My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

It's pretty hideous. I would struggle with that.

What a fuss about nothing! I do hope that when Lily grows up she will be kinder to the op than she is being to her mum!

I think the dress is horrible, but you are really over reacting and being unreasonable. There were occasions when my mum and mother in law bought things for my daughter which I loathed, but I gritted my teeth, said they were lovely, and made sure that they saw her either wearing or using what they had given her.

“whether a parent likes an outfit (or not) is just as irrelevant as whether a poster on here likes it.”

Right ok so your opinion on what your baby wears is of the same importance as the opinion of a random person on an internet forum?! Ok then.

It’s the same rule for all clothes you don’t like for your child: Thanks, photo, send then choose from unfortunate accident / too special so have put it away / be sure your dc is wearing it the next few times they see them so they’re satisfied.

Let's be honest - she's one - she's likely going to go through multiple outfits anyway so why can't this just be one of them? Put her in it, feed her something and it'll inevitably need changing anyway.

I wasn't implying babies had an opinion

I was saying that whether a parent likes an outfit (or not) is just as irrelevant as whether a poster on here likes it. OP doesn't even take her baby out in public - just put the baby in it, take a photo or two, send a nice thank you message to grandma and donate it to charity. Job done.

I'm not sure why there's so much angst over it.

it's her first birthday. seems very presumptuous to assume they get to choose what she wears. this is a big milestone for you as parents, and surely they'd know you'd want to dress her for the occasion in something of your own choice.

Oh just humour her - you might find it irritating but she would be so happy to see your dd in it. It’s a thousand times better than the horrendous frilly dresses my Mil bought for my dd. It makes them happy and it’s their money …

Oh come on, babies have no opinion on clothes so it’s about the parents’ choice until the child actually starts to like or dislike things themselves.

It's cute but not practical. Put it on her and take some pics to send to your DM. Then do what you want with it.

On this occasion I'd say just indulge your Mum. Pick your battles!

my mum bought my DD loads of things I didn’t like but you know what, it gave my mum loads of pleasure dressing her up. She grew out of the clothes pretty quick and I have immensely fond memories of that time with all of us bonding over the kids.

I actually think the dress is cute but even if I didn’t I’d still put her in it, take some photos and make my mum happy.

That dress has no redeeming features whatever. Dress her in it at the crack of dawn on her birthday, and take a photo. Then give her breakfast. Weetabix would be ideal, and make sure you let her smear it everywhere feed herself. Then give her a drink of Ribena. You might need to help her with spilling it.

Job done.

So what?

I think some boomers just have an addiction to buying stuff for the sake of stuff, that they really need to work through., So buying unnecessary stuff is a “boomer” problem is it? Why couldn’t you have just said “I think some people just have an addiction to buying stuff for the sake of stuff, that they really need to work through.”?

I'm disappointed.

The description had me assuming this would be Julia Roberts' dress from Pretty Woman or maybe a N*zi uniform.

Not this ugly but fairly inoffensive thing.

But it's also not really relevant that OP doesn't like it. It's not a gift for her.

Not sure if I've missed anything but is the assumption from your mother that your dd is to wear this on the day of her birthday? If so, it's not really her decision what your child wears on her birthday as presumably you already have something in mind? I'd either put it on her in the morning for a photo and change it, or not put her in it at all - no one can decide what someone else's child wears on their birthday!

Also agree with you on the fact that it's not a nice dress, looks quite cheap and tacky to me but I appreciate some people like frilly things on girls!

Point is, the op DOESN’T think it’s cute and her mum knew she wouldn’t like it but bought it anyway.
So people replying saying they like it is irrelevant.

I think it's very cute. Love the frothy pink froufrou.

I hate that dress but I would accept it, dress your daughter in it for 5 minutes, take a photo then change her back into something more comfortable. Not worth falling out over, imo.

What's the fun in embarrassing a teenager over an outfit they had no say in wearing?

In fact, what's the fun in embarrassing anyone deliberately let alone your own child...

First thing on DD’s birthday, pop her into dress & take luvverly photo for your mum & send it to before breakfast*. That is it.

Remove dress from child & dress her as you wish.

If you care to, remove froufrou skirt to gain useful T-shirt for DD to run about in & in due course assign reuse as a duster. Otherwise, consider putting dress to bin or bonfire.

Next step, ask your DM for gift certificate for DD outfit at your preferred store for Christmas & future birthdays.

*if so inclined give DM a small framed print of DD in her frock as a gift.

It's junk from Shein, made in a sweatshop by an indentured child labourer only a few years older than OP's daughter. That's the only way they can ship it all the way from China and still sell it for £8.49.