the calls he has said he made. You can only take his word for it there unless you are allowed to make some kind of follow up call but always best to have it in writing so you have evidence of what he claims.

CynicalSunni · 01/10/2024 18:13

I think the only thing you can do is keep receipts and document everything you do.
If it comes out he hasnt been doing what he says he has that's on him surely?

By all means do follow up emails and make sure you get his replies. Unless you are able to pass on your concerns to someone higher up?

user1471517900 · 01/10/2024 18:11

Is being male at all relevant in this?

You just have to let your manager know if they're not following procedures. It's pretty simple. All you can do is do the correct thing.

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