My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

I'd have said it was about all of the child's family celebrating together. So the parents and the child are of course the most important, but surely it's good if everyone can get some enjoyment? Seems a bit tight not to let Granny have a 10 minute photoshoot, if it's something that's special to her.

Is your Mum doing it to be funny or to be nasty/make a point?
I wouldn't put my child in that but everyone has different taste - however, if you think your Mum is actually mocking you then I would be annoyed

It's cute and appropriate for photos for a baby's birthday.

The onesie is cute. Put her in that and the socks with a pair of jeggings in the morning and say she wouldn’t be able to move around in the skirt. Then change her later into the outfit you want her to wear.

Lily is hardly an unusual name, it has consistently been near the top of baby name lists for years now. I really don't think the OP will struggle to sell it on.

My mum gets my kids lots of holiday specific clothes that they’d wear max once. It annoys me. I put it on once or never or send it as backup clothes when she’s babysitting. If I put it on I send her a picture. then I donate because someone else wants it for next year. My toddlers love halloween and want to be skeletons year round, so I am the one buying all the once worn halloween outfits from the thrift.

I agree, it’s horrendous.

It's awful!
Stick it on vinted op.
Say it got list in the post?

I like it!! Why is anyone laughing?

Does she have history of not considering you?

I'd do a little pre birthday photo shoot with pink balloons and send her photos, then put her in what you want on her birthday.

Agree it's ghastly but hey it's a baby outfit, not an interview suit. Unless your mum is known for pinprick ways of undermining you, you're overthinking this.

As pps said, pictures then poo explosion.

Put daughter in it - take a few pics. Share with mum.

Put daughter in another outfit - take a few pics. Don't share with mum.

Seriously what is the point of getting riled over this?!

You think a child's first birthday party is all about her grandmother?

Why?

I agree with you, it certainly isn't to my tastes and looks uncomfortable and impractical. Like for a little dolly. Can't stand those little head bows, they look so uncomfortable and are just unnecessary.

However, I think the dress isn't the problem, is it? It's the fact that she chose an outfit for your kid to wear on a special occasion, knowing you really wouldn't like it and would probably like to choose one yourself for that particular day.

For the people suggesting you're odd for wanting to choose an outfit yourself... I'm curious. Why does the pleasure of Grandma getting to pick out a special occasion outfit (who has presumably had the opportunity to do this with her own children when they were little) override the enjoyment that the parents might get out of doing the very same thing?

I think I'd be diplomatic, put it on for a quick photo then dress her in whatever you've chosen yourself. Blame a poonami as others have suggested.

It’s awful, I get you! She’s your DD, choose an outfit you like.

My in laws and parents buy my DCs loads of clothes I don’t like but they get enjoyment out of doing so and it’s harmless. I’m glad they love their DGC. I usually just put the clothes on for nursery or for going to visit GPs.

I’d just put it on for a picture then change DD into something you’ve chosen. If your mum complaints then, you have a problem.

I would never buy a personalised outfit for DGS’s first, or any birthday/Christmas, because I don’t think it’s a grandparent’s place to do that. It doesn’t matter if you think the parents will like it or not, it’s their baby so they should get to choose what they wear on such a special occasion.

That being said I did buy DGS an outfit from JoJo Maman Bebe that I didn’t think DDIL would like, but I knew DS2 would love it and he’s his baby too. As it turns out DDIL did really like it, so the risk paid off, and DGS looks absolutely adorable in it.

It’s awful & in your position I’d assume she bought it to wind you up (she knew you’d hate it). I wouldn’t think twice about binning it tbh. Wanky behaviour from her.

I can see your point OP, the outfit is dreadful. What was your mother’s intention with this? To deliberately wind you up, or is she desperate to see her GD in a cute outfit and it was nervous laughter as she knew you wouldn’t approve?

If the latter I would be inclined to do a couple of photos then change your DD. She can wear the bodysuit with practical bottoms and the socks without the ridiculous bows. Lose the headband obviously (just why?). In a few months time when she’s taller she may love the tutu for dress up.

It's hideous!

Can't bear ridiculous frilly stuff on babies.

But yes to the photo, and possibly photoshop in a pic of your Mum next to her wearing a t shirt saying 'Granny is 1...nutcase'.

Why not make your mum happy and let the baby wear it, but in future ask your mum about suitable clothes before she buys them. I doubt she will still be buying stuff when the baby is no longer small and cute!

ps wait till you see what your daughter wears when she becomes a rebellious teenager! You will have no say then.

Well the outfit is hideous but more to the point, your mum bought something she knew you and DH would hate…that’s the problem

I get where you’re coming from- it’s not about whether it’s nice or not so the posters saying there’s nothing wrong with it are missing the point IMO. It’s the fact your mum bought your daughter an outfit for a special occasion that she knew you wouldn’t like. And that is quite annoying.

Where did the OP say it was the worst problem she has faced? I must have missed that post...

The dress is vile in my opinion. I don't understand deliberately buying something for a baby the mum doesn't like - after all, who is going to dress the baby? Why would you dress your child in an outfit you think is naff? I'd charity shop it and not give it a second thought, personally.

Definitely not the kind of thing I would choose and yanbu to say to your mum "sorry mum it's just not my taste and I would like to be able to choose my daughter's birthday outfit myself".

She has had her time to dress her children the way she wants to, now it's yours.