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SafetyPins · 01/10/2024 10:00

How would you respond ?

  1. Make yourself a brew
  2. Make something stronger
  3. Be glad that you came away from it with 3 CSEs

a bit lightheaded perhaps, but my recent experience

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LostTheMarble · 01/10/2024 22:02

I went to a very backwaters Welsh school that at the time didn’t recognise a child who was both evidently undiagnosed ND and who had a pretty shit home life. Had several teachers scream in my face, another child was physically hurt by a teacher and never fired for it (despite ending up being a police/public matter) - this was early ‘00.

Id bloody hope they’ve changed by now, but knowing the area I’d not hold my breath. I’d never send my (diagnosed ND) children to school in that area.

usernother · 01/10/2024 21:57

My school wasn't good. The murder was just one of the reasons why. I'd agree if it was ripped to shreds.

iwfja · 01/10/2024 21:54

Why would you care after so many years?
It's not the same school as it was then. It has the same name and that's it. The buildings might be the same but not necessarily and any original buildings will have been adapted.
None of the staff will be the same after that length of time.

My school merged with another one and definitely doesn't have the same reputation as it did 30 years ago.
Similarly a school that was shit 30 years ago could be fantastic now.

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 01/10/2024 14:12

I couldn't give two shits about the school I went to.

The school my kids go to - it's in a shitty area and suffered a lot through Covid, but my boys have always liked it and the teachers (from what I can see) work hard and are genuinely supportive so I would defend them.

bluebluetoon · 01/10/2024 14:09

Would not bother me. Schools change! When I went to my high school it was the beta in the town, people moved to get into it. A few years after the head teacher retired, the school went downhill and for several years it was considered bad. It had a terrible Ofsted inspection.

Now ten years on people are fighting to get their kids in again. These things often go on cycles

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/10/2024 14:05

I wouldn't give a shit.

jay55 · 01/10/2024 14:04

My school was shit, it would likely be me testing it to shreds.

Cheesecakecookie · 01/10/2024 14:03

Well I know my school was crap so I’d probably agree with them.

Disasterclass · 01/10/2024 13:59

I also went to school pre ofsted. It was one of those schools that wasn't actually that rough by the standards of some, but had very low aspirations. I think that was very common then - working class kids not expected to do well. When Ofsted came in it was in special measures. I actually think of it quite fondly

HeliotropePJs · 01/10/2024 13:59

If you've made it to adulthood and are educated enough to support yourself, I wouldn't really worry about what anyone thinks of the school. If anything, surviving a 'bad' school and making a decent life for yourself anyway is something to be proud of.

AspirationalTallskinnylatte · 01/10/2024 13:34

I'd be very amused that anyone had heard of it. It was pretty rough and quite small. I'd want a chat about the various teachers, what they were like, a lot of them were alcoholic, some nice, some terrifying, I had some favourites. Most are dead now.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/10/2024 13:29

I couldn't care less.

I'd be more concerned if the school my child was currently at or was due to go to got torn to shreds.

DreamW3aver · 01/10/2024 13:28

Unless you as a pupil were responsible for the school why would you be bothered? Ive never seen my old school mentioned on here but if I did I wouldn't think it was anything to do with me, of course I'd read the thread out of interest but not sure why I need a cup of tea or G & T to do it 😀

BrimfulofSasha · 01/10/2024 13:25

The school I went to was awful, drugs, pregnancies (one lad in my year got his younger cousin pregnant) knives, fights, fires. Came away with 14 GCSEs.
school was bulldozed a couple of years ago. Where you went to school isn’t a reflection on what you make of yourself.

Maray1967 · 01/10/2024 13:21

In answer to the question, mine lost its 6th form when Sheffield went tertiary so when management were suggesting academic staff could develop links with their old 6th forms, I was able to duck out!

Mine has struggled for a good few years now - not terrible, but not great either, which is sad, as it did a good job in the 80s.

Maray1967 · 01/10/2024 13:18

SafetyPins · 01/10/2024 10:01

Hope I’m not giving away my approx age … lol

Well I know you’re at least in your 50s!! My brother was in the last cohort of O levels/CSEs, and my cousin was in the first cohort of GCSEs, that’s how I know.

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/10/2024 13:09

SafetyPins · 01/10/2024 12:06

Ah thank you

A CSE 1 was the equivalent to an O level C. Definitely not a 5 lol. A 5 was the lowest grade.

In answer to your question, there were 2 dire schools in my town at opposing sides of the town. Mine survived. The other was demolished. Would I care if mine had been demo’d? No. I don’t live in the town. But no way would my dd have gone there. Over my dead body.

It has improved. No Ofsted in those days. But it has a ‘requires improvement’ grade. Never got more than that. It would have been in special measures in the 1980s had ofsted existed… except there were no special measures in those days. It was just put up and shut up.

I remember we striking a couple of times over the YTS scheme. Some leaflets were passed around and it was a general student strike. Happy days.

pizzaHeart · 01/10/2024 12:41

SafetyPins · 01/10/2024 11:07

No my DP went there not me actually but he’s not quite the MN demographic!

I guess it’s at least 4 years since he left school so I wouldn’t bother even for a minute.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 01/10/2024 12:21

My school was atrocious, luckily it is not there anymore. One of the best days of my life was walking out those gates knowing I'd never have to go back.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 01/10/2024 12:16

I wouldn't give a flying fuck.

I hated it there. Where I went doesn't define who I am.

I would probably join in and write a lengthy post sticking the richly deserved boot in.

ConiferBat · 01/10/2024 12:13

Since leaving in 1996 my old school has burned down, been rebuilt, had nearly 30 years worth of pupils, teachers & support staff cycle through, seen government changes, curriculum changes, cultural changes and everything in between.

It's an entirely different place than I attended for better or worse, & has no bearing on who I am or anything I've done since.

So TLDR: wouldn't affect me other than 'oooh I went there'

SafetyPins · 01/10/2024 12:06

Seeline · 01/10/2024 12:02

in all seriousness - it’s not me it’s my partner as I was cough too young to do CSEs/O levels so haven’t idea if 3 CSEs is any good as I did GCSEs

I definitely did O levels 😁
CSEs were graded 1-5, with a 5 seen as equivalent to a C at O level. O levels were graded E - A, with C and above being a pass.

Ah thank you

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MissyB1 · 01/10/2024 12:03

Well my school was rubbish, but I left in 1984 so 40 years ago!! I hope it's better now.

I have heard my ds school criticised on here though, some of it fair, some not.

1984 does NOT seem like 40 years ago ..

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MissyB1 · 01/10/2024 12:03

Well my school was rubbish, but I left in 1984 so 40 years ago!! I hope it's better now.

I have heard my ds school criticised on here though, some of it fair, some not.

Seeline · 01/10/2024 12:02

in all seriousness - it’s not me it’s my partner as I was cough too young to do CSEs/O levels so haven’t idea if 3 CSEs is any good as I did GCSEs

I definitely did O levels 😁
CSEs were graded 1-5, with a 5 seen as equivalent to a C at O level. O levels were graded E - A, with C and above being a pass.