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His parents don't know about us

57 replies

havanar · 30/09/2024 21:26

DP got back together after 6 months apart following an explosive break up (we both acknowledge and agree he was the perpetrator, he is remorseful). His parents were, I feel, over involved in the break up.

He lives with his parents, and lies to them about where he is going when he comes to see me. He also doesn't want me to tell my family (even though I want to) about us, in case it gets back to his as we live in the same town.

We were going to go away and stay in a family friend's apartment in December, he wants me to lie about who I'm going with.

He said that he thinks we should tell me around March time, when we're more "settled".

It's really pissing me off. AIBU???

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Beamur · 30/09/2024 21:31

None of this bodes well.

havanar · 30/09/2024 21:30

Beamur · 30/09/2024 21:30

YANBU
Why the secrecy?.

Because his parents won't like the fact we're together.

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Beamur · 30/09/2024 21:30

YANBU
Why the secrecy?.

Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 30/09/2024 21:29

Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it.
How can he be your DP if he is behaving like this.
Are there cultural/ religious differences to stop his parents knowing?
He is being very childish.

BirthdayRainbow · 30/09/2024 21:29

I couldn't be doing with this. He caused you to break up. Somehow he got you back but he's too ashamed to tell anyone. Lovely.

havanar · 30/09/2024 21:28

fashionqueen0123 · 30/09/2024 21:27

Why would you even consider this. How were they involved if they don’t know you?
Are you both 12?!

They do know me.

They just don't know we're back together.

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fashionqueen0123 · 30/09/2024 21:27

Why would you even consider this. How were they involved if they don’t know you?
Are you both 12?!