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Maternity pay has gone too far

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EasterIssland · 29/09/2024 19:28

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c781m9v4255o

apologies if there is another thread about it.
havent seen one.

im lucky enough to have a good salary that would allow me saving beforehand . Statutory maternity pay would mean around 20-30% of my salary. Is this too far? It’s one of the many reasons why we decided to only have one. I felt really vulnerable when I was on maternity leave and didn’t feel I kept having spare cash every month. I do understand what she means tho , the sooner we’re back the less we get from the government and more taxes we pay. Coming from a woman hurts even more not being recognised the sacrifices we do whilst we are on maternity leave

Kemi Badenoch speaking at a Conservative Party leadership campaign

Maternity pay has gone too far, says Kemi Badenoch

The Tory leadership candidate says the government should be reducing regulatory burdens for businesses.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c781m9v4255o

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Daisymae55 · 29/09/2024 20:46

SometimesCalmPerson · 29/09/2024 19:36

That woman is full of vile opinions, but this one isn’t all bad. Six months statutory maternity pay would be fair and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with expecting people to go back to work or be supported by their partners at that point.

That’s all very well and good to a point, but I had to start my mat leave 6 weeks early due to awful hip problems. I started work again just after my baby turned 8 months and I was very ready to, so I don’t necessarily disagree with you that 6 months with baby is ok. However if I’d had 6 months may leave in my situation id have returned to work with a 4 month old - neither of us would have been remotely ready for that

we already have terrible mat leave compared to lots of other countries, why make it worse

AgnesX · 29/09/2024 20:46

YourLastNerve · 29/09/2024 19:44

The countries with good levels of female participation in the workforce are the ones with better maternity pay, not worse.

Fortunately kemi badenoch isn't in power so we can just let her witter on about whatever and ignore. The conservatives are likely to come out with a lot of this right wing crap as they lost a lot of votes to reform & think that's the direction they need to go in to get back in power.

Let's hope she doesn't win the race for Tory party leader ......

She's the child of immigrants and wants to up the drawbridge behind her as well; completely lacking in empathy for others.

Didimum · 29/09/2024 20:46

NunyaBeeswax · 29/09/2024 20:07

Amazing how quickly people believe the misinformation spewed by the media

I wonder why no one ever thinks to google and see what was actually said.

You'd think that women on Mumsnet might fact check a woman that had three kids whilst in office. I wonder why they don't

Please don’t belittle educated women who know how to research their sources.

TheAlchemy · 29/09/2024 20:45

She’s a dangerous, vile, evil, misogynistic, entitled nightmare of a woman.

Happyher · 29/09/2024 20:44

She seems to live in a bubble. She’s the one that thought a couple of shifts at McDonalds made her working class. I’ve no problem with assertive women but I think she’s a bully

Gogogo12345 · 29/09/2024 20:43

SometimesCalmPerson · 29/09/2024 20:28

i managed it with a breast pump, bottles and a fridge.

I do consider myself fortunate, but my circumstances weren’t exceptional.

My DD did the same from when her baby was 4.5 months old and fed him until he was 20 months

Oh and he refused a bottle so had expressed milk in a tommee tipped cup and a breastfeed at lunchtime ( or whatever break she had - shift work)

EasterIssland · 29/09/2024 20:43

Regarding questions of breastfeeding I went back to work at 7 months(shared parental leave) . , mixed fed my son for a few months until he was 12 and then carried our journey of bf until he was nearly 5years so myself being at work didn’t affect (I still remember those days trying to pump some milk in the disable toilet at my office for it then to fall on my journey back home). I know how lucky I was to be able to carry on bf despite being back at work

im Spanish. In Spain laws have changed. Now it’s 4months full pay for the mum and 4 full pay for the partner. Friends complain that the British is longer , but when I point out it’s not full pay then they think about it twice

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ilovesooty · 29/09/2024 20:41

the80sweregreat · 29/09/2024 19:39

Maybe she is secretly of the opinion that only ' Rich ' people should have children. I've heard other more ordinary people express these views and this is just a veiled way of saying it?

I think that's what she was saying. She might know what a woman is but she doesn't care about poor ones.

readysteadynono · 29/09/2024 20:41

I honestly thought Kemi couldn’t be more hateful but off she goes. At a time when mums are struggling to feed themselves on the frankly piss poor excuse for maternity pay that SMP is. Disgraceful. She was also spouting nonsense. I owned a business and claimed SMP back from HMRC when my employee went on maternity leave.

itsgettingweird · 29/09/2024 20:41

There was a time woman couldn't have a bank account ......

It's a slippery slope.

SheBreastedBoobiIyDownTheStairs · 29/09/2024 20:40

I do hope she wins the leadership election.

She'll be the final nail in the Tory coffin.

CuntyChopss · 29/09/2024 20:38

A patriarchy pick me "woman". She's vile.

Don't you know we should all just make better choices and marry an investment banker to fund our lifestyles.

Socioeconomic cleansing at its finest.

Kampo · 29/09/2024 20:38

NunyaBeeswax · 29/09/2024 20:14

Well done for sitting it off early to suit the position that's trying to be pushed.

Challenged on saying maternity pay is "excessive", the former minister said: "I think it's gone too far, too far the other way, in terms of general business regulation, we need to allow businesses, especially small businesses, to make more of their own decisions.

"The exact amount of maternity pay, in my view, is neither here nor there. We need to make sure that we are creating an environment where people can work and people can have more freedom to make their individual decisions."

She never said the amount was excessive.. that's the narrative being pushed by those who are against Kemi.

Can you not see how she means employers could choose which benefits to offer?

So people who are high earners in a competitive market will choose companies with good parental leave packages. Many people at the other end of the scale with little choice regarding their employment, who just need work, will have nothing - zero hours contract, no sick pay, no maternity pay

Thus, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

There is absolutely no way to package what she said and make it palatable.

SpecduckularlyQuackers · 29/09/2024 20:37

teatoast8 · 29/09/2024 20:22

They obviously haven't. You need longer than that off!

Not necessarily. My DC1 was exclusively breastfed and I returned to work when he was 6 months, having spent the previous few weeks teaching him to take expressed milk from a cup. He finally weaned at 2.5 so it clearly didn't harm our breastfeeding journey.

Nevertheless, Kemi Badenoch is ridiculous and maternity leave/shared parental leave should be much better supported.

Completelyjo · 29/09/2024 20:36

NunyaBeeswax · 29/09/2024 20:14

Well done for sitting it off early to suit the position that's trying to be pushed.

Challenged on saying maternity pay is "excessive", the former minister said: "I think it's gone too far, too far the other way, in terms of general business regulation, we need to allow businesses, especially small businesses, to make more of their own decisions.

"The exact amount of maternity pay, in my view, is neither here nor there. We need to make sure that we are creating an environment where people can work and people can have more freedom to make their individual decisions."

She never said the amount was excessive.. that's the narrative being pushed by those who are against Kemi.

I don’t think anyone claimed she said the amount was excessive, she seems to think the length is excessive and I don’t understand her point that somehow businesses are going bust due to statutory maternity regulations considering the business claims it back and doesn’t end up paying it!
Considering the only other real statutory protection is that your job needs to be kept open for you in some capacity for 12 months, then no, I don’t think people are outraged enough about her comments!

Nottodaythankyou123 · 29/09/2024 20:35

Band3benefits · 29/09/2024 20:13

I agree with this- if there were enough decent childcare options (or incentive for the second parent to take leave rather than statutory on shared parental leave) then I think 6 months is sufficient. I also managed to exclusively breastfeed and returned at 6 months. Managed to continue feeding until my boy was 2 and a half!

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I went back at 7 months with DD1 (full pay for 6 months) and 5 months (SMP only) for DD2. Exclusively breastfed DD1 until 22 months and DD2 is going strong at almost 1. Both times had a flexible employer so despite working full time didn’t need full time childcare which helped. I don’t understand why she’s saying it’s taking from one tax paying group - I’ve paid more tax in 6 months than I received in SMP for both pregnancies.

Robin223 · 29/09/2024 20:34

SometimesCalmPerson · 29/09/2024 20:28

i managed it with a breast pump, bottles and a fridge.

I do consider myself fortunate, but my circumstances weren’t exceptional.

Ahhh. So your baby took a bottle. Well done. Good for you.

Kampo · 29/09/2024 20:33

I think pearl clutching about leaving babies aged 6-9 months doesn't really get the point across to people who spout nonsense like her as they will just point out the short leave in the US.

It's ridiculous of course as wide reaching effects will cost far more. It would plunge many families into poverty at a time when food bank usage is at a high, children growing up in 'heat or eat' households are less likely to be economically active themselves in adulthood. Given the link between development aged 2 and future outcomes some children in lower socioeconomic groups would never be able to reach their full potential.

DV and women's charities would be even more overwhelmed with women who had no money to call their own in the postpartum period which is a vulnerable time for abuse.

Abortion rates would go up as couples for whom previously a pregnancy would have been a happy accident would become a financial liability.

The birth rate would fall outside of religious households.

I really don't know who this was supposed to appeal to.

And as others have pointed out, it's also offensive as I consider my own taxes paid my maternity leave!

SovietSpy · 29/09/2024 20:29

Hatfullofwillow · 29/09/2024 20:14

If we can't compete with Croatia in terms of maternity pay, then something has clearly gone awry. I don't expect us to match an economic powerhouse like Sweden, with 56 weeks paid at 80 percent of citizens’ salary, and 13 additional weeks paid at a fixed rate thereafter, because that would mean having to tax the rich a tiny bit more.

Quite.
i have Hungarian neighbours and they were telling me about maternity benefits in their country (summary below). It’s so comprehensive compared to the U.K. I just don’t get how we have gone so wrong in this country, we seem to actively hate families and children and only care about getting everyone back to work asap as if that’s all that matters. I believe we can fund better family policies, we just need an overhaul of our tax system.

Maternity Leave
Women have 24 weeks of maternity leave but can take up to three years of leave and receive maternity benefits.
For the first six months, mothers are entitled to Pregnancy and Confinement Benefit (CSED) at a rate of 70.00% of the salary. For the next eighteen months until the child’s second birthday, mothers are entitled to a Child Care Fee (Gyermekgondozási díj – GYED) at a rate of 70.00% of the salary up to a maximum of double the minimum wage.
A benefit called Child Home Care Allowance (Gyermekgondozási segély – GYES) is also available for parents or grandparents taking care of a child up to the age of three. The benefits are paid by the National Health Insurance Fund of Hungary (NEAK).
The family allowance is available to entitled individuals and the rate of the allowance is dependent upon the number of dependents and beneficiary dependents. This allowance has been increased from 2023 if one of the beneficiary dependents is seriously disabled or permanently ill.

SometimesCalmPerson · 29/09/2024 20:28

Robin223 · 29/09/2024 20:15

How did you manage that while ebf? At 5 months babies should be fed on demand. Your baby went without milk or food all morning while you were at work? Not a chance that would have worked for me and my colicky baby. Not everyone has babies that would be possible for. You should count yourself lucky and not expect other mothers to do what you did.

i managed it with a breast pump, bottles and a fridge.

I do consider myself fortunate, but my circumstances weren’t exceptional.

Chattie89 · 29/09/2024 20:27

She should ask Boris how many various women have claimed SMP for his offspring.

Seriously though she needs to back off on this one. Many women have been taxpayers for decades before receiving SMP and it's bloody insulting she's implying otherwise. Plus a falling birth rate surely means SMP payments are dwindling every year anyway!!

Gogogo12345 · 29/09/2024 20:26

Robin223 · 29/09/2024 19:36

This made me so cross. Maternity pay doesn’t go far enough in this country. It shouldn’t be about herding women back into the workplace, but supporting parents to do the best for their children. I know that some women are desperate to get back to work and that, for many, breastfeeding isn’t right/doesn’t work for them, but mothers with 9 month olds whose main source of comfort and nutrition is breastfeeding, shouldn’t be forced to part from their babies because SMP has run out. I couldn’t have coped returning at 9 months. My baby was a rubbish sleeper and took a little while to get the hang of solids. It would have been traumatic for both of us.

Realistically though there is a very small percentage of babies are fully breastfed at 9 months.

It's a great " improvement" on how it used to be. I remember 16 weeks max when I had DD1. Although for low earners they are probably no worse off on maternity pay then being at work and paying childcae

kirinm · 29/09/2024 20:25

SometimesCalmPerson · 29/09/2024 19:36

That woman is full of vile opinions, but this one isn’t all bad. Six months statutory maternity pay would be fair and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with expecting people to go back to work or be supported by their partners at that point.

What if they can't afford to live on one income for 6 months? Perhaps if people didn't have to borrow 10 x their salary to buy a house or pay 40% of their income on rent, they'd be able to save a bit more for maternity leave. As it is, most people need 2 incomes to survive.

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/09/2024 20:24

I don’t think 9 months is excessive but I don’t think it should be more than that either. Especially not 1-2 years.

teatoast8 · 29/09/2024 20:24

Robin223 · 29/09/2024 20:15

How did you manage that while ebf? At 5 months babies should be fed on demand. Your baby went without milk or food all morning while you were at work? Not a chance that would have worked for me and my colicky baby. Not everyone has babies that would be possible for. You should count yourself lucky and not expect other mothers to do what you did.

Wouldn't of worked for mine either

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