Manners - do you do any/all of these things?

People who leave cupboards and drawers open should be shot by firing squad

I do all except stack plates. What’s logical to me as the customer in terms of stacking may not be to the person who has to actually carry them. I always make sure the table isn’t a mess though (have children so no food left on the table/floor etc).

Stacking plates and rubbish at a restaurant is definitely uncouth.

The rest are normal basic decency.

I do all on that list. In a restaurant all plates stacked up at the end of the table.

All except the last one.

People leaving cupboards and drawers open - why? Why would you do that?

If I forget to shut a drawer or close a cupboard door in the kitchen, DD will very quickly and sternly remind me! She hates it when drawers and doors are left open.

Always tuck my chair in and put baskets and trolleys away (and any stray ones I see on my way out). Don't stack plates but if there are leftovers on different plates I scrape them onto one plate. But I don't often eat at restaurants with table service, usually self service ones and I always take my tray in those, and if there's a bin to scrape leftovers into I do that.

I do all of them except the last one. I always get annoyed when DH does this in restaurants and tell him to stop.

It’s absolutely bad manners to be stacking plates in a restaurant. And it’s always done by people trying to be polite which is a wee shame. But NO! No just don’t - nobody working in a restaurant likes it! It looks bad to anybody overseeing staff as though like you’ve been waiting ages.

You’re asking people to agree with you that these things should be done.

My views are:

Tucking your chair in when you've left a table - yes but it’s not the end of the world if this isn’t done

Putting your basket back after using the self checkout in the supermarket - yes but people forget and it’s good manners imv to put back baskets that others have left, and to do that without feeling aggrieved because there may well be a reason this hasn’t been done and anyway it’s only a small matter

Closing doors and drawers after opening them - I have ADHD and this is hard for me to remember

Stacking plates/bowls and rubbish in a restaurant after a meal to make it easier for the server to collect/clear up - as a former waitress, I very much preferred to do this myself at the table, but if it’s self service then yes, do it and take it to the station

I do all except the bottom one. My mother and sister both worked in restaurants and it pisses them off when customers do this.

I do all of them, although I don't stack plates but do put things onto the tray in a self service place.

I also thank bus drivers and drivers who stop for me at zebra crossings, but not pelican crossings because there is less discretion with a red light.

Surely 99% of people do these their pretty basic. I don't stack plates but I clean up after myself and kids if we've made a mess.

Depends on the type of restaurant maybe - but I genuinely don't expect to clear the table if I've paid restaurant prices and service charge.

I do get hacked off by people that don't clear trays & debris away in a self service restaurant.

I do all except stack plates, I think they're polite and good manners. I don't stack plates because I assume the waiter will have a preferred method, and quite honestly if I'm paying eg 50 quid each or more I'm sure they wouldn't expect me to. If I go to a cafe where food or drink comes on a tray I put everything back on the tray at the end.

I wouldn't describe those things as having manners (or not). It's just basic common sense to tidy up after yourself, imo.

I wouldn't stack plates at a restaurant though as it can make things harder.

Customers stacking dishes was my pet hate as a waitress. People did all sorts, like stacking with napkins in between plates or cutlery between dishes and I hated it. Everyone has their own way.

I always stack plates. Twice I've been thanked by waiting staff as having good manners and asked if I worked in hospitality.

I’m not sure those examples are ‘manners’, maybe the tucking the chair under the table but certainly none of the others. Stacking plates at the table in a restaurant is a big no no ‘manners’ wise.

I don't stack plates. I kind of have drawer blindness though. I can walk past an open drawer and don't notice it.

Absolutely - manners are about other people feeling comfortable, which is why it's terribly impolite to point out someone's poor manners.

I don't plate stack. I don't always close doors either, it depends on the context. I do the others.

I would move something which is difficult for a server to reach, but I don’t stack.

Oops, I generally do the last one and I was a waitress for a long time when I was younger. I think it's a bit dependent on the table layout, so I do it if some seats are difficult to get to. Maybe I'll stop.

Yes all except the last one.

So many people forget that what we mostly called manners is simply not being kind to other people and not being selfish

All apart from stacking plates. I do push them all to the edge of the table so they’re easier to collect. I see it as respect for other people’s time as why should they tidy up after me?

Mind you, I also strip the bed when I stay in a hotel which MN regards as ‘doing unpaid work’ but again takes me 5 minutes and that 5 minutes is worth much more to the cleaner than to me.