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To have expected them to swap DD’s tombola prize?

314 replies

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

OP posts:
TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 29/09/2024 16:14

Your child won a prize that was unsuitable. So what? I'm sure you or someone else can use it.
Usually, you don't win at all at a tombola.

Were the proceeds going towards a good cause?

isthismylifenow · 29/09/2024 16:02

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 15:44

It was in a chain family carvery style pub.

You asked. You were told yes by the majority. .

Are you at any point going to accept that?

Probably not so I have to assume you are now just being a wind-up merchant.

westernlights · 29/09/2024 16:00

Life lesson for your daughter, you dont always get what you want.
Plus her money helped towards funds or charity.

I'm sure she doesn't really need a crusty germ infested cuddly toy

LittleMousewithcloggson · 29/09/2024 15:59

farleysrusks · 29/09/2024 15:58

Not RTFT, but this seems irresponsible licence wise on the part of the pub?

It was brought directly to the op as an adult, not handed to the child
perfectly legal

TinDogTavern · 29/09/2024 15:58

Is there a better way to waste a Sunday afternoon than reading an AIBU when the OP asks if she's BU, the entire world says she is, and the OP spends hours insisting that she isn't?

No. No, there is not.

farleysrusks · 29/09/2024 15:58

Not RTFT, but this seems irresponsible licence wise on the part of the pub?

Drfosters · 29/09/2024 15:57

It going to lie, I was always delighted when the kids would turn up with the wine!

Sugarsugarahhoneyhoney · 29/09/2024 15:57

hillroad · 29/09/2024 14:29

i cannot believe parents like the OP exist!

Come on be serious!!!! Have you not read half the threads on Mumsnet lol

Maria1979 · 29/09/2024 15:55

Well, you were the one letting her enter a tombola where wine was one of the things to win. So you won the wine, bravo. I won a 100 £ reduction on tattoos once and I hate tatoos. Gave it to a friend. If you don't like the wine then give it away.

AdviceNeeded2024 · 29/09/2024 15:50

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 15:44

It was in a chain family carvery style pub.

If it was at a fete they likely would have had alcohol as a prize too, this makes no difference.

You can keep adding irrelevant updates but clearly everyone thinks you are BU, the updates you are adding will not change that!

Sethera · 29/09/2024 15:50

And the teetotal 23 year old who's delighted with the teddy she's won as it will be perfect for her niece suddenly finds it replaced by unwanted wine ...

SunshineAndFizz · 29/09/2024 15:48

Pull yourself together 😂

Original poster
LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 15:44

It was in a chain family carvery style pub.

OP posts:
TerrysNeapolitan · 29/09/2024 15:44

I won a box of cigars when I was 14 ha ha but it was 1986

WiserOlderElf · 29/09/2024 15:42

sharpclawedkitten · 29/09/2024 15:40

My son's school used to have an adult tombola and a child one! Avoids this problem.

Understandable for a school. This was in a pub though!

sharpclawedkitten · 29/09/2024 15:40

My son's school used to have an adult tombola and a child one! Avoids this problem.

harrumphh · 29/09/2024 15:40

I mean technically they should have a gambling licence to run a tombola because they're a business (they may already have one if they have fruit machines), and secondly they shouldn't be selling alcohol to children (which is what they've effectively done, because that would be far too easy a loophole otherwise). And before anyone jumps on me, I don't make the laws.

They should have planned ahead and swapped it out for a non-alcoholic version if requested at the very least.

Yousunkme · 29/09/2024 15:33

Intheoldendays · 29/09/2024 15:29

Thank you! 10 years plus now!

That’s amazing! I don’t know you but I am proud of you 😊

Mumwithbaggage · 29/09/2024 15:32

One of my dds and 3 of her school friends were in y6 and won a local raft race. Their prize? A case of wine! Prize was handed out to many giggles by a local celeb - they beat a team of fire fighters in the final! We were thrilled - I probably still owe dd a replacement prize...

BarbedButterfly · 29/09/2024 15:30

I still remember winning a raffle at eight years old and my prize was an electric drill. I was thrilled!

I probably wouldn't have expected it but am surprised they didn't since the winner was a child.

Intheoldendays · 29/09/2024 15:29

Thank you! 10 years plus now!

Yousunkme · 29/09/2024 15:27

Intheoldendays · 29/09/2024 15:20

I'm a recovered alcoholic and I ALWAYS win alcohol. Even joked about it on holiday where there were about 500 tickets sold at a 'do' as was buying my tickets. Who won the massive bottle of spirits...? I'd rather have had the spa day but hey!

Congratulations on your recovery!

isthismylifenow · 29/09/2024 15:21

InSpainTheRain · 29/09/2024 15:02

Why wouldn't you say well done to her for winning the wine and give her the choice of a toy or whatever to a certain value yourself? Then you, or a friend (if you don't drink it) can enjoy the wine? Not seeing the big deal here.

Yip. Instead of this, OP makes a bit song and dance about it, now I assume her dd thinks she didn't win a good prize. Meanwhile she won a great prize, for someone else to enjoy.

What a 7 year old would take from this is that if we don't get want we want, we complain.

This could have made for a nice life lesson for a 7 year old. Except it didn't here 🙈

Cherrysoup · 29/09/2024 15:21

Dear god. Just give her another quid and drink the bloody wine.

Intheoldendays · 29/09/2024 15:20

I'm a recovered alcoholic and I ALWAYS win alcohol. Even joked about it on holiday where there were about 500 tickets sold at a 'do' as was buying my tickets. Who won the massive bottle of spirits...? I'd rather have had the spa day but hey!

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