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Child free people-Why do *Some people who are parents get annoyed at them?

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Theycantallbecomspiracytheories · 30/09/2024 21:17

I notice it quite a lot and recently saw it in a video Seth Rogen (?) forgot his name did where he talked about him and his wife/partner being happy to never have kids. So many in the comments were pissed off with him.
I have a young Dd after years of trying, but also as much as I love kids, I was always quite unsure about having kids as Dh and I had a fantastic life living abroad-lots of travel, time to relax, no real responsibilities-yes a job and mortgage but 🤷🏻‍♀️ money to ourselves, much less stressful & tiring, it was amazing! I can see why people want to keep it like that. I adore my Dd and life is great now, in a different way, but I can totally see how some would choose a child free life. Why do some parents get annoyed with these people and seem to sort of take it personally that they don’t want the same life?

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XenoBitch · 30/09/2024 21:32

Misery loves company. They are jealous that childfree people are not having to deal with the tough bits of parenthood.

mnahmnah · 30/09/2024 21:28

Parenting is tough so I can imagine there is an element of subconscious jealousy. Or they take it as smugness on the child free person’s part.

minou123 · 30/09/2024 21:28

As a child-free woman, I suppose that's a question for some of the parents that get annoyed with child-free women.

I say women, because in my humble opinion, women who don't have children get judged/criticised a lot more than child-free men.
(Caveat - before anyine jumps on this, I am sure there are some men who get criticised. I'm just talking generally).

From my own experience, I think some parents are completely confused to why I don't want children.
To them, having children is their main purpose in life and they dont understand why I choose another way to live.

Either way, its bloody annoying to be questioned to why I don't want to have children.

LunaLibrarian · 30/09/2024 21:22

I haven’t seen this particular video, but some people are simply unreasonable.

With parents in particular, I believe that parenting requires so much that people sometimes feel the need to justify their lives in convoluted ways. It’s really hard so they need to believe that it’s worth it and that can spill out into how they treat others.

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