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To have expected them to swap DD’s tombola prize?

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

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SpiggingBelgium · 30/09/2024 01:56

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 29/09/2024 22:25

A 7 year old should not be in a pub.

😆😆😆

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/09/2024 01:45

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 29/09/2024 22:25

A 7 year old should not be in a pub.

Families with children have meals in pubs all the time.

Starlightstarbright3 · 29/09/2024 23:44

My Ds got left a bottle of wine in our room by the hotel staff when we were abroad once … it was his 11th birthday .

I just kept it laughed .. oh and posted on fb to amuse my friends too 🤷‍♂️

Scirocco · 29/09/2024 23:42

Going back kind of makes the embarrassment factor worse. Especially as it's local to you.

Demonhunter · 29/09/2024 23:32

Ok @LionMummy8 what if your daughter won a ball. Not alcohol but not a teddy. Would you have gone back and told them to swap it if your daughter was going on about the teddy because she didn't like the ball?

Demonhunter · 29/09/2024 23:30

Can't wait for the Tik Tok story from the staff 😂 Imagine embarrassing yourself like this at your local pub for a tombola teddy.

Sad In A Box GIF
NotSoHotMess24 · 29/09/2024 22:48

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:17

DD gave the pound to her for the ticket.

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Maybe you should call the police?

Beezknees · 29/09/2024 22:41

It's a tombola. Stop being so precious.

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 22:40

Smartiepants79 · 29/09/2024 22:09

But how would another child know if they ‘should have’ won anything?? You swap the tickets over. No one would then get the ticket for the bear. They get the ticket for the wine.
I am generally not a person who panders to children in this kind of scenario. But this tombola was badly organised. The wine was a completely unsuitable prize for anyone under 18. In fact it’s an illegal prize.
If the prize had been anything else- another toy or food or anything, then I’d have been saying suck it up. But you don’t give a child a bottle of alcohol.

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This!

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TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 29/09/2024 22:25

A 7 year old should not be in a pub.

CoffeeGood · 29/09/2024 22:18

Smartiepants79 · 29/09/2024 22:09

But how would another child know if they ‘should have’ won anything?? You swap the tickets over. No one would then get the ticket for the bear. They get the ticket for the wine.
I am generally not a person who panders to children in this kind of scenario. But this tombola was badly organised. The wine was a completely unsuitable prize for anyone under 18. In fact it’s an illegal prize.
If the prize had been anything else- another toy or food or anything, then I’d have been saying suck it up. But you don’t give a child a bottle of alcohol.

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But that's absolutely NOT the point! It doesn't matter whether the next child was aware they should have won a teddy rather than wine, the fact is they may be really disappointed they won wine when their actual prize should have been the teddy which they may have really loved. Why should they have to learn a lesson that the OP wasn't willing to teach her child? Of course, it MAY have been an adult who was more than happy that the prize had been swapped. But since we don't know and it could have gone either way it's best that things are left to fair chance, as a tombola is supposed to be.

Also, if you have read the OP's posts, she does clearly say that the alcohol was NOT given to the child, it was given to an appropriate adult.

Jifmicroliquid · 29/09/2024 22:15

Do you not understand how a tombola works??
Yet another child being raised whose parent expects everyone else to change the rules and adapt to their child just so they can get what they want.

You should have taken the wine and told her you’d buy her some sweets or chocolate as a trade.

twentysevendresses · 29/09/2024 22:12

I won a 200 pack of Benson & Hedges in around 1970 at our village fete tombola. I was 6...my dad was very chuffed 👌🏻🤣

Smartiepants79 · 29/09/2024 22:09

CoffeeGood · 29/09/2024 22:03

Can you really not see that although your child might have been happy if they had swapped, another child that should have won that teddy might have been sad. Or are you one of the "I'm all right Jack" parents, that as long as your child is happy, sod the unfairness to someone else's child. And maybe THAT child's parent wouldn't have been able to throw money at the problem?

Your child is going to grow up entitled because at aged 7, she's realised if things don't go her way, mummy will throw some money at the problem and she'll get the thing she wanted. Good luck in another 7-9 years!!

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But how would another child know if they ‘should have’ won anything?? You swap the tickets over. No one would then get the ticket for the bear. They get the ticket for the wine.
I am generally not a person who panders to children in this kind of scenario. But this tombola was badly organised. The wine was a completely unsuitable prize for anyone under 18. In fact it’s an illegal prize.
If the prize had been anything else- another toy or food or anything, then I’d have been saying suck it up. But you don’t give a child a bottle of alcohol.

AmeliaEarache · 29/09/2024 22:07

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 20:55

I’ve gone back tonight as DD kept going on about the teddy on the tombola. The tombola has finished now but they said no one had won the teddy. So I’ve offered to donate to the charity which they then said I could have the teddy for her if I left them a cash donation for the charity so that’s what I’ve done and now DD has her teddy.

Oh my god. You are raising a diva.

7 year olds don’t win what they want and need to cope with that. What were you thinking?

CoffeeGood · 29/09/2024 22:03

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 21:35

I agree!

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Can you really not see that although your child might have been happy if they had swapped, another child that should have won that teddy might have been sad. Or are you one of the "I'm all right Jack" parents, that as long as your child is happy, sod the unfairness to someone else's child. And maybe THAT child's parent wouldn't have been able to throw money at the problem?

Your child is going to grow up entitled because at aged 7, she's realised if things don't go her way, mummy will throw some money at the problem and she'll get the thing she wanted. Good luck in another 7-9 years!!

Differentstarts · 29/09/2024 21:59

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 20:55

I’ve gone back tonight as DD kept going on about the teddy on the tombola. The tombola has finished now but they said no one had won the teddy. So I’ve offered to donate to the charity which they then said I could have the teddy for her if I left them a cash donation for the charity so that’s what I’ve done and now DD has her teddy.

I can't figure out whether your a complete fruit loop, your raising verruca salt, your an alcoholic who takes her kid to pubs on school nights or your a Billy bullshitter this is a really odd thread

MayaPinion · 29/09/2024 21:59

I’ve only ever won two prizes as a kid. One was a trouser press and one was a crystal ashtray on a stand. A bottle of wine is a great prize.

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 29/09/2024 21:53

In your system, OP, what would happen if the last two prizes remaining were wine, but both tickets drawn were being held by children?

To be fair, I can't imagine many children being desperate to enter a tombola in the first place if the only remaining prizes were booze...

LePetitMaman · 29/09/2024 21:48

NahNotHavingIt · 29/09/2024 21:16

God, you're making a huge rod for your own back.

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Exactly this. I'm cringing for OP, as if she actually went back.

Funkyslippers · 29/09/2024 21:47

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Kids need to understand that life doesn't always go their way. 'Keeping kids happy' is pretty unrealistic and unnecessary

WiserOlderElf · 29/09/2024 21:43

I think you should boycott the pub.

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 21:35

Smartiepants79 · 29/09/2024 21:03

This.
When we run a ‘family tombola’ it can’t contain alcohol for this reason.
We have to have two, one for kids and one for adults.
They could have swapped it. You just change the tickets over! Not a very big deal. A bit mean and jobsworthy to not swap in my opinion.

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I agree!

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Gymnopedie · 29/09/2024 21:28

The tombola has finished now but they said no one had won the teddy. So I’ve offered to donate to the charity which they then said I could have the teddy for her if I left them a cash donation for the charity.

How very fortuitous 🙄

Ghosttofu99 · 29/09/2024 21:21

You’ve got what you wanted so you should probably drop it now. They were just raising money for charity.