Problem with male colleague not doing what asked

She can say ‘he.’ being factual is not sexist. ‘They’ is confusing in this incidence, it sounds as though you’re referring to the team.

Speak to your manager & show her the examples where either he hasn’t done or hasn’t documented the required tasks. Ask her to follow these issues up with him or his manager if you feel they need further action. Suggest that you cc her into any future emails to him as this concerns client safety.

If he pushes back on his tasks, respond with something along the lines of ‘please complete xx task as requested, the requirement for this is in ‘XX Client Safety Protocol’ . Please also ensure that all documentation is up to date.’ And cc his manager as well as yours for this reply.

If you have suspicions that he is saying he has done tasks & you don’t believe he has, then again you need to raise this with your manager. It’s more difficult because you don’t want to appear to be picking on him. Maybe introduce an audit of response times & call a certain number of clients across the departments for satisfaction feedback? Or are these the cases where he hasn’t documented the calls?

Next time he CCs everyone querying you, how about a “if you’re still not clear on the procedures Tim, I’m happy to do the training again” type response?

And for the people who think it can’t possibly be to do with him being a big, important man who’s far too senior to do admin, I wish I’d worked wherever you’re working.

No the coworker may or may not be a shitty coworker… but when an OP spends as much time as she did describing him and then making comments like

Trust me I know exactly the type of person he is.

That’s an ax to grind in my experience. And since the OP agreed it’s a possibility (Perhaps I do because I'm sick of men like him…) I’m thinking I wasn’t too far off the mark.

but … hey ho what do I know. I’m sure the OP is right and she’ll be successful in taking him down.

Thank you for an adult response. I swear 90% of work place problems can be solved by communication and just talking to each other but unfortunately work place politics and gossip make it impossible. OP, try this tactic. And I think you need to realize that you also stereotyped him and work on your own prejudices.

All requests by email.

If not followed request
Email manager to notify and email him to request a meeting at x on x.
Ask him at said meeting email o. X instructed you to do y. Have you done this? If not, why not?
Every time ... soon becomes a capability or disciplinary issue

Send him an email and ask him, as he seems to struggle with understanding what his job is, would he feel that he would benefit from further training or perhaps his job role is just more than he is capable of and maybe he should step back? That might help him think about his behaviour

A ‘chip on her shoulder’? Wow. All the sexist tropes coming out… he’s wilfully being disrespectful and insubordinate. But no, of course it’s all her fault… 🙄

And this is mumsnet. Number one rule is women, particularly mothers, can do no wrong except extreme cases. This guy may be shitty at his job, but op going on about his looks and how he's a type, is not helping her case.

oh dear… good luck

Hmmm 🤔 I’m having a hard time deciding on this situation. You are coming across like you have a chip on your shoulder in regards to this guy.

All I’m going to say is tread lightly…

1st Rule of Misogny - women are responsible for what men do. 🙄

Jeez pipe down op love - you’re winding the poor man up!

But it's not regardless of his looks. She has said his looks are making him arrogant. She's quite literally blaming his problem-causing on his looks. Imagine a man posting here that a woman on another team is causing problems because she's good looking. There would be a very different response!

I'm sure this guy is a prick, but bringing his looks into it is muddying the waters and not helping the OP's case.

Read the OP's first post. She has to work with him, and he's the only one giving her problems, regardless of his looks.

Do you operate some kind of performance appraisal system. You or his line manager can record his poor performance and inability to follow instructions, pull him into a meet and slap his wrists. If this is putting lives at risk he's clearly not good for the organisation. Putting him on a performance improvement plan will embarrass him and piss him off into doing as he's told. Good luck.

And you assumed his manners and personality based on his looks. Perhaps he is shitty at his job, but that's for your supervisor to decide. I'm sure if my former supervisor wrote an AIBU she would describe me as the most incompetent employee ever who worked there who flirted her way out of problems, ignoring the fact that I was in a committed same sex relationship at time. On a positive note I ended up getting her job after she got fired so she was clearly wrong.

Perhaps, remember that we are only getting her side. I had something very similar to me at an old job of mine. One of the supervisors treated me like shit from day one. Blew up over any mistake I made, but wouldn't say anything to the people who worked there longer who made the exact same mistake. I eventually had to go to the boss because it got so bad. Turn out she made a lot of nasty comments based on my looks to others.

But this attractive person is behaving like an entitled arsehole - we don't need to know why.

It might be your manager's job to deal with him. You're clearly communicating what you need to. If he's choosing not to do it, it's potentially something to set up as and escalation each time.

I'd talk to your manager about whether he's been like this previously and how to deal with it now. It might be a matter of CCing your and his manager into communications with him either at a point or even from the start.

Sometimes you can also rejig procedure and instructions to account for non-compliant people like this. Some sort of report made available to all senior managers that slightly shames them or their team can be good. I've had jobs where we'd send out a spreadsheet of outstanding items and put the teams not complying in red so everyone could see how badly they compared to other teams.

Sorry but it really coming across that you prejudged him because of his looks. Being attractive doesn't mean your an asshole.

I would definitely act on this, he's testing the boundaries.

I would reply to him, copying his and your manager in, explaining that the procedures are XYZ and if he feels they're wrong, then he needs to raise this formally for change. But for the time being, all processes need to be followed accurately for safety.

If he continues to be awkward, I would email his and your boss directly each time, noting what he didn't do.