Would you be offended if someone asked you whether you were over 60’s?

Some years ago when I was 50, I was with DH and we were having a weekend away in York. We decided to go on a boat trip and the woman selling the tickets assumed I was over 60 so I got a discount. I was rather peeved but quite happy to have saved some money!

I think 7 years is quite a big gap though, it is closer to a decade than not and we only live on average less than 8 decades so it seems funny to me to bump up someone's age with so many years. My Dad always rounds up everyone and it is really annoying as I have siblings and in essence we would all be the same age according to his aging methods. He would say stuff like you are nearly 40 now when you are 35/36. I would say if you are 27 you are not like a 20 year old.

Oh, and I took my mum to a museum, she's almost 80, I was asked if I wanted the same senior ticket as 'my friend'... 😂

I'm 53. I always say I'm a senior for cinema tickets, ferry tickets, theatre tickets...

Last year, I booked a table in a pub for my friend's 70th birthday. The pub cheered me thinking I was 70! 😆

I've always wanted to be older, to get in that nightclub or be served alcohol. So why not take advantage again!

I'd be rubbing my hands with glee at the discount opportunities

I worked in a shop with an over 60s discount day. We had a sign up on the till but people often didn't spot it until they had paid and it was a faff having to do a refund to add it on so it was easiest to just ask. The issue was the amount of people who were offended but were over 60 so did apply to the discount. They were happy about the saving but cross I thought they looked their age.

The only reason anyone feels offended / pleased in relation to people guessing their age wrong/right is the ageism in our society, probably with a dash of sexism (as women are held to higher beauty standards/ valued for looks). So yes a lot of people may be offended, but in an ideal world we shouldn't be.

It’s so easy to make a mistake though. I often look at photos of people and get a bit of an “oh really” when their real age is given. Both up and down. It only takes a bad day at work, or a bit of an illness to make folks look tired.

I would as I'm not 40 yet but after 50 my mum didn't mind too much as long as she's getting a discount. If it was just a random comment with no perks then she wouldn't have. She's over 60 now anyway so neither here nor there.

Either way I don't think aging is a bad thing. Certainly better than the alternative.

I probably would be offended, although i would respond politely. There's probably a more tactful way of doing it. She could say something like "we have a range of concessions for different groups, would you like me give you more information in case you would be eligible?"

It’s only 7 years. I wouldn’t be offended.

It’s very hard to guess someone’s exact age.

Lots of places don't offer concessionary tickets anyway, and if they do, it tends to be for the 65+ age group. So it wouldn't occur to a lot of people in their early 60's to even ask if there was a senior concession.

It wouldn't bother me to be asked at all. I'm not vain enough to be insulted by it.

When I was about 58, I went with my 60 year old sister to a museum, and the person selling tickets said something like "Are you eligible for the concession rate?"

"I wonder why she thought we might be students?" I naively said to my sister afterwards, still feeling decades away from old.

I agree! Especially as you're only 53!

My Mum was obsessed with folks not knowing her real age. She also liked a bargain. Cue much hilarity the day she got her bus pass. It was hidden from the view of all but the poor bus driver. I used to tease her once she had sat down, and would ask her if she had put her bus pass away safe🤭🤣

Well I'd not be turning cartwheels if I thought someone thought I looked older than I was. I'm not sure anyone over the age of 20 would, would they? That said, if the person was young and the light wasn't great, they'd could easily get it wrong by a decade either way.

Wouldn’t bother me. I am over 60. Then again I was quite pleased when DH and I went to look at the Royal Palace in Stockholm recently, and asked for two senior concession tickets and the bloke behind the counter said “you do realise they are for over 60s?”

What's offensive about being over 60?

The Customer services woman asking was probably on her 20s so I'm not sure all you her people are inaccurate.

It isn't at all offensive. (I haven't answered the poll because the options looked the wrong way round so I wasn't sure which to click.)

I'm 61 and had the question asked once or twice before I was 60. Of course it made me feel a bit self-conscious.But it really isn't offensive. People need to do their job, and there is no reason why they should be super-sensitive to the signs that put someone just under versus just over a specific age.

As far as they are concerned, they are just trying to make sure you benefit from a possible entitlement. They aren't forming an opinion on how well-maintained you are.

I am over 60, but I see it as my responsibility to ask for a concessions price, not theirs. Also, I didn’t realise cinemas were over 60 fir concessions, none of our local ones are

Yes probably, I was in a famous high street chemist and they were offering blood pressure checks for the over 40s that day with the pharmacist, a customer services person looked at me and this other woman looking at the toiletries and dismissed me as too young, I am actually mid 40s but the woman next to me got asked and was really offended and quite sharply refused asking the customer services person if she looked way over 40 and explained that she was in her fifties but she was too busy and had to be somewhere. I thought that was bizarre as she looked late 50s and she confirmed she was fifties so why worry about not looking in your 30s essentially!