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AIBU to overtake a hearse?

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confusedabouthormones · 01/10/2024 12:10

So today on the way home from school I had just pulled onto a dual carriageway and there was a hearse with some cars behind it. They were going to a near by crematorium. I pulled into the outside lane and drove past it.

My mother was in the car and she had a right go at me for being disrespectful and how she was embarrassed to be in my car. When I looked in my mirror no one else had passed the hearse.

Is this a thing? In my 30 odd years driving I've never heard this.

Was I being unreasonable to pass the hearse?

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boredwithfoodprob · 01/10/2024 14:14

I would and have overtaken on a dual carriageway, it's almost dangerous not to is say. But not on a single lane road.

ByMerryKoala · 01/10/2024 14:14

On a dual carriageway it's fine. It's not as though you were weaving your way impatiently through the mourning party.

Drfosters · 01/10/2024 14:13

Staying behind is weird. On an ordinary road absolutely respectful to stay behind and as a pedestrian to stop and bow head as it goes past.

but a dual carriage way whilst I think it would be disrespectful to fly past at a billion miles and hour, just overtaking slowly I don’t think anyone would mind. Otherwise you could have a massive traffic jam every time there is a funeral.

stayathomer · 01/10/2024 14:13

You've never encountered a hearse?
on a dual carriageway😅😅😅

Heartofglass12345 · 01/10/2024 14:13

I think if I was a mourner the last thing on my mind would be if someone had overtaken us on a dual carriageway...

onwardsup4 · 01/10/2024 14:12

It's fine to overtake on a dual carriageway. Different on a normal road but traffic needs to keep moving not get congested and joining the mourners for how long?
I think people replied quickly on this without thinking it through.

anotherusernameforme · 01/10/2024 14:12

An etiquette is to not cut into the possession of vehicles behind the hearse but how do you know who is just driving behind and who is actually the mourners? Is it just the actual limo you don't cut?

Needmorelego · 01/10/2024 14:12

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe maybe I will move to Wales.
It's survival of "who can cross the road quickest" here in London 🙁

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 01/10/2024 14:12

SassK · 01/10/2024 14:10

There's no 'law' only etiquette. I encounter funeral processions on the dual carriageway near my home frequently, because there's a crematorium nearby. It's a relatively short dual carriageway and I've never passed a procession (personal choice, out of respect). And I don't think I've ever saw anyone else pass (and yes, if I saw someone do it I'd think they were a bit of an arse).

That's fair I suppose because if they were having to sit behind you, needlessly, they'd probably think you were a giant arse who shouldn't be on the road.

biglipslittlehips · 01/10/2024 14:11

stayathomer · 01/10/2024 14:10

So traffic in both lanes have to hold back for what? 15 miles? 20 miles? Hearses can be transporting people for many miles. You'd be causing a traffic event if you did that. Very irresponsible
no need to get so het up I’ve never encountered it!!!!!!

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You've never encountered a hearse?

stayathomer · 01/10/2024 14:10

So traffic in both lanes have to hold back for what? 15 miles? 20 miles? Hearses can be transporting people for many miles. You'd be causing a traffic event if you did that. Very irresponsible
no need to get so het up I’ve never encountered it!!!!!!

GivingitToGod · 01/10/2024 14:10

lovemelongtime · 01/10/2024 12:11

Afraid so - perhaps just a lesson learnt

This

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 01/10/2024 14:10

Needmorelego · 01/10/2024 14:07

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe you've never been heckled by vehicle drivers as a pedestrian?
Well lucky you 😂
I get beeped at and almost run over about a dozen times a day.
Zebra crossing are invisible apparently and signalling to turn is non existent so I have to use my psychic powers.
I have had drivers literally swerve around me while I am still.on crossings so I would say that crossing the road is definitely time limited in the eyes of many many drivers

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Well I'm clearly a nicer driver than you've experienced. I'm sorry if you've been beeped. I don't understand why anybody would do that? I'm not often a pedestrian though but I'm quick-moving; I recognise the privilege in that.

Come to Wales, I will wait patiently, smile whilst doing it and not move a muscle until you're safely on the other side of the road. Promise! Grin

SassK · 01/10/2024 14:10

There's no 'law' only etiquette. I encounter funeral processions on the dual carriageway near my home frequently, because there's a crematorium nearby. It's a relatively short dual carriageway and I've never passed a procession (personal choice, out of respect). And I don't think I've ever saw anyone else pass (and yes, if I saw someone do it I'd think they were a bit of an arse).

Zukki · 01/10/2024 14:08

I'm an undertaker so I drive hearses and limos. It is absolutely fine to overtake in a dual carriageway. We sometimes go very slow on a dual carriageway to allow members of the procession to catch up if we have lost cars due to roundabouts or traffic lights.
It is exceptionally rude to overtake a hearse while a funeral director is paging in front of the hearse. Sadly this happens more often than people would realise.

Snowdrops17 · 01/10/2024 14:08

@Fluufer No no sorry In rural parts of the country we would pull in but not a dual carriage way

Needmorelego · 01/10/2024 14:08

@LostFuse I've said I was mistaken about that.

biglipslittlehips · 01/10/2024 14:07

stayathomer · 01/10/2024 14:04

Even on a dual carriageway… it just seems impatient and disrespectful, sorry!!

So traffic in both lanes have to hold back for what? 15 miles? 20 miles? Hearses can be transporting people for many miles. You'd be causing a traffic event if you did that. Very irresponsible

Needmorelego · 01/10/2024 14:07

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe you've never been heckled by vehicle drivers as a pedestrian?
Well lucky you 😂
I get beeped at and almost run over about a dozen times a day.
Zebra crossing are invisible apparently and signalling to turn is non existent so I have to use my psychic powers.
I have had drivers literally swerve around me while I am still.on crossings so I would say that crossing the road is definitely time limited in the eyes of many many drivers

Fluufer · 01/10/2024 14:06

Snowdrops17 · 01/10/2024 14:04

Yes here in rural parts of Ireland not only would we not pass but cars will all stop and pull in until the funeral passes it's always kind of touched me that little bit of respect for that persons final journey

You'd stop and pull in on a dual carriageway? Are you trying to drum up business for the funeral directors?

biglipslittlehips · 01/10/2024 14:06

Snowdrops17 · 01/10/2024 14:04

Yes here in rural parts of Ireland not only would we not pass but cars will all stop and pull in until the funeral passes it's always kind of touched me that little bit of respect for that persons final journey

Surely the roads in rural Ireland are not fast dual carriageways that carry thousands of commuters

Snowdrops17 · 01/10/2024 14:04

Yes here in rural parts of Ireland not only would we not pass but cars will all stop and pull in until the funeral passes it's always kind of touched me that little bit of respect for that persons final journey

stayathomer · 01/10/2024 14:04

Even on a dual carriageway… it just seems impatient and disrespectful, sorry!!

LostFuse · 01/10/2024 14:03

Needmorelego · 01/10/2024 13:14

@DavidBeckhamsrightfoot funeral processions are allowed to go through red lights if the hearse went through when the lights were green.
This is providing it's safe of course.
I see a lot of horse drawn hearses where I live and just the other day I saw one where the horses waited patiently at the red light and then on green went and the lead undertaker stood in the junction to signal to other traffic to wait until all the cars had followed through.
It was slower than usual because it was horses and they were doing a sharp turn.
Not one other vehicle beeped or anything which I thought was lovely as it's usually a terrible junction for impatientness.

Contrary to what you might have expected, funeral processions don't enjoy any privileges under the traffic regulations. They're expected to obey all the usual traffic rules. In addition, funeral processions have no special rights of way on roundabouts or at traffic lights

biglipslittlehips · 01/10/2024 14:02

@Nanny0gg

So no need to pass

You may only drive within a 2 mile radius of your hike but most people don't. I wouldn't have the foggiest where all the crematoriums are in the south east let alone the whole country.
If I'm driving down the A3 and there is a hearse in the left lane, you can bet cars are driving past in the other lanes.
No one is going to be crawling along in both lanes behind a hearse for 15 miles ffs