So my 11 year old DD came home from playing with outside with some friends and told me in confidence that two of her younger mates had been accessing pornhub. They didn't do it infront of her or the other kids present but it was mentioned and the boys were laughing about it. We had (several) chats about it and discussed why watching porn is not a great idea. She seems OK about everything but has asked me not to tell on her friends.
So I am at a bit of a loss about how to proceed. On the one hand I don't want to break her confidence as it could damage our relationship. It would be impossible to alert the mums witout mentioning my DD and no saying if they would tell their kids she snitched on them. On the other hand I worry about the boys and the impact this might have on spreading the use of porn in their school. It's a very small school which my DD also goes to.
If I dod approach the boys mothers Iam apprehensive about how they might react. Internet rules for the kids vary greatly in our community and I am known for being quite strict. So a bit worried they would receive my hearts up as some massive critisism.
I did think of speaking to the school and asking them to step in. Not telling them the names of the boys but just that this is happening in the class. They could then potentially alert the parents...
I could off course do nothing and mind my own business! I discussed this with my DH who thinks I should keep out of it but it doesn't sit right with me. If this was my kid I'd want to know....
So what would you do?
- Tell the mums privately one on one
- Tell the school and hope they handle it
- Do nothing