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To have expected them to swap DD’s tombola prize?

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

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NahNotHavingIt · 29/09/2024 21:16

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 20:55

I’ve gone back tonight as DD kept going on about the teddy on the tombola. The tombola has finished now but they said no one had won the teddy. So I’ve offered to donate to the charity which they then said I could have the teddy for her if I left them a cash donation for the charity so that’s what I’ve done and now DD has her teddy.

God, you're making a huge rod for your own back.

Tiredalwaystired · 29/09/2024 21:14

Prescottdanni123 · 29/09/2024 20:34

@TofuTart

Young kids are too small to understand gambling. All they know is that they have won...but received a disappointing prize. Either sell to adults only or make sure that the kids receive something age appropriate.

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It’s really not a big issue if kids are disappointed sometimes. I used to hate if if I won floral soap on the tombolas forty years ago. But thems the breaks. I’m not scarred for life and neither will they be.

UpTheMagicFarawayTree · 29/09/2024 21:14

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 21:07

It’s only a 5 minute walk from our house.

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That's not at all what I meant.

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 21:07

UpTheMagicFarawayTree · 29/09/2024 20:57

You went back! Wow.

It’s only a 5 minute walk from our house.

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westernlights · 29/09/2024 21:06

Remind me never to join the PTA

Thirdleg · 29/09/2024 21:05

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Smartiepants79 · 29/09/2024 21:03

Karmaisac4t · 29/09/2024 14:13

Tbf they aren’t supposed to give alcoholic prizes to under 18s

This.
When we run a ‘family tombola’ it can’t contain alcohol for this reason.
We have to have two, one for kids and one for adults.
They could have swapped it. You just change the tickets over! Not a very big deal. A bit mean and jobsworthy to not swap in my opinion.

hillroad · 29/09/2024 21:02

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 20:55

I’ve gone back tonight as DD kept going on about the teddy on the tombola. The tombola has finished now but they said no one had won the teddy. So I’ve offered to donate to the charity which they then said I could have the teddy for her if I left them a cash donation for the charity so that’s what I’ve done and now DD has her teddy.

i imagine you have left a lot of people in your wake both concerned for your mental well being and your capability to parent.

There will also be a fair few who will be chuckling about this for days to come

westernlights · 29/09/2024 21:00

Make sure you wash it Sad

UpTheMagicFarawayTree · 29/09/2024 20:57

You went back! Wow.

WiserOlderElf · 29/09/2024 20:56

Must have been an impressive teddy for all this aggro!

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 20:55

I’ve gone back tonight as DD kept going on about the teddy on the tombola. The tombola has finished now but they said no one had won the teddy. So I’ve offered to donate to the charity which they then said I could have the teddy for her if I left them a cash donation for the charity so that’s what I’ve done and now DD has her teddy.

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Prescottdanni123 · 29/09/2024 20:34

@TofuTart

Young kids are too small to understand gambling. All they know is that they have won...but received a disappointing prize. Either sell to adults only or make sure that the kids receive something age appropriate.

Thirdleg · 29/09/2024 20:33

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saltinesandcoffeecups · 29/09/2024 20:05

@LionMummy8 why did you let your child buy a ticket if they could potentially win alcohol?

Did you not see the prizes? Seems very irresponsible of you.

TofuTart · 29/09/2024 19:44

Ladyzfactor · 29/09/2024 19:33

Can someone explain what a tombola is? I'm American and have never heard of them.

Imagine a barrel with a little hatch
in the top.
The barrel is filled with tickets - the stall holder spins it round and then you take out 5 of them.
If you have a winning ticket number you win a prize (each prize is labelled with a number, if yours matches you win it. 🙂)
Great fun.
Hope I've explained that well and it makes sense lol

Ladyzfactor · 29/09/2024 19:33

Can someone explain what a tombola is? I'm American and have never heard of them.

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 29/09/2024 19:32

Karmaisac4t · 29/09/2024 14:13

Tbf they aren’t supposed to give alcoholic prizes to under 18s

I suppose a tombola is gambling so children shouldn't even be playing!

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 29/09/2024 19:32

That's how tombolas work. A ticket is assigned to a prize. They didn't say she had to drink it!

ToNiceWithSpice · 29/09/2024 19:32

Bloody hell, this is how tombolas have worked forever , do people really have to moan about everything these days?

Thfrog · 29/09/2024 19:17

Whaleandsnail6 · 29/09/2024 19:11

All if the people saying they shouldn't/dont think kids are allowed to play a game where you could win alcohol...would you really make a fuss at what is likely a money maker for a charity?! Adults can decide if they want their kid to play a game where a potential prize may be alcohol...just let it go.

I wouldn't make a fuss no. But I'm not the gambling commission or whatever they are called

Whaleandsnail6 · 29/09/2024 19:11

All if the people saying they shouldn't/dont think kids are allowed to play a game where you could win alcohol...would you really make a fuss at what is likely a money maker for a charity?! Adults can decide if they want their kid to play a game where a potential prize may be alcohol...just let it go.

TofuTart · 29/09/2024 19:11

Prescottdanni123 · 29/09/2024 18:44

If they are going to let kids buy tickets, they should have a different set of numbers for the kid's prizes.

Your kid can't win something they want every time.
That's kind of the point of gambling.

Nanny0gg · 29/09/2024 19:09

dizzydizzydizzy · 29/09/2024 18:11

This is what I was thinking too

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Nope. They just can't collect their winnings

(Veteran of many school fetes)

Nanny0gg · 29/09/2024 19:08

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:11

There were other child friendly prizes there.

where I work, when a child wins alcohol on a tombola we let them swap it for a more suitable prize. That’s just the right thing to do.

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We didn't

We just made them fetch their parents to collect it

Just keep the wine and buy your DD something else