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Who's unreasonable ? Wife clearing up or man doing garden work

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whatdoyuthink · 29/09/2024 15:19

It's the weekend.. as usual really, man ( husband ) has found work to do outside the house in the garden. He's currently building a shed of some sort.

Wife as usual, inside, looking after kids. Cleaning up- cooking, doing laundry. Trying to keep kids from getting the way of said shed building.

Kids are 2 and 4.

We've baked, done crafts, set up our train, watched TV. I've cooked for everyone. Cleaned up after breakfast. Pretty much constantly been tidying since I got up today. The usual really. I am also trying to categorise toys as I go along today, which is something I hate doing.

Anyway, husband comes in from doing man work. I had food just out cold on the side for when he was ready but I warmed it up and served it, as it sort of seemed like he wanted that to be done..

He finishes his meal, leaves everything on the table and walks off to carry on with the work.

When I then said, can you at least clear it and put it next to the sink, I was told I'm a joke for asking.

He makes a massive mess when he eats. He gets all sorts of condiments, bread, butter, drinks out on the table and just leaves it out and I just wasn't up for clearing it.

Am I unreasonable or is he ? He's saying he's doing hard man work outside so I am a joke for asking him to clear his mess.

OP posts:
thunderbanana · 29/09/2024 15:23

Of course you’re not being unreasonable

what a prize you’ve got yourself there. Sounds like he’s checked out of family life if he’s spending his weekend faffing in the garden

i would of sent the dc out to help build the shed tbh

time for a serious chat if you think he’s got it in him to change

Nursemumma92 · 29/09/2024 15:22

YANBU- You already have cooked for him, washed his clothes and looked after the children all day. He is not a child and can put his plate/cup etc in the dishwasher or by the sink and wipe down the table. You are not his maid!

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