My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

It's the child's 1st birthday dress, and the grandmother has decided that she would be the one to choose/decide what the child will wear on her 1st birthday

not the mother, not the person that carried her for 9 months then gave birth to her

it's the little girl's FIRST birthday, never again will that happen, she will never be One again

the little girl will have other ' special ' birthdays in her life i.e. 18 30 60 etc
and maybe even parties for 13 and 16 :)

but this is her FIRST special birthday, it's her FIRST birthday !!!

and thinking about it, I can remember exactly what my husband and I chose for our dd to wear on her FIRST birthday.

It's fucking hideous😱

As a child dressed in unisex navy blue, bottle green, brown and orange in the late 1970s I went bloody mad for pink, glitter and frills and furbelows all throughout the 1980s until I was into adolescence. My absolute fear was that someone would think I was a boy when my mum put me in trousers or shorts. How I loved being a girl. While doing lots of things that were thought to be for boys at the time. like playing with cars, or trains, tearing about on my bike or playing football and cricket.

And I still wear pink and sequins when I can get away with it. And FWIW I am a senior director in the construction industry. Still doing "boy's" things in a imaginary tutu.

It doesn't make you giggly and insipid, you know, wearing pink.

For Gods sake, how do grown women think like this? . ‘overriding your wishes’ indeed 🙄. It’s a dress for a baby! It’s not like her mum has paid fees for eleven years of boarding school and is now demanding OP sends her daughter there!

Massive over-reaction OP. It’s just a dress. Your Mum loves your daughter and just wanted to give her a gift of a dress that your mum loves. It’s nice. It’s shows love and a desire to bond and be part of the extended family that will love and support your little girl as she grows up.

I was expecting something much worse, its fine. Just pop her in it for an hour and get your mum some nice photos. It's not going to be too troubling for you I'm sure!

It's bloody awful; and I speak as a grandmother..

No way would I put that on my child.

I don't really understand why your mother bought it though, especially given that she knew you probably wouldn't like it. It all seems a bit pointless tbh, unless she was trying to make some sort of point.

Hideous, outfits like that make me grateful all mine are boys!

But guess it depends what your relationship is like with your mother normally, if she's a good mother and grandma I'd put it on briefly for photos (minus the headband which give me a headache just looking at them on little babies) and have a pair of comfy joggers/leggings to change her into with the body suit so she can move freely.

Yes, this.

Who exactly is this present for?
It's not for your daughter, who doesn't know/care what she's wearing.
It's not for your daughter's parents - in fact it's deliberately designed to annoy you.
It's for YOUR MUM. It's the gift of dominance and territory-marking.

I bought my niece a really sweet dress when she was one or two. Nothing ott, a plain white top with a tartan skirt. I never saw her in it even just for a photo. I was quite hurt really. It’s good manners to at least have a photo of her in it for your mum.

I love it and would use it for my daughter if I had one... but the bigger problem is your mum seemingly taking pleasure in buying something she knows you won't like.

For that reason alone I wouldn't put it on DD. It's weird and immature of your mum and this may not be a bad time to set some boundaries before DD gets older and your mum begins undermining you.

I wouldn't think twice about this.

I wouldn't expect my DD's grandparents to ask for my approval before buying her clothes. If they got anything I didn't like then oh well, quick wear, picture or two, get on with life.

This. People aren’t ’missing it’, they just don’t think that buying a baby a tacky tutu you know its parents will think is revolting is some kind of capital crime. It’s more a ‘here’s a photo of Baby X eating yoghurt in your horrid frock, Mum, and not giving it another thought’ scenario.

I personally think it's far odder that someone would ostensibly buy someone a gift, knowing full well they will hate it, but hey, maybe I'm the odd one for thinking you're supposed to get gifts that people will actually like ...

I like the dress, but hate the attitude behind OP’s mother buying it. No reason OP can’t fake a dress-ruining “accident,” though 😉

I agree it’s hideous but just put her in it, take a photo and then accidentally tip something on it.

Are you always so unkind about people who have different tastes?

Yes, and the mother KNEW she didn’t like it, which is the point many people are missing

No, people aren't missing it, they just don't see the problem.

Grandparents should be allowed to buy their grandchildren outfits without getting approval from the parents 🙈

Anything bought for a tiny child is a bloody waste when you think of it like that, they only wear things for five minutes then grow out of them.

Yet we do buy things for them and grandparents like to do so too.

Life isn't about basic needs only. How joyless it would be.

Nothing wrong with it except OP has said she doesn't like it. (FWIW I think it's hideous too, although I accept my opinion is also irrelevant).

I agree. It's beyond dire. Looks ridiculous. None the less I would just let her wear it. She won't remember but your Mum will if you don't.

You could go for the approach that you don't believe she has actually bought it.

'Ha, ha mum, you had me there for a moment. It is totally hideous isn't it? Maybe I should get you one of these for your birthday <insert picture of hideous t-shirt with Margot is 63> 🤣🤣.'

I think more worrying is the number of posters on this thread who actually like the dress. Specsavers do free eye tests, or if you've recently had a blow to the head maybe a concussion assessment is in order.

What an odd attitude.

I think its very pretty what's wrong with it no one will laugh at your child in ut she will look cute