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Who is being unreasonable?

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4405cd · 29/09/2024 21:33

So a friend sends dates to other friend for a potential catch up for following week . Friend doesn’t reply due to being busy ,so the other friend makes other arrangements . Am wondering if the friend who tried to arrange should have informed other friend when she made alternative plans , or should friend have responded in an appropriate time ? YABU give friend more time and not make alternative plan ,YANBU…friend should have replied to confirm a date .
New to MN so cannot work out the voting system !!

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BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 29/09/2024 21:48

B is completely and utterly unreasonable then

4405cd · 29/09/2024 21:46

redtrain123 · 29/09/2024 21:39

So friend A sends B an invite to meet up a few days later. B didn’t reply, so A made other plans?

Guessing B is annoyed because A made other plans but B was actually free to meet A.

Hiw long did A wait before making other plans? Five minutes? An hour? The next day? Context is everything.

Friend responded a week later on the day that other friend had suggested the date.

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Chocolatebuttonsandprosseco · 29/09/2024 21:40

I’d make other plans and not say, very very rude to not respond. And the excuse of I was busy is shit. Everyone has a a min to read check and respond.

BeMintBee · 29/09/2024 21:39

depends if friend who didn’t respond has form for not replying for days on end. That shit gets a bit tedious after a while.

redtrain123 · 29/09/2024 21:39

So friend A sends B an invite to meet up a few days later. B didn’t reply, so A made other plans?

Guessing B is annoyed because A made other plans but B was actually free to meet A.

Hiw long did A wait before making other plans? Five minutes? An hour? The next day? Context is everything.

NahNotHavingIt · 29/09/2024 21:38

Too busy to press a few letters on their phone?

No, I wouldn't be informing them of my plans.

KingOfPeace · 29/09/2024 21:35

You didn't put voting options.

It depends how long friend took to reply. More than a day or two and first friend is fully entitled to open those slots up to others.

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