Manners - do you do any/all of these things?

I do all but the last one. Servers often want to clear the plates in their own way so they can balance the plates on their arm. They wouldn't always welcome the customer stacking dishes for them.

I do them all, including stacking plates which until this thread I thought was a nice helpful thing to do.

Are there really people that don't tuck in chairs or close draws?? How strange. Don't these things get in their way?

I know people don't put back baskets and trolleys but I do.

Edit: actually come to think of it I don't ever use the baskets.

I do every single one of these. I used to work as a waitress in a hotel restaurant and the amount of people who cant be arsed stacking their plates or tidying up after themselves is beyond me

I return trolleys, I don't return baskets because I'd have to leave the store and go back in which seems a bit excessive. If there's an obvious place by the till to stack them I will though.

I try to do these but I can be a bit oblivious about spacial awareness and have been roasted a few times in shopping malls for being too close to people when it's heaving. To be honest they end up being ruder than my original error by shouting and getting angry. I always happily point this out in a polite way of course.
As for cupboard doors in our house, kitchen regularly looks like we have a poltergeist. I need to train them all better.

I do everything apart from the last one.

But don't get me started on returning trolleys.

I read somewhere that returning trolleys (or not) is a good indication on whether a person is, on the whole, a "good" member of society. There is no reward for doing so, but neither is there a penalty/punishment for not returning it.
It's whether they have an internal motivation/desire to "do the right thing", follow the rules, make things easier for the workers etc.

I have been known from time to time to tell people "that's not where the trolley goes you know." It doesn't go down well, but if they're a bit embarrassed, then good.

Yep. Same with me.
I also think leaving shoes tidily together when you take them off instead of in a heap is good manners, DH.

Tucking your chair in when you've left a table
No because it can be difficult to push/pull chairs but it depends on where and how much space there is

Putting your basket back after using the self checkout in the supermarket
Back where?
Closing doors and drawers after opening them
Drawers, yes always
Doors- depends on the circumstances

Stacking plates/bowls and rubbish in a restaurant after a meal to make it easier for the server to collect/clear up
As an ex waitress I hate this.
Leave the staff to sort the plates themselves.

I do them all apart from the last one. My children do the same.

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Stacking plates makes the back of the plates dirty - gross

All but the last which depends where I am; in a cafe - yes, in a restaurant - no.

That's very true.

Peak MN 😄

I actually think manners are difficult to define - I think people with truly good manners can put others at their ease, and enable social situations to run more easily. So, it's less a formula of Do X, don't do Y, and more a way of being.

I do if there is one of those, like in Ikea, but my local M&S and Costa are the only ones I go to regularly and neither has one, the staff collect the dirty crockery on trays.
There is actually a cafe in my town with a sign asking customers to please leave their dirty crockery on their table.

definitely do first three, definitely don’t do the last - have always been told it’s bad manners to stack plates in a restaurant and I cringe if I’m out with someone who does. Of course I would try and be helpful and pass things along a large table etc

All except the last, that is just odd. It is the waiting staff's job to do that and stacking would be indicative of impatience and could therefore potentially cause offence. I do however pass them my plate etc if it is awkward for them to get to it (weird table placement, banquette seating etc).

I do all of these things, although I don't leave things between dishes as mentioned, but wouldn't class any of them as manners just normal things really.

I never leave a serviette behind that I've used, to me that would be showing myself to have bad manners, purely because I'd not want to touch something that someone had wiped their mouth/hands or even blown their nose, I don't do that one though, on so I'd not expect anyone to do so.

I do all of them. The plate stacking is a bit dependent on which restaurant, but I'll always gather cutlery, serviettes, dropped food etc onto plates before they take them.

All of them, except the last.

I do all , except stacking plates in a restaurant
I used to work in hospitality, believe me , it doesn’t help

1 to 4, but not 5. I'm never sure if stacking is helpful to waiting staff. Some say it isn't. I try to be courteous to them by tidying any excess mess and giving a decent tip.

Yes, I hand my plate over if it's clear it'll make it easier, when in a big party for example. But stacking everything is not expected in a restaurant and is not good manners.

*dishwasher