My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

Take a look at the trending chats on mumsnet today and realise how petty this is.

I don't think the outfit would make me laugh if I saw a baby wearing it - it's quite cute.

Essentially it's a vest with a skirt and other bits. She can wear for a minute and then you can sell/give skirt to charity or someone else.

Had you picked out something else for your dd to wear? What is your taste?

It is grim. But put it on her, take one photo then donate to a charity shop for another Lily.

I don't know about dramatic. I would be furious in that situation, and I believe that at times, gift-giving can be aggressive. Which is especially upsetting on a child's first birthday.

Yes, it is a waste to buy something that will only be worn once.

OP can donate it to charity or sell it once it's been worn, it doesn't have to be destined for landfill as soon as the birthday is over!

I'm not usually one for over the top princessy stuff but I think it's cute and you're massively overreacting. Take a few pictures of her in it and then put her in your preferred outfit.

We've done exactly that with a few things we were given that weren't to our taste.

Or you could go a step further and do a tacky cake smash photo shoot in it. Outfit is ruined. Grandma gets Instagram style pictures. Win win.

That outfit is hideous and should be thrown on a bonfire.

It's the most hideous thing I have seen, but I would still say put her in it, take some photos and then put her in something you like. And yes, save it for when she is older, to see what her reaction is!

Have you a family party planned and she's expecting your DD to wear it at? If so, I'd hand it back and say you already have an age appropriate outfit for her.

Or, dress her in it first thing, take some pics and give her chocolate spread on toast for breakfast and introduce her to her birthday sandpit/playdoh/finger paints. Job done.

Yes, it is a waste to buy something that will only be worn once.

People need to think about the precious resources that are wasted producing tat like that.

She could have given the money to a charity if she has too much money.

Sorry, didn't mean to quote the OP, but i can't delete it.

I think that people tend to ride the mountains, then 'crash' at the molehills.

If OP and her mother had a 'healthy' relationship, the mother wouldn't have bought it, but would have compromised.

I'd feel the same. I hate tacky nonsense like this.

‘Furious’? ‘Act of aggression’? Are you always so dramatic?

I can see that it might not be to everyone's taste but I think it's adorable and would make a nice keepsake for your DD, especially as DGM bought it.

If most adults look back at their baby or toddler pictures, there are outfits that no doubt were considered very stylish then but look quite funny to modern eyes. That's half the fun with these OTT "special occasion" outfits. A bit of gentle humour instead of taking it so very seriously.

The dress is very "of the moment" with the ruffles, the twirly writing and the bows. I like the fact the age is on it. Some of my fondest photos are of outfits with "I am three" on or suchlike.

If you can't stand it, I'd at least put her in it and take a few pics. Perhaps if some of us are DGMs ourselves in the future, we might like to occasionally see our DGC in some clothes that we love too...

That’s minging. Don’t blame you OP. My mum is like this buying shit for my baby and I just refuse now. I’ve told her so many times, don’t buy stuff because we don’t have the same taste. So when she turns up with “I saw this…” I just say no, it’s horrible mum, hope you kept the receipt.

And you think OP’s mum is the bitch? 😉

It’s not my cup of tea, but if it makes your mum happy, put her in it for five minutes, take some photos for your mum, then change her into what you’d like her to wear and drop the outfit off at the charity shop. If your mum asks why she’s not wearing it all day, then either tell her the truth; you think she looks ridiculous and you couldn’t look at her without laughing, or tell her you gave birth to her, so you get to choose what she wears on big occasions.

I think this too. Unless there are other major issues in the background I would think this was just a bit of banter and probably not worth the hassle of a fall out or upset. I hope you all enjoy celebrating little one's first birthday and it's remembered for being a lovely day and not the start of a family disagreement.

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My lovely in laws basically clothed DS as MIL loved buying clothes so much.

I was very grateful to her- She soon learned what I/DS liked as a style- had MIL her way, she'd have dressed him like Prince George.

it's a farkin dress - stick her in it, and take a picture of her eating a massive chocolate cake in it.
And your Mum likes it. Not exactly skin off your back to do something to please your Mum (unless she has form for being a total cow and riding roughshod over your wishes).

Remember .... one day you'll want her to look after your kid for a weekend when you want to go away.

My mum passed away years ago. I would have let her dress my DD in old men's y fronts if it meant still having her here

Honestly, I would be furious. Your mum surely knows that you will want to put your DD in something that you think is nice for her first birthday and this present looks remarkably like an act of aggression!!!! I'd be inclined to say Ha ha, very funny Mum, you know we hate this kind of thing. Can you take it back to the shop because Lily will not be wearing it? That might stop her doing it again.

Don't forget to 'go NC', OP. That's the important thing. Wait until your daughter starts disrespecting your parental 'rights' and asserting her own.

I honestly can't believe the fuss made over a damn dress. It's such an insignificant thing and it's a dress. Not something that has permanence or any sort of importance. But go ahead and make a real drama out of it.

@Cheeseandcrackers40 to be honest if I was the granny I'd be fine with that.
Life should be a bit of fun sometimes.

Absolutely. The dress is hideous but that’s not the real issue. The underlying point is the OP’s DM is deliberately disrespecting her buying a dress she knows she hates and finding it funny.

I think it's adorable, and us grandma's do like to buy things we think will look gorgeous on our grandchildren

Stick it on first thing in the morning, take a few photos and then give her a nice sloppy breakfast