To not take full bereavement leave?

Yes, that's such a horrible task, isn't it? I hated doing that.

I think take what you need, if you're ready to go back earlier that's fine. I was OK in the immediate aftermath (had to be tbh as we don't get leave for bereavements where I am) but then had to clear out 2 houses (on 2 separate occasions) over weekends which was incredibly stressful and upsetting so a couple of days would have been hugely helpful

Take it if you feel it would be helpful. ❤️

Find out what your school would offer the other staff in the same circumstances, and what they’d offer support staff for the loss of a husband or child.

Im a TA and I took two unpaid days off when my closest grandparent died. One to be there on the day of her death and one for her funeral.

Take what you need. My mom died in summer hols but funeral was delayed. I was told I was allowed 1 poxy day. When my partner died I didn't bother mentioning it. Well being is a tick box activity at my school

That's incredibly generous, where I work is good to the employees but even they wouldn't give a week off, is that at full pay?

Take what you need, do you have to commit to a number of days in advance?

Take what you need whether that’s 1 day or 5 days. But do it for you not the children in your class. They’ll be fine with a supply for a few days.

Personally I’d only take less if I thought the distraction of work would be beneficial.

I agree that you might want to save some of the days for the funeral. I work for a Council and I think the policy is two days for close family members i.e. partner or child. I think most people just get a sick note and have as long as they feel they need though.

For me the question would be how are you? How are you functioning? Grandparents can be anything between someone that brought you up when your parent's couldn't, to someone you visit once a year or not at all.

OP, are these 5 days on full pay? I'm only asking because that may be a factor in your decision.

Maybe three days now then two days for the funeral?

Jesus wept.

So businesses have never been subsidised by taxpayers? Or recieved nice handouts from the tax payers?

Five days for a bereavement isn't ridiculous. Teachers aren't robots.

If you would feel better being at school and working, then take less. The school are being more generous than many would be.

Take what you need (just remember to leave a day for the funeral)

If you need it, take it. When each of my grandparents died, I used a day of it for their funerals but I didn't feel like I needed any more than that. But if I had, I would have taken it.

Sorry for your loss. I’m a teacher and if 5 days is standard that’s amazing. It depends how you feel. I wouldn’t take 5 days just because I could. You’ll need to request a day off for the funeral as well.

I'm a teacher. We don't have this. It's usually only 1 day paid for a close relative, anything else unpaid and with SLT discussion.
I had 3 days when my Mum died, 1 day for my Dad, the day of the funeral.
If your school is in a position to offer this, it's your choice to take it or not, I would imagine.

Happy to pay for someone to get adequate bereavement leave.

Take what you need, OP. Sorry for your loss

Take it. I would have killed for leave to go to my grandfathers funeral and cremation when he died abroad

Take it my lovely x

Was that really necessary?

What do you mean by tax payers are paying for it? So if someone is finding it very hard they shouldn't take the time?
We get 1 day for immediate family at my school, parents, siblings or children no one else. I was very close to my grandparents and had to take unpaid leave. So no, tax payers are not paying for it in every instance

I'd take off as much time as you feel you need.
It's just a job at the end of the day and your family and you are more important.

5 days is pretty generous so I'd take 5 days if I needed 5 days but go back sooner if you can

Gosh that is generous! I had one day for each of my grandparents, to attend their funeral. Take what you think you need, but like you, I’d probably be wanting to get back sooner if I felt up to it.