My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

I agree, OP it is truly hideous. Really very much so.

But I’d do as suggested - put her in the dress, take photo, send to mum, take her out of dress / have nappy disaster whilst wearing it if needs be.

But is is both hideous and impractical.

Firstly she has a bloody cheek asking you to collect it

and yes

it is tacky !!!

Is your mother always so controlling ?

Believe me it’s not worth getting worked up over a bloody dress. As others have said, put her in it for a photo or when your mum comes round and that’s that. When my kids were that age they changed as least 3 times a day, you can easily sabotage it.

Personalised clothes are so wasteful, anything like that I assume will go straight to landfill - not likely it can be passed on, is it?

There’s already so much waste, why add to it with something so hideous?

Are you having some sort of party for her first birthday, and your mum has bought it for that? If so, I think it is a bit rude to deliberately buy something you think a one year old's parent will dislike for a birthday party. They're the only ones who will care, it's not like the child will care, so you've purely done it to irritate. It's not the same as an older child with their own preferences.

My MIL did this for our daughter - she wore it once to visit then it disappeared. The dress itself was OK but it had a huge scratchy fake lace collar that irritated my baby's face and kept blowing upwards everytime she moved!

Massive overreaction.
Dress DD in it, take a photo and take her out of it again. I've done this on more than one occasion for a bought or second hand given outfit.
Your DD wont care either way

I like the outfit and chose something similar on purpose for the DD for her first birthday but everyone has their own tastes

It is absolutely hideous. The skirt is OTT and impractical for a baby. As for the headband....urgh. The fact that she bought it knowing you wouldn't like it is worrying. I would put it straight in the clothes recycling bin and, if she asks, would tell her that she was right, I hated it.

It's pretty. Not my taste - when my daughter was one I dressed her in dark colours, tartans, blue velvet, for example. But there is nothing wrong with the dress. Say thanks, mum, and dress DD in it. For goodness sake!

i’ll wager that you and your mother aren’t close

a close relationship? if my mum made a joke about buying something she knew that i wouldn’t love but she did… then i was absolutely dress my daughter in it. I control what my daughter wear 99.999999%nod the time, so if it was important to my mum… i’d be cool with it

but i am guessing your mum isn’t otherwise great
and you and her have a somewhat fraught history

Spoilt for having tastes and an opinion? Jeez.

There's nothing wrong with it. The skirt is even detachable so you can put it on for a picture and then take it off so she can crawl around in the body. Why are you so resistant to your little girl being allowed to wear a dress?

Do a cake smash at home and take a couple of pictures of her in it to send to your Mum. Put her in what you like for her actual birthday.

It sounds like your Mum is having a bit of a laugh.

I think it's horrible and completely impractical for a baby. I can't see how all that netting can be very comfortable or easy for a baby to move around in.
If it was just a colour or pattern you didn't like I'd say grin and bear it as babies get though a lot of clothes and don't don't care what they wear . But that just looks as though she is being used as a dressing up doll.
OP can you ask for the receipt?

If you don’t like it DD doesn’t have to wear it. I’d maybe put her in it for a pic to send to your mum be polite but that’s it. If your mum expects her to wear it all day or for a party or something I’d just tell her I bought her a dress that I liked and she shouldn’t be surprised considering she was actually laughing about how your not going to like the dress she bought.

This kind of thing does my head in because it's exactly the kind of thing my own mother does. And it's completely disrespectful. Of course lots of people will say put her in it to pacify your mum or that you're being ungrateful or whatever but that's missing the point entirely. Having your opinions and wishes just dismissed is incredibly frustrating especially when it's turned back on you. Mine continously buys clothes for my children which I would never buy them and I feel obliged to use them and then their drawers and wardrobes are rammed full of things I would never pick for them. This is despite telling her to stop buying them clothes. And she will ask over and over if they've worn them or expects to see them wearing them. Just yesterday she said she saw a "lovely" outfit for the baby I'm currently pregnant with. I said I don't like it. She said she was buying it anyway. So that's another ugly outfit to add to the collection. She also went in a huff because she bought a "lovely" dress for our little girl and thought she should wear it to a birthday party we went to. I dressed her in something else. Heaven forbid I make decisions about my own children. I even said they have too much so could she not buy anything else and SHE told ME that I should stop buying them clothes then! Anyway I've rambled on enough. Can you tell it's a sore point and I'm a raging 8 month pregnant hormonal woman 😂

You don't need to explain why you don't like it. It's your baby. You get to dress YOUR baby how you like.

You can thank DM for dress. And you still don't have to put your DD in it.

End of.

I think it's quite cute for just one day. If your relationship with your mum is usually good I'd just let her wear it for a few hours and some cute photos and let it go. If you think it's a symptom of a deeper problem the you need to have a proper conversation about everything.

I love it.

I'd be slightly miffed if my mum chose something she knew I wouldn't like though.

If you don't want her to wear it I'd put her in it. Take a photo, send the pic to your mum on her birthday and then dress her in whatever you want.

Exactly. It’s godawful, but useful potential blackmail purposes, and it’s a baby outfit, not a baby face tattoo.

It's not like she is asking YOU to wear it.
You sound spoilt.

@Chaseandstatus yes, (waits for the reveal when the child is not called Lily. That would be a real twist!)

I think it's quite sweet. Won't kill the baby to wear it for a day. Doesn't have to be on her birthday

Yes, she will.

It's the kind of outfit you put your child in for some photos for her birthday and then move on.

No need to be annoyed, really.