My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

I can see why you hate it, I would too! And I think your mum has overstepped by buying your daughter a first birthday outfit, especially knowing it's one you won't like. You're her mum, you get the fun of buying birthday outfits etc.

I would dress her in it for a photo to send your mum then choose something you like for her to actually wear.

Zombie thread, I think Lily has had her birthday, has probably also had to wear some awful Christmas outfit her dear granny bought. Water under the bridge. These things pass.

If she's insisting on the same dress when it's "Lily is 15", you've got grounds for complaint...

Feel your pain it is ghastly and oh so twe
BUT I’d take a photo of lily in it send to Gran
then off to charity shop it goes

it’s hideous but the thought is kind so don’t be mean say you love it and move on

Yes, you do 🤣 or like it at least.
That outfit is absolutely HIDEOUS 🤣🤣

@Cariadm you’re right, it’s a matter of opinion. Your opinion is it’s a tacky dress, my opinion is it’s cute. OP doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. It wouldn’t hurt to take one picture of baby in the dress then never wear it again. Also she can just say no thanks

It’s not my taste, but it’s not awful either.

The main point is she’s bought something she knows you won’t like, for DD to wear on a significant occasion. If it wasn’t for a special occasion, or even a non milestone birthday at a push, it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but this is so disrespectful IMO.

This! I am shocked how many people think you should allow your Mum to have her way. It isn’t funny - it is controlling and if you go along with it this will continue to happen as your daughter grows up when whatever your mum wants instead of you may be more important than a shocking frilly dress and headband.

I don't hate it but I don't see why she thinks she's deciding what your daughter wears for her party. I'd put the outfit on her on a different day, but I always picked my children's outfits for big days until they were old enough to pick for themselves, and I wouldn't let someone else tell me they had to wear something that they picked that wasn't to my taste.

That wouldn't reassure me at all and 5 minutes would be too long! 😱
Whether it's 'cute' or not is subjective and the OP has the right to refuse to put her baby in the dress and the mother has to understand and accept this.
The fact that she knows the parents will hate it makes it far worse, I could never knowingly buy anything as a present that I knew the recipient would hate, that's just selfish...🙄

Sorry but that's very much a matter of opinion?! Personally I think it's tacky and not suitable for a young baby and if the OP thinks the same it's unreasonable and selfish of her Mum to expect her to put her baby in it...🙄

In what universe?! 🙄

I'd ask if you were blind but that is obviously not the case!!!🤔
All I will say is what Kenny Everett might have said... 'It's all done in the best possible taste' 🙄

I can see why you don't like it! It's ghastly, and impractical. Can your rather silly but one hopes well-meaning mum get a refund on it and then can you choose clothes together, hopefully that you both like? (or at least don't object to).

Oh, stop it. People are allowed to find things annoying about their mums or MIL’s despite others who may have worse circumstances.

I’ve never had a mum and mil is a narcissist. But go ahead and get upset that your mum bought your daughter a dress 🙄

The issue isn't about the dress itself but your mum insisting she buys something for your daughter to wear on a special day knowing you won't like. I get it. I've had similar. But who cares really? They're wasting their money not yours.

Just put her in the dress and take a picture to share but change her for the birthday day itself in what you choose as she's your daughter.

It’s not my taste either, but I wouldn’t say it’s hideous, it’s not that bad.

Like the other posts, just take some photos next to a birthday cake, say thank you, then change her if you want to. I wouldn’t say it’s a big deal, Nan probably loved it and had a quiet chuckle to herself wondering if you’d like it.

My parents and my in-laws often bought outfits I disliked and would never had chosen. But we either dressed and took photos to send or dressed them in them when they were seeing those people. I couldn’t lose much sleep over it to be honest.

Mine was happiest in jeans and a t-shirt even at that age. A previous generation would've said that dress is very lower class 😂. It's not my taste either. But cute photos then your choice is the best way around it.

Your dm loves your dd so much that she has bought her a dress to celebrate her first birthday.

She's worried it's not to your taste, and is at least acknowledging that, but got so excited she bought it anyway.

It's not that deep. She obviously loves it. I'd just accept gratefully, wear it once for a picture, then pass it on to charity where some delighted recipient might think it's the best thing ever.

Or not.

I get that it's wasteful but in life you pick your battles. No point losing a supportive relative over a tasteless present.

It’s so cute!
It might not be your taste, but when my dc were one, they often algae a change of clothes so your dd wouldn’t need to wear it all day.

Hi op,

It is tough to put boundaries down.

« ah, thank you but I actually have an outfit »
« Ah, thank you but dh picked up one he likes more »
But, don’t worry I will put it on and take some pics for you!

Remember, if you want some kind of babysitting, childminding, you are going to have to ket her decide a few things. A dress is not much so compromise :)

It is new for both of you. Give it time, and boundaries!!! Until you can say « No but thank you », and it is respected.

Good luck 🌺

and remember Christmas comes before her next birthday...

what hideous outfits can she buy for that ?!!!!

It really is ghastly. Its like she’s deliberately chosen the most hideous tacky garment she could find to test how far she could push the OP.

Id have to say ‘sorry but she’s not wearing something I hate’ and leave it there. Otherwise those buttons will keep being pressed and next years outfit will be even worse - if that’s actually possible