DH called me a pathetic b****

What am I excusing exactly?

Your husband is bang out of order. He has absolutely no right to speak to you like that! However, I'm at a loss as to why you would tell your young son you threw them out. Regardless of whether this is a storm in a 'cupcake' or not. You did the wrong thing there! The cupcakes were a kind gesture. If I were you, I would apologise to you neighbour. Tell them you had forgotten to fridge them and they were spoiled. Either that or you dropped them whilst putting them in the fridge/ tin. Whatever. Either they will accept your apology or they won't! Just be careful what you say in front of your DS in future.

yes so you’ve tried to make up an excuse for the OP 🤦‍♀️ jesus.

No, I meant she may have told the son they weren’t very nice if he asked for one and she had to tell him she threw them away. It would be her excusing herself for throwing them away without checking.

It is speculation yes but I’m not the only one on here doing that tbf.

@Piouspenny sounds like you have a history of nasty behaviour. You've taught your son not to appreciate kind gestures. Your husband was out of order with his language but maybe this was his and your neighbours final straw moment.

Girl you use the phrase “excuse” and make up a random scenario that we know isn’t true because the OP has told the thread multiple times that the cupcakes were vile. You really must try harder.

I haven’t made any excuses for her. How is what I wrote in that post you quoted an excuse?

she also called her husband a name first so why is she allowed to do that by your rules?

Sorry I was being facetious tbh.

I agree with him that you should have told a whole lie - I can’t imagine being with someone who wouldn’t think the same. It’s called having empathy for others. Also a lot of people who say they are “just being honest” are actually horrible.

He shouldn’t have called you a bitch - but you called him “wet” which is also horrible. Sounds like he’s had enough of you and snapped

your poor son by the way losing a friend because of you

What about ? What about ? What about? How many excuses are you going to make for the OP? She was rude. Full stop.

You’re totally allowed, but there’s more people at home… maybe they want to try them and make an opinion for themselves? Just sayin. You’re not a pathetic b—- by any means maybe a bit clumsy a tad selfish with your thinking, I understand your husband being slightly mad and telling you off but that sort of insult is awful. I would never be married to someone who calls me that.

It depends whether her son actuslly wanted them. I assume he didn’t but if he did it would be a very odd thing to do. Maybe OP thought he wouldn’t want them then told him they weren’t very nice to excuse why she chucked them?

It’s not about that 🤦‍♀️ she also called her husband a name first so why is she allowed to do that by your rules? She’s handled the whole thing badly. I’m sorry but why would you tell your child I chucked them coz they’re gross knowing that he’d repeat it. It’s silly and she’s obviously not reacted well after the fact for her son not to be welcomed anymore - I imagine she’s missing that out.

They weren't just her cakes so no. You aren't allowed to throw out other people's food without asking. That's rude.

But you’re not allowed to throw cakes away if you don’t like them?
(I feel we’re going around in circles here somewhat)

Left out you called him a name first ay

If she has been one then yeah! Ffs.

If they were in fact stale and had been out a few days do you not think the OP would have mentioned it by now?

I’m not weirdly fixated an anything. I just pointed out that we don’t know that the cakes weren’t there for a few days.

That was literally my only comment on the matter.

but he was correct . You should have told a white lie. You have fell out with your neighbours. Made things awkward for your son and had an argument with your dh . All because of cake.
So maybe you should be more civil to people .
Also calling someone wet is very mean . So sounds like you both call each other names .

This thread is a hoot..

Our neighbours sent some cupcakes with my son when he returned from a play date. . Unfortunately, they weren't particularly nice so I threw them away; = they were on the side for a few days, no one bothered to eat them and they went stale so I threw them away.

I bet @Tellysavelas @Wheredidileavemycarkeys are never in the same room together.. both seem to be weirdly fixating on the timing of the 'throwing away', without realising that it doesn't matter WHEN they were thrown away, the husband doesn't even seem bothered about the throwing away.. so why do you two care?

He is annoyed at OP for telling the boy they weren't very nice and for telling the boy that she had thrown them away, he suggested she could have been more economical with the truth, so as not to put him in an awkward position. SHE ADMITS she shouldn't have told DS what she did. But then she still blew up at her DH and called him 'ridiculous' and 'wet' for having an opinion on it, they had an argument and he has then called her a bitch.

Seeing as OP has admitted she was wrong to us on here, I wonder if she has apologised for being spiteful about the cakes, putting their son in the position she did with his friend of having to lie or tell the truth, and then starting an argument with her DH over it. My guess is no.

Wait, just occured to me. The husband is shagging the neighbour's wife, her son is poster husbands son

OP did you eat one? How do you know they weren't nice?

If your dh, neighbours, and inlaws struggle with your " honesty " have you considered it's a you problem?

You say your DH is more sensitive than others but if that were true why do other people struggle with you?

Gosh, should have said they were … STALE.

Something does smell fishy about the circumstances around these not nice cupcakes ….

Considering OP actually greedy and ate them all and conjured up the “not nice”. Her DH saw the crumbs on her chin and lashed out because the b. once again ate all the cakes and lied about it.

From OP's own replies her honestly rubs people the wrong way. That's all well and good but now it is affecting her son which is very sad. I'd be making some changes to how I talk to people to avoid that.