To think we will never be friends again?

Perhaps leave the door open, but be aware it may take a long time. and may not happen at all. Fingers crossed though. I do think she should make an effort, but she obviously cant right now.

As someone who had infertility for 7 years and miscarriages I completely agree. You've been very sensitive and considerate and she's been a terrible friend.

She can be sad for herself while offering support and well wishes for you.

Sorry but I think your friendship is likely over. Focus on your baby joy. Don't feel like you have to hide him or her or feel like you've done something wrong

The whole situation is cruel and unfair to both of you. It must be really hard to be missing your best friend when you could do with support, but also, it must be really difficult to have a visual reminder of what she could have had.

I would give her more time

It's a unfortunate situation and it's nobody's fault.

Unfollowing you on social media is most likely her way of coping. She's not able to see pictures of your child right now.

I wouldn't write off the friendship as things change over time. I wouldn't keep following up now as it's clear she needs space.

I can't have children. When I first found out it was difficult but luckily it didn't damage any friendships or cause other issues but I can understand that she's gone into self protection mode and may need some time.

I think she's being very cruel, I was in the same situation but with a work friend and she had been trying for a baby for years and was a few weeks ahead of me and miscarried. She was of course very upset but was very good at not letting my pregnancy be negative- though the first few months after was awkward. I was always careful- and when I came into work after gender scan, she asked about it though I was dreading seeing her - as i felt terrible for her.

Though we don't work together now, we are still friends 14 years later.

I'm sorry your friend hasn't managed to support you more.

I think it’s probably temporary. Give her time.

I think it might stall for a while. Does she have children? It’s also not unusual for friendships to stall when one has a baby and one doesn’t for any reason.

I would just give it time, it’s a very unfortunate set of events and she must be heartbroken.

That's really sad and I'm sorry you've lost your friend. I agree with a PP, send her a text explaining you understand she's hurting but would really still like to have a friendship x

As someone who didn't have kids despite ivf etc. I have to say probably for the time being yes. The pain of miscarriage of a much wanted baby is huge. The fact that someone really close has what you want is soooo painful. She has been nice and has been honest in her feelings. She needs for her own well being to distance herself from you. You need to accept that. Hopefully, in time, she has a child or accepts that position she is in. I would message her one last time and say you are always there for her that you value your friendship but understand that she needs space

Sorry OP, it’s not your fault but I would assume that the friendship is over. Your child will always be a constant reminder of the one she is missing.

Perhaps in years to come, when she has children of her own, she might get back in touch, but for now I think you need to leave her to grieve.

Actually I think she's being incredibly cruel. I speak as somebody who has had several miscarriages. I wouldn't dream of treating somebody like that, it's not their fault that my body failed me. I am probably being unhelpful here but if my best friend ignored me and my baby like that, I'd be reconsidering the friendship myself. Congratulations on your baby