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To think why make sly digs?

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Chihiroo · 30/09/2024 12:52

For my birthday my MIL bought me Dior soap annd hand lotion and body cream - lovely, but very expensive and a waste of money and definitely not something I’d buy myself.

Anyway, I wore the body cream and my friends complimented me and asked what it was. Friend asked what soap - I made a joke that I put it in the guest bathroom so it would rarely be used and showed her a photo and she said “oh they’re very small”

They are literally full sized soap and hand lotions. And whenever she shows me something new I’m always very complimentary.

I know it’s insignificant but it’s bloody soap, there wasn’t a need for any put downs.

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cardibach · 30/09/2024 16:20

I think previous posters have nailed it. You were criticising the gift to your friend, so she assumed that it was ok/expected for her to do the same. No sly dig at you involved. A totally open one at your MiL, just as you had just done.

Edit: cross posted with you saying you hadn’t criticise it and love. Don’t believe you. You were clearly commenting on the price as keeping it in the guest room. You’ve said here you think it was a waste of money.

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Chihiroo · 30/09/2024 16:17

sundayagainagain · 30/09/2024 15:25

You were being extremely rude about your MIL to your friend. Your MIL thought you deserved it and would be happy about it, it’s not something you would buy yourself by the sounds of it. But you have to sneer about it.

Why did you take a photo of if you didn’t really care about the gift? I don’t understand some people, always have to find something to complain about.

Why what did I say to my friends that was extremely rude about my MIL? Because the only part of the conversation I included was them saying I smelt nice and me telling them what it was, to saying I put it in the guest bathroom as it’s too nice for daily use.

… failing to see the rudeness so please elaborate.

I absolutely love the gifts. I probably wouldn’t spend £150/£160 on items that would be used up fast but MIL is very wealthy so it’s all relevant. Unfortunately on MN if I had bragged and been excited about getting expensive bathroom/beauty products I would have been called every name under the sun too. So I really couldn’t win.

For the record I loved my presents and MIL. I just couldn’t justify the price if I bought it myself.

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Bloopy2 · 30/09/2024 16:15

Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 13:30

I’m with you, OP, it was a sly dig.

I wonder if you are self-deprecating about yourself so she thinks she can make these dogs?

I think might be time to act like you deserve £150 toiletries. Which you do.

WTF? No one "deserves" £150 soap and moisturiser!

sundayagainagain · 30/09/2024 15:26

Lovelysummerdays · 30/09/2024 14:57

Another who thinks possibly small for the price for £150 I’d be expecting mahoosive salon sizes. When you get those 1.5 litre dispenser bottles. If it was standard size I’d think it small too.

You’d expect a 1.5 l bottle of Dior body cream, hand soap and hand cream for £150?

sundayagainagain · 30/09/2024 15:25

You were being extremely rude about your MIL to your friend. Your MIL thought you deserved it and would be happy about it, it’s not something you would buy yourself by the sounds of it. But you have to sneer about it.

Why did you take a photo of if you didn’t really care about the gift? I don’t understand some people, always have to find something to complain about.

Lovelysummerdays · 30/09/2024 14:57

Another who thinks possibly small for the price for £150 I’d be expecting mahoosive salon sizes. When you get those 1.5 litre dispenser bottles. If it was standard size I’d think it small too.

Screamingabdabz · 30/09/2024 14:55

Another MIL getting it wrong…

Who cares what another random thinks of a gift you didn’t give a shit about?

I don’t get it.

SauviGone · 30/09/2024 14:52

You made a disparaging dig about your MIL’s gift, or as you prefer to call it, “a joke”, so your friend commented in the same vein.

AmyDudley · 30/09/2024 14:46

She soap shamed you. Kick her to the kerb.

5128gap · 30/09/2024 14:36

The whole point of the conversation was for you to belittle your MiLs gift to you surely? So why on earth are you annoyed with your friend for joining in?

Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 14:28

Chihiroo · 30/09/2024 14:10

Thank you ❤️

And do you think being self-deprecating can make it esasier for a person to make digs? As I definitely am self deprecating

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Yes, definitely, many people will hone in on someone they perceive as weaker because they think they can get away with it, whereas they won’t say those to things to someone they’ve seen answer back.

Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 14:27

Mcginty57 · 30/09/2024 14:10

Could she have meant it was small for the cost of it, I can't see how it would be a dig at you commenting on the size they were when it wasn't even you who paid for it and you said you put it in the guest bathroom.

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Mcginty57 · 30/09/2024 14:10

Could she have meant it was small for the cost of it, I can't see how it would be a dig at you commenting on the size they were when it wasn't even you who paid for it and you said you put it in the guest bathroom.

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Chihiroo · 30/09/2024 14:10

Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 13:30

I’m with you, OP, it was a sly dig.

I wonder if you are self-deprecating about yourself so she thinks she can make these dogs?

I think might be time to act like you deserve £150 toiletries. Which you do.

Thank you ❤️

And do you think being self-deprecating can make it esasier for a person to make digs? As I definitely am self deprecating

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Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 13:43

DearestGentleReader · 30/09/2024 13:40

You could have said "MIL made an extremely generous gift" or similar, but no, you had to make a dig, even anonymously 🙄🙄🙄
My point is you and your friend are similar so what's the point in holding it against her?

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They’re not similar. And you wouldn’t put up with sly digs so don’texpect OP to.

candlewhickgreen · 30/09/2024 13:42

So many questions. Why did you take photos of soap? Was there a 50p for scale? Is it really a dig?🤔

DearestGentleReader · 30/09/2024 13:40

Chihiroo · 30/09/2024 13:27

Well £150 on soap and hand lotion is quite steep.

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You could have said "MIL made an extremely generous gift" or similar, but no, you had to make a dig, even anonymously 🙄🙄🙄
My point is you and your friend are similar so what's the point in holding it against her?

Dishwashersaurous · 30/09/2024 13:38

Had you mentioned the price, and thus she was surprised about the size for the price?

itsmylife7 · 30/09/2024 13:32

Did she possibly mean the soap was small considering the huge price .

Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 13:30

DearestGentleReader · 30/09/2024 12:57

You just made a sly dig about how your MIL "wasted" her money buying you a gift which is "lovely", you have used and also received compliments on -but your friend is the one in be wrong? 😵‍💫

This is an anonymous forum 🙄

Tellysavelas · 30/09/2024 13:30

I’m with you, OP, it was a sly dig.

I wonder if you are self-deprecating about yourself so she thinks she can make these dogs?

I think might be time to act like you deserve £150 toiletries. Which you do.

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Chihiroo · 30/09/2024 13:27

DearestGentleReader · 30/09/2024 12:57

You just made a sly dig about how your MIL "wasted" her money buying you a gift which is "lovely", you have used and also received compliments on -but your friend is the one in be wrong? 😵‍💫

Well £150 on soap and hand lotion is quite steep.

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LoopyLooooo · 30/09/2024 12:57

Meh 🤷‍♂️

Some things do look smaller in photos, not sure why you think it's some sort of put down really.

It's all very bland.

DearestGentleReader · 30/09/2024 12:57

You just made a sly dig about how your MIL "wasted" her money buying you a gift which is "lovely", you have used and also received compliments on -but your friend is the one in be wrong? 😵‍💫

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