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Manners - do you do any/all of these things?

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Nostalgianostalgic · 29/09/2024 16:54

Is it bad manners to not do any of these things?

Tucking your chair in when you've left a table

Putting your basket back after using the self checkout in the supermarket

Closing doors and drawers after opening them

Stacking plates/bowls and rubbish in a restaurant after a meal to make it easier for the server to collect/clear up

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Funnywonder · 29/09/2024 17:05

I tuck my chair in after use in a cafe or restaurant, but not at home. I usually only tuck it in once I’ve barged into it and sworn a few times😆 All those other ones, yes, including the plate stacking.

ThatMakesSense · 29/09/2024 17:01

Yes apart from stacking plates

WandaFishy99 · 29/09/2024 17:00

I do all except the last one.
I do put the cups and plates back on the tray in M&S coffee shop because the people who work there use a tray to clear tables.

CandleLlama · 29/09/2024 17:00

Don't stack the plates, it makes them harder to carry so they'll have to do more than one trip. Do the rest though.

AutumnTimeForCosy24 · 29/09/2024 17:00

TulipTuesday · 29/09/2024 16:56

I do all except the bottom one.

I read somewhere that to stack plates is ‘uncouth’ and decent servers would rather you left them tidily in front of you so they can collect in the order they wish.

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LynetteScavo · 29/09/2024 16:59

I wouldn't stack plates in a restaurant, although I would leave my knife and fork merkt, as well at the napkin. Also I wouldn't make the bed in a hotel (although I would leave it reasonably neat, so easy to make).

Don't get me started on people
who don't return trollies.

ZenNudist · 29/09/2024 16:58

I wouldn't say those are manners. I'd say they are tidy habits. It's not bad manners to leave your basket in a supermarket or plates on a table in a restaurant as there are servers there to clear up. Putting your chair back under a table or closing cupboards is basic common sense and should come naturally to most people. An open cupboard could cause someone to bang their head and a chair block people's way.

NoNameNoPlace · 29/09/2024 16:58

I do all except the last one, they are good manners. But I pass the dishes over when they show they want to take them but it’s a bit far to reach.

PauliesWalnuts · 29/09/2024 16:58

I do all apart from the latter. I went to catering college and it’s actually harder to sort out when diners do it, although I know they’re trying to be helpful.

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Nostalgianostalgic · 29/09/2024 16:57

Yes I'm never sure about the plate stacking one.

I try to tidy up but I'm never sure if I'm making it worse because the waiter might want to collect in their own way.

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BlueMum16 · 29/09/2024 16:57

I'm not sure any of these are about 'manners' but more about tidying.

And no. I definitely don't stack plates for the server. As PP, that's not good manners.

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 29/09/2024 16:57

I'm uncouth, I do all of the above.

TulipTuesday · 29/09/2024 16:56

I do all except the bottom one.

I read somewhere that to stack plates is ‘uncouth’ and decent servers would rather you left them tidily in front of you so they can collect in the order they wish.