My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

I think it's ghastly but I'd let your mum put the dc in it and take a few photos (for her own use, def not posting on sm).

We were camping in France on the wettest holiday ever for DS' first birthday. He spent it in a filthy waterproof onesie thing.

Not my taste, not yours either. But as others have said, children will challenge your sartorial preferences.

Have you asked your mother why she has gone to the trouble of buying a frilly outfit that she knows you won't like for your daughter? What does she think her granddaughter is missing out on that this dress will provide? If she actually just wants to see her DGD looking frilly and feminine 'for once' would it kill anyone to put the child in the dress, take a photo for posterity, then donate/recycle/bin the bloody outfit?

Unless there is a massive backstory in which your DM is actually (in mumsnet parlance) a 'controlling narc' then I would have thought this is one you can easily ride out, and say, 'for future reference, no more frills or pink please - we like clothes from x retailer in this style.'

Not my taste because of the wording but I would have appreciated the gift from grandma as being something lovely foe my daughter to dress in on her birthday.

Yeah it’s hideous 😂 I’d put the baby in it for one photo and then take it straight off lol

The range of reactions on here (some people love it, some don't) show the varity of people's choice of how to dress a one year old.
a) be glad you have a mother who is alive
b) be glad you have a mother who is prepared to spend money on her grandchild - even if it is something you wouldn't buy

This ^ for me.
Of course she can buy her granddaughter a dress but it’s up to you at this stage if you want DD to wear this dress at all or if you want DD to wear it on her birthday. The problem is that your Mum bought something she knew you wouldn’t like but bought it anyway. FTF???

Jesus wept.
It's a granny buying a frivolous and silly dress for her baby grand daughter.

If that's the worst problem you have faced you have been a lucky person.

Why?

I'm with you OP, I think it's hideous 🤣

My mum is always buying DD frilly pink dresses and such even though I've repeatedly asked her not to. I put her in them to take a photo and then give them to the charity shop 🤷‍♀️

How do you know OP is ‘young’?? Ageist! People of all age can be unpleasant (like you, in your post, and no doubt like me in this post from your perspective). People from a range of generations could have a 1 year old - someone I know has a 1 month old (first child) and has just turned 50. She could also easily be a grandmother like you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lovely dress. Is it not 'serious' enough for you?

Blimey, that's a really ugly outfit !
I wouldn't dress my child in it - if you do, you know that you'll be getting these monstrosities for ever !

My youngest DD had this exact dress with a different name for her birthday. What's wrong with it?

It's not about her.

Take a photo of her wearing it and leave it at that. It's a really hideous dress, I wouldn't put my baby in that, but a photo is enough to try and keep the peace.

Yes, I think people can often get too het up about this sort of thing, but deliberately buying something you know your daughter will hate and then expecting her to dress your granddaughter in it on her first birthday is dickhead behaviour.

Most people want to have nice photos to commemorate their child's first birthday and so obviously will want to dress their child in something they actually think looks nice.

The child doesn't know or care what she is wearing at that age, so if you know the parents will hate it, why but it?

I think it's ok. Not my taste but I would probably use it. What I don't understand is why your mother would buy a dress for her GD to wear on her birthday and not think her parents would have their own ideas! Much better to buy clothes that can be used several times. My DP ask what to buy DC in way of clothes and gifts.

It brings pleasure for the grandparent.

Who the hell puts this much thought into what a child wears on its first birthday?

To be fair to the OP, the fuss was caused entirely by the mother who bought something that she knew the OP would hate. And if there’s ever a time when you might take a photo for posterity or whatever, it’s a first birthday. So I can well
see why she doesn’t want her child wearing something which she (understandably, in my opinion) thinks looks absolutely dreadful.

It's cute!

I honestly sometimes think I live on a different planet. Who the hell puts this much thought into what a child wears on its first birthday? Admittedly I have three sons but I really can't remember putting anything special on them. If a grandparent had bought them something special, then fine. They get through 3 or 4 outfits a day anyway, so what harm! If it's any help, I was festooned in pink as a child and (horror) wore twee matching outfits with my sis. I still ended up a feminist with a high flying job and not a trad wife, so I assume it made minimal impact!

It’s really quite ok and it looks like a separate top and skirt. I don’t think your mum was being anything but nice when she bought it, does it matter if it’s not to your taste, she’s not going to be wearing it day in, day out for the rest of her life?

We seemed to get lots of bear-type costumes / outfits for our boys, and twee little knitted hats and gloves which looked like berries and frogs and whatnot, so I'm with you there!! I did love them all though. When they're old enough to pick their own stuff it's different, but until then I'm going to dress them how I like!

I disagree when it’s something that would potentially impede a child’s movement.

No crawling (or partly crawling) baby should never be put in a skirt. And those uncomfortable bows they put on girl babies’ heads.

It’s not personal taste if it is uncomfortable.

Assuming it's a first baby!

My 2nd is lucky if I can find anything to wrap him in at all some mornings!! The other day we had to do the school run with him dressed in a witches dress / costume from Halloween 😂

Fwiw, I think the dress is gorgeous ❤️