To regret not having a baby shower?

I agree with others, you’ve got enough time. Yes some babies come early but most come close to due date - unless there’s reason to think you’ll go early? Just have an informal wee celebration with whichever friends and family can make it in three weeks’ time.

Agree.
Celebrate the baby when he or she is here.

See I think this really depends on what a baby shower looks like to each person. I have been to a couple which were very Insta/tik tok affairs which were quite dull and pose-y. But equally I’ve been to a couple and had my own which was really just a nice opportunity to all catch up, no “organised fun” type games just some food, drinks and chatting with friends which was really nice.

I do think it’s a good idea to step away from what you see on social media for these things and just think about what you will enjoy. For mine we had picky food, cake, prosecco (nosecco for me) in my house and just had a really good catch up and had an amazing time, not very Insta-worthy but was a much nicer day than some of the ones I’ve attended and seen online!

Lol that's a weird way to look at it.

It's like saying a birthday is "look at me, my parents had sex and I came out of my mum, now shower me with gifts!"

Oh lord I had one and now cringe thinking about it… they are boring as batshit

You need to delete social media - photos on social media don’t reflect reality

Its very different to a birthday, its saying look at me, I had sex and got pregnant, now shower me with gifts!

Horrid things. Never had one and never felt like I missed out on anything. Ditto for a gender reveal. All so naff and grabby.

Agree go for a low key tea party sort of affair with your good friends, which shouldn’t take a lot of organising or planning from attendees. I don’t think anybody really enjoys attending the sort of “shower” which includes tedious little games and photo ops all set up for posting on social media (I know I absolutely don’t) but pretty much everybody enjoys spending time with their friends.

It’s not too late to have one if you want one! I had one but nothing big (I could not be bothered at the thought of having anything big going on while that heavily pregnant😂), I just invited family & close friends to our house, I put some decorations and balloons up, got some picky food and cakes etc, prosecco for all the non-pregnant people and it was lovely to see everyone to catch up before baby came. Didn’t take too much organising and I didn’t even have to take my slippers off🤣

You might not have 6 weeks... I went into natural labour at 36 weeks so if you want a celebration do it soon! Don't compare it to what you've seen, if you've not got long to plan you don't need balloons or hundreds of games, just a little get together should be more than lovely and will give you a nice opportunity to talk about your upcoming birth if you wanted to.

Send a group message now instead of posting on Mumsnet, invite your friends for brunch at a restaurant, this is exactly the right time to do it! Have your baby shower, doesn't need to be extravagant but I agree it's a really nice rite of passage. I didn't have one with my first as I thought it wasn't important to me, but I had one (brunch with girlfriends) for my second as I regretted not celebrating more with my first. And it was 100% worth it!

Definitely not to my taste but I think it’s my age saying that. I’d be sure you actually want one and aren’t just feeling pressure because it’s the “done thing” for insta or Facebook. They don’t seem to be a one-off for the first born either.

Not having a baby shower for my first baby has made no difference whatsoever to my life & how I feel about my son. I don't feel like I've missed out on anything, and you're right, they are grabby and OTT, seems like a case of fomo

you are right, they are grabby. You will gets lots is stuff once the baby is here in any case. You just got a little bit of FOMO ;-)

We had my daughter-in-law's baby shower when she finished work at 37 weeks and then baby came early - 10 days later!
We had a great afternoon tea 😊

I think it's fine to organise your own, not everyone has people on their lives that can or will do it for them.

I didn't have one but if I did I'd have had to organise my own - my mum is too shy, my sister hates baby showers and my best friend is in the middle of adopting a child.

It's no different to a birthday party, and those are once a year.

You’re only 34 weeks, easy enough to organise one in 2-3 weeks. Even 4-5

You could go all out on the first birthday?

Is there a point to baby showers other than receiving gifts? I've only ever been to one, but told my friend that I would be giving the gift once baby arrived. I've never had one, as I don't really understand the reason behind having them. Surely everyone celebrates once the baby is here?

I’d send a message to a few friends saying - “NOT a baby shower(!) but before I’m up to my ears in poo and leaky boobs, let’s have a catch-up. Are you free for tea, Prosecco and cake on Saturday at 3? It would be lovely to see you x”

But why do you actually want a baby shower??
You will receive gifts and visits from your far away friends individually. No need for this American concept.

Really should be organised by someone else, not yourself. But if you do organise a gathering don't expect others to contribute!

Ask a close friend/family member to invite everyone round to yours for a ‘pre baby get together’ you could have potentially another 8 weeks! It doesn’t need to cost much so if it gets cancelled as you’ve had the baby you/they won’t have shelled out any money unnecessarily

I didn’t plan to have a baby shower as I find them grabby and also I’m superstitious. But my sister planned a get together at my house for family and my 3 closest friends. They literally turned up at my door at 37 weeks (I thought I was going for lunch with 1 of my friends so luckily I was dressed/hair + makeup sort of done!!)

We had a small buffet, cupcakes, cans of pop and I got some lovely gifts which most people had picked up last minute (it’s easy to get gifts from Amazon / Supermarket)

Stop being grabby and seeking attention