DH called me a pathetic b****

Well that’s all nonsense.

I haven’t said my opinions are facts

I haven’t said posters aren’t allowed to give their opinions

Me posting on this thread is not “out of order”.

Still speculation.

And defend myself from what? 😂

@Wheredidileavemycarkeys the difference between you and posters like this is that they have offered an alternative perspective but stated it is just that and haven’t tried to keep arguing their opinion like it is fact and actually happened as you and that one other poster did. You’re now being inflammatory by quoting individual posters and telling them that they’re not allowed to give their opinion just because many posters told you that the way you were behaving was rightly out of order.

@Wheredidileavemycarkeys I very specifically stated it was a scenario I could equally imagine in direct response to someone imagining the tone OP spoke in. Don't use me to defend yourself.

That doesn’t really make any difference you’re is still speculating which I got a right bollocking for. I’m just using your post as an example.

It feels like there is a lot missing in this tale as well as backstory. Sometimes you want to fill in the gaps but you can't really tell if you're being accurate.

@Wheredidileavemycarkeys try reading my whole post.

H (starts out confused because his son is sad): why didn't you just say all the cupcakes got eaten?
OP: don't be so wet. They were inedible. Why do I need to lie to DS?
H: come on, he's a child, you should have been able to work out he would probably tell them and they might be hurt.
OP: oh for goodness sake, stop being so ridiculous. Not everybody is as sensitive as you.
H (now starting to get angry): why are you always such a bitch to me? It's pathetic. You do this every time I try to suggest that there are times when discretion might be more helpful

And is this a random made up scenario or a factual account?

Well obviously but that’s not what I was saying 😂 my point was the reason OP threw them out and didn’t give them to her child ie because she didn’t like them and the PP needn’t start making up random scenarios.

Why are you making up these fantasies?

Great idea.

And I was told no made up scenarios allowed…

I get a lot of food gifts at work. Some from people you could not pay me to eat anything they made. I'm also diabetic. I say thank you so much it was wonderful. Irs ot hard to be nice.

Well it was a bit bitchy to tell dc the cupcakes were nasty and bin them. Why on earth didn't you just keep them and throw them in a couple of days when they weren't eaten.

I also think there's more to the story than OP has let on. She binned the cupcakes (assuming home made by the neighbours during playdate) without asking her husband and son first because it is "not nice" to her standards. That is kind of messed up to throw away food that's just "not nice". A normal person will ask the family to try it for themselves first before deciding what to do with them? Assuming if it was that bad the neighbours won't be that proud in giving it to them. If it's healthy and sugarless you can just add some buttercream yourself.

I think the act of judging the cupcakes are not up to her standards and binning it without asking might give more weight to what the husband is saying OP is a critical person.

People - even children - should be given the opportunity to make their own minds if something is good or band.

If it's nasty, let him spit it out.

Once you start thinking for your ds he will never be independent.

This is a good response if you want to repair the relationship with the neighbours (though personally I wouldn't bother).

Don't bother with DH. He is vile and a waste of space.

Now you’re moving the goal posts. There is a big difference between swearing at each other and never rowing or living in bliss all the time. Some couples can have arguments and disagreements without swearing at each other or calling each other names. Based on my own experience and social circle, that’s the norm and swearing/name calling isn’t.

Not sure about that but people claiming they never row, never have issues in the marriage, all is bliss all the time. Simply not realistic

no possible point in anyone's behaviour otherwise. A whole shitstorm due to few cupcakes. Also a woman in her right mind do not just throws them in the bin and jolly informs her son

bollocks galore or if true all parties are mad and in a weird set up

We determined that the husband shags the neighbours wife and his son is half brother to her - op - son

Well, I’ve been married for 10 years, i’m not telling white lies and I live in Herts 😂. We just have difference expectations about how we communicate with each other.

Why on earth did you say you threw them away?

Were they home made? That could be seen as very insulting if so.

Your husband shouldn't have called you that though.

To be honest being with someone who is constantly critical of everything would wear anyone down. You didn’t even let them decide the cakes weren’t nice you just took it upon yourself to make that decision and then told your son.

I also agree with others there’s more to this. They wouldn’t ban the son because the mum doesn’t like the cakes.