To be upset friend stopped texting

You think you know what’s going on in her life and head, but you can’t -possibly.

Gently, it’s you being self centred.

It’s likely nothing you’ve done and you’re entitled to feel sad. Perhaps consider though that she feels that she needs some time for something going on in her life, send her a message saying that you hope she’s ok and then step back a little to give her some space. Could be a temporary thing or it could be a general slowing down of the messaging which is not designed to annoy you but is something she needs. It’s not all about you.

Is she menopausal? She might be overwhelmed at the moment. I call my mum every morning as I walk to work but every so often I feel so overwhelmed with work and life in general that I have to unplug. I’m not always thinking clearly at these times. Often my mum will say “oh I thought we’d fallen out” when I just needed some peace and quiet/phone free time. Nothing personal, just self care.

You sound very full on OP.
Your friend might value your friendship, but she could be feeling bored by the constant texting, I know I would do.
Maybe she'd rather just message a couple of times a week, as every day messaging is a lot, as surely, what is there but mundane things to communicate about it it's every single day?

I don’t think you are needy, just mystified.

For whatever reason your friend has stopped texting you so often.

It may or may not be because of you.
Only your friend knows and she obviously does not want to communicate the reason to you just yet.

I would try to respect her need to have a little space.

Leave the ball in her court for a while now.

If you do have a sound friendship she will come back to you.

It’s pointless us all second guessing her motives and you becoming more and more anxious about the situation.

Take a step back, stop pondering it for a while. Let your friend take the lead.

Best wishes.

Thing is OP, you don't sound just sad about it. That's normal when it feels like a friendship is drifting apart.

You sound really anxious about it. You're thinking something is wrong. You are doubting her when she says she's been busy. Maybe theres other things happening in her life that she doesnt feel the need to tell you about. You say yourself that it's left a great big gap in your life.

You make it sound all about your feelings. So it does sound needy. Especially as it has only been 2.5 weeks!

Calling/messaging people takes a lot of energy and it only hits home when you're busy, overworked, feeling drained. At that point it's difficult to keep up conversations or banter even with people that you're close to. It's also not so easy to explain or people bombard you with questions because they are concerned when you just want a bit of peace and quiet. It's easiest to just say I've been busy and leave it at that.

I think this happens sometimes - I'm quite a regular texter with friends - have about 3 friends I text most days, usually several times days. Then there are others the next level "down" who I text probably once a week (which might turn into a mini conversation sometimes.)

Definitely some people have been at the daily level before and over time it has changed to the weekly level, but I think probably more gradually than the pattern you describe.

With the ones I text less, it doesn't necessarily mean I like them any the less, so I wouldn't take it to mean that. If she doesn't like you any more, after all, she probably wouldn't text at all!

Maybe she just has too much going on to have time to text so often. I do totally understand why you are missing it, but I would probably try to match her energy - then at least you keep the friendship, rather than taking offence and losing her altogether?

Also, it may be a passing thing? I have friends who go quiet on occasion if going through a really difficult time - I have been like this in the past myself as well.

Good luck.

Perhaps she genuinely is a bit busier. Sometimes people just have a bit of an unsaid break from text/whatsapp.

I do that often when I get busy, then we just pick up naturally where we left off when we have time. It's not necessary to be in touch every day. With true friendships it should be easy to pick and communicate even if you havnt spoken for weeks or months.

You do sound very needy though. Maybe your friend can sense that too and needs a break. It shouldn't be dependant on your friends texts to fill the gaps in your life. You need to find ways to make your own life full and active.

Texting every day is quite full on for a friendship, maybe her circumstances changed? Does she have a new partner, new local friend's, people visiting or something.

I would possibly send her a friendly message explaining that you feel she's gone cold...give her a chance to talk about it if there is an issue. If she doesn't want to or she doesn't reply then yes I would step away.
I think it will drive you mad if you don't try to find out what's changed.