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Maternity pay has gone too far

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EasterIssland · 29/09/2024 19:28

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c781m9v4255o

apologies if there is another thread about it.
havent seen one.

im lucky enough to have a good salary that would allow me saving beforehand . Statutory maternity pay would mean around 20-30% of my salary. Is this too far? It’s one of the many reasons why we decided to only have one. I felt really vulnerable when I was on maternity leave and didn’t feel I kept having spare cash every month. I do understand what she means tho , the sooner we’re back the less we get from the government and more taxes we pay. Coming from a woman hurts even more not being recognised the sacrifices we do whilst we are on maternity leave

Kemi Badenoch speaking at a Conservative Party leadership campaign

Maternity pay has gone too far, says Kemi Badenoch

The Tory leadership candidate says the government should be reducing regulatory burdens for businesses.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c781m9v4255o

OP posts:
BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 10:57

C8H10N4O2 · 30/09/2024 09:50

Amazing (or not).

235 replies of which well over 200 have mindlessly accepted the BBC's misrepresentation of what was actually said as fact.

As far as I can see less than half a dozen of us actually checked the source interview for what she said.

If we can't be bothered to check basic facts for ourselves we don't deserve better governance or better politicians.

I don't know why you think that, but what do you think was in the substance of what she said in full that doesn't imply she thinks maternity rights should be cut?

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 10:56

Porridgeislife · 30/09/2024 10:43

My daughter was also a bottle refuser - didn’t take one until she was well over a year! I had endless frozen milk and she fed like a demon either end of the day.

Edited

Surely not before she was well on with weaning though (I did the same). Six months leave isn't enough time to get a baby sufficiently weaned onto solids to leave them for FT working hours.

PigeonLady · 30/09/2024 10:45

C8H10N4O2 · 30/09/2024 09:50

Amazing (or not).

235 replies of which well over 200 have mindlessly accepted the BBC's misrepresentation of what was actually said as fact.

As far as I can see less than half a dozen of us actually checked the source interview for what she said.

If we can't be bothered to check basic facts for ourselves we don't deserve better governance or better politicians.

235 replies later and I have seen a few of these misrepresentation posts but no one’s actually corrected it with what she’s said that’s so to the contrary!?

Go on then - please enlighten us idiots.

Porridgeislife · 30/09/2024 10:43

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 08:09

Not every breastfed baby takes a bottle though, bottle refusal is very common.

My daughter was also a bottle refuser - didn’t take one until she was well over a year! I had endless frozen milk and she fed like a demon either end of the day.

TriesNotToBeCynical · 30/09/2024 10:21

C8H10N4O2 · 30/09/2024 09:57

According to whom? I've heard the exact opposite many times from both third parties and civil servants in her departments (who were not necessarily that keen on the diligence). Michael Gove was not known for fostering useless underlings.

Disagreeing with a politician's policies by all means but do it by countering their policies with facts or different political positions rather than just cheap "rubbish" comments which are not evidenced in fact. If people just repeat tripe propagated on SM without checking basic facts (in this case what she actually said) then we lose the right to complain about the results.

She said current statutory maternity pay was too much business regulation. I don't think you can dispute that. Obviously she didn't say how much she wanted to deregulate it, but it can only be in the direction of less entitlement to maternity leave and/or less compulsory pay. Since current compulsory parental leave is not particularly generous this is quite enough to know where she stands.

Edit: don't be surprised by the way to see Starmer's government saying substantially the same thing any time now.

C8H10N4O2 · 30/09/2024 09:57

Coruscations · 30/09/2024 09:08

Plus she was notoriously incompetent as a minister. While that's something whose effects can be contained by civil servants in a government department, it's potentially disastrous in a Prime Minister.

According to whom? I've heard the exact opposite many times from both third parties and civil servants in her departments (who were not necessarily that keen on the diligence). Michael Gove was not known for fostering useless underlings.

Disagreeing with a politician's policies by all means but do it by countering their policies with facts or different political positions rather than just cheap "rubbish" comments which are not evidenced in fact. If people just repeat tripe propagated on SM without checking basic facts (in this case what she actually said) then we lose the right to complain about the results.

C8H10N4O2 · 30/09/2024 09:50

Amazing (or not).

235 replies of which well over 200 have mindlessly accepted the BBC's misrepresentation of what was actually said as fact.

As far as I can see less than half a dozen of us actually checked the source interview for what she said.

If we can't be bothered to check basic facts for ourselves we don't deserve better governance or better politicians.

CostelloJones · 30/09/2024 09:46

Yeah she can fuck right off.

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 09:45

GreenTeaLikesMe · 30/09/2024 09:41

I'll be honest, I've seldom known this to be a problem in practice. Nurseries have ways of getting bottle refusers to take bottles, and if not, 7mo is old enough for a cup plus some solid food. Babies who don't take an awful lot of milk this way tend to adjust their balance a bit, eating most of their solids during the day and rather less milk, and then filling up more on the milk in the morning and evening with their mum. I think full time work is very hard with a baby this age, but part time was never an issue - and my eldest hated bottles! She did a cup and solid food when she was away from me.

Yes but after six months maternity the baby probably isn't even five and a half months and so won't even have started on solids yet. My bottle refusers were fine at nursery from 10 months, one even stopped breastfeeding and just drank no milk at all for a couple of months, but that's very different a to baby under six months, or one who's only just started on solids.

GreenTeaLikesMe · 30/09/2024 09:42

FWIW, I am not arguing for changes in maternity leave provision, just pointing out that women usually can return to work earlier and continue BFing IF they want to, which I did.

GreenTeaLikesMe · 30/09/2024 09:41

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 08:09

Not every breastfed baby takes a bottle though, bottle refusal is very common.

I'll be honest, I've seldom known this to be a problem in practice. Nurseries have ways of getting bottle refusers to take bottles, and if not, 7mo is old enough for a cup plus some solid food. Babies who don't take an awful lot of milk this way tend to adjust their balance a bit, eating most of their solids during the day and rather less milk, and then filling up more on the milk in the morning and evening with their mum. I think full time work is very hard with a baby this age, but part time was never an issue - and my eldest hated bottles! She did a cup and solid food when she was away from me.

SovietSpy · 30/09/2024 09:30

Radio 5 live discussing this now. Usual gammons are texting in calling women entitled and claiming women are lying on the sofa during mat leave 🙄

kirinm · 30/09/2024 09:13

@Gogogo12345 yes there is a qualifying period and then you're allowed 90% of your income for 6 weeks before going immediately to statutory minimum for the remainder. Which is £184 a week maximum.

That then ends entirely at 9 months.

Some companies pay enhanced but others don't. I worked for a very large company when I had my DD and got statutory minimum.

Coruscations · 30/09/2024 09:08

Wetherspoons · 29/09/2024 22:32

Not to downplay this everyone but if she's saying this now then what else has she got planned if she were to ever hypothetically lead the tories back into government?

Imagine what else she's got in her backpocket that she's not telling us...

Plus she was notoriously incompetent as a minister. While that's something whose effects can be contained by civil servants in a government department, it's potentially disastrous in a Prime Minister.

DuncinToffee · 30/09/2024 09:01

Alexandra2001 · 30/09/2024 08:30

Badenoch wasn't just talking about mat pay, she was talking about all business regulation.

So sickness, H&S, flexible working, max working week, holiday pay....

She would like to see it all go, whilst keeping her wealth and privilege.

And she wants to leave the ECHR

Gogogo12345 · 30/09/2024 08:41

BIossomtoes · 30/09/2024 08:12

MN is very unrepresentative on breastfeeding. Fewer than half babies are breastfed at all by six months.

And only about 1% exclusively breastfed by then

Gogogo12345 · 30/09/2024 08:38

EdgeOfSixty · 29/09/2024 23:01

Before 1994 you were not entitled to maternity leave unless you had worked for the same company for 2 years by the 25th week of pregnancy.
After then you were allowed a measly 14 weeks total leave.

This is what I remember! But surely even know you would have to work a certain amount of time before being able to claim maternity benefits

Mine were born 90, 94 and 03. Was self employed when having youngest so didn't get any maternity pay then

Alexandra2001 · 30/09/2024 08:30

Badenoch wasn't just talking about mat pay, she was talking about all business regulation.

So sickness, H&S, flexible working, max working week, holiday pay....

She would like to see it all go, whilst keeping her wealth and privilege.

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 08:29

BIossomtoes · 30/09/2024 08:12

MN is very unrepresentative on breastfeeding. Fewer than half babies are breastfed at all by six months.

But again, that doesn't actually matter. Breastfeeding is the biological norm (sorry I usually hate that phrase in relation to breastfeeding) so women should be able to do so if they wish. Their need to return to work shouldn't factor into their plans.

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 08:27

Robin223 · 30/09/2024 07:18

Did you not see where I said that he worked away? My dad was incredible. It doesn’t change the fact that he was a pilot. Pilots work away.

Exactly, mine was at sea for months at a time.

Sometimes I think posters on here forget not every job is a Monday-Friday hybrid office/WFH job that allows flexible working and granny bringing the baby for a feed at lunchtime. And of course that not everyone has granny to look after the baby either.

Statutory policies need to consider all women.

Summerbreeze456 · 30/09/2024 08:24

What nonsense. We had DS in the UK and I went back to work when he was 8 months old. I had to save before having him.
This time, we live in Germany. I've just had DD and I'm entitled to 2000€/month (maternity pay + child benefit) for my year of maternity leave. That's still only about half of my net income but it's much better than what I had in the UK. Still, other mums look at me in horror when I say I'm going back full time after a year (we've got a nursery on site). I could stay home for 3 years but they wouldn't be paid and most people go back part time.
DH has also just fucked off so I'm now a single parent and could ask for spousal support from him since I don't actually have any obligation to be back in work until DD is 3.
It's much easier to have children here and still you have parents complaining that it's not enough.

BIossomtoes · 30/09/2024 08:12

MN is very unrepresentative on breastfeeding. Fewer than half babies are breastfed at all by six months.

BarbaraHoward · 30/09/2024 08:09

Porridgeislife · 30/09/2024 07:36

I am all for good quality maternity leave policies and think Kemi Badendoch is awful BUT I did go back at 7 months as I had a relatively new job, still breastfeeding. I pumped during the day. Same baby is still enthusiastically nursing as a toddler despite full time nursery. It’s not either/or.

Not every breastfed baby takes a bottle though, bottle refusal is very common.

Jc2001 · 30/09/2024 08:08

Viviennemary · 29/09/2024 19:58

Totally disagree. This country is overpopulated. Not enough housing, not enough school places. Not enough doctors.

You may disagree but you're wrong. We have an aging population and we need more young people. If there are not enough school places or doctors then we need to build / train more. You don't solve the problem of an aging population by discouraging people from having children.

Narwhalsh · 30/09/2024 08:08

Robin223 · 30/09/2024 06:51

Ha. Obviously, as a mother, I’m aware that you start weaning at 6 months. However, milk should be the primary source of nutrition for a year. How do you manage that if you’re not at home with your baby? We should be doing everything we can as a society to support mothers to give their babies the best start in life. It’s hard enough as it is.

I returned to work after 6 months leave with first 2 babies and after just 12 weeks with third (due to poor mat pay) and they all breastfed beyond 2 years and none had formula. DH took parental leave (largely unpaid). It is possible (I had an office job which made pumping breaks more accessible). 2nd baby actually wouldn’t take a bottle so I pumped and donated that milk to milk bank. He would just breastfeed in the evening/night instead!

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