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To have expected them to swap DD’s tombola prize?

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

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PaperSheet · 29/09/2024 14:38

I recently won a 20 pack of beer on an expensive tombola! I cannot stand beer. Pretty much every single other prize would have been better for me. Some were amazing! So I gave it away. I was lucky enough to win anything and I was no worse off than if I hadn't won anything. It's just life. If everyone could swap prizes it would get silly.
Maybe the better way is so if you have a winning ticket you can choose. But that still only favours the first to play when there is many options.
The point of a tombola most of the time though is you just win what your ticket matches. Tough luck if you don't like it.

TickingAlongNicely · 29/09/2024 14:37

If thos had been a preschool, you must have a point.

But a PUB?

Thfrog · 29/09/2024 14:37

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:36

You just swap the numbers on the prize, that’s all. It takes 2 seconds.

so if you give her a child friendly prize. You take the number off the child prize and then put it on the bottle of wine, sorted.

This would be the easiest thing to do after a child had won alcohol.

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You can't rig the tombola

AdviceNeeded2024 · 29/09/2024 14:37

I mean, you got an almost free bottle of wine surely there’s a plus here somewhere!

AdviceNeeded2024 · 29/09/2024 14:36

Well there’s a valuable lesson here. We can’t all be winners in life.

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:36

sweeneytoddsrazor · 29/09/2024 14:34

So your DD pulls out ticket number 80. Its a bottle of wine. So they swap it for prize number 70. Then another child pulls out 70 is it OK for them to have the wine because your child got what they wanted. What would have happened if it hadn't been a winning ticket

You just swap the numbers on the prize, that’s all. It takes 2 seconds.

so if you give her a child friendly prize. You take the number off the child prize and then put it on the bottle of wine, sorted.

This would be the easiest thing to do after a child had won alcohol.

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wizzbitt · 29/09/2024 14:34

Whereabouts is this tombola? And is it still going? Asking for a friend.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 29/09/2024 14:34

So your DD pulls out ticket number 80. Its a bottle of wine. So they swap it for prize number 70. Then another child pulls out 70 is it OK for them to have the wine because your child got what they wanted. What would have happened if it hadn't been a winning ticket

ThatsNotMyTeen · 29/09/2024 14:34

Blimey

what a storm in a teacup

ThatAgileGoldMoose · 29/09/2024 14:34

Karmaisac4t · 29/09/2024 14:13

Tbf they aren’t supposed to give alcoholic prizes to under 18s

TBF they shouldn't have allowed an under 18 year old to have purchased a ticket if there was alcohol as prizes. It's more usual to divide it into two if kids are expected to want to buy tickets.

OP just take her to tesco and buy her a bag of sweets that she wants and swap it with her for the booze. Then have a large glass for yourself!

BobLemon · 29/09/2024 14:33

hillroad · 29/09/2024 14:29

i cannot believe parents like the OP exist!

I’m bloody glad they do.

Keeps AIBU fun 😁

Thfrog · 29/09/2024 14:33

Personally I don't think your child should have been allowed to enter if alcohol was a potential prize. However she was and that's the rules of a tombola so you need to get over it.

LittleGreenDragons · 29/09/2024 14:33

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:14

Exactly.

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Tombola is a form of gambling.

You agreed to your child to gamble so I guess they felt you considered her "adult" enough to win the alcohol.

Agree with above. You can ask to swap but a lot of places refuse.

ilovesooty · 29/09/2024 14:32

BIossomtoes · 29/09/2024 14:18

You take the wine and buy her something in exchange. Sorted.

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I won a set of saucepans on a tombola when I was a child. My mother gave me some money to buy some sweets and we were both happy.

BobLemon · 29/09/2024 14:32

There was WINE!? In a PUB tombola?!

<pearl clutch x ♾️>

Devilsmommy · 29/09/2024 14:32

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 29/09/2024 14:14

YABU. They can’t just swap prizes, that’s not how it works. I used to win alcohol all the time at those things when I was a child. It was a running joke in my family to send me over every time we saw one because I would usually come back with a bottle of wine for whichever adult I was with. They never swapped the prize for me and I didn’t expect them to. I was just happy to be able to give something to my family, and it was fun.

🤣 I was exactly the same. Always won a bottle 😁

LBFseBrom · 29/09/2024 14:31

No they certainly did not need to swap your daughter's prize. She can give you the bottle of wine and you give her a bit of extra pocket money.

Demonhunter · 29/09/2024 14:31

A child won a random prize from a family tombola, not a child's tombola, but a family one in a pub.

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AmeliaEarache · 29/09/2024 14:30

You do understand how tombolas work, don’t you, OP? Any of the random crap on the table can be won by anyone.

I’m vegetarian and won the voucher for the local butcher. I just gave it to my mate. My children have won all sorts of inappropriate stuff. There’s no swapping, it’s just how tombolas are.

hillroad · 29/09/2024 14:29

i cannot believe parents like the OP exist!

AgainandagainandagainSS · 29/09/2024 14:28

Luck of the draw OP.
This is when daughter learns humility and generosity and gives her prize to someone else who can enjoy it.
At our village tombola if a child wins alcohol an adult has to come and claim it. As with yours.
You have come out winning here. You have a bottle of wine and your child has no sugary crap or tat to fill your house with.

isthismylifenow · 29/09/2024 14:27

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:23

I was sat at the table in the pub and she went over to the tombola and played it with her pound. I could see her the whole time from the table. The lady working there brought her over to the table with (the member of staff was holding it) the wine she had won, I was getting up to walk over and then they started coming over to the table,

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So the problem is?

Your dd wasn't handed the wine. You were....

You are really making a big deal over nothing here.

Notreat · 29/09/2024 14:26

I'm afraid that's the way a tombola works. It's pot luck you can't pick and choose the prize. Most people get nothing at all.

WiserOlderElf · 29/09/2024 14:26

FearOfTheDucks · 29/09/2024 14:22

I've helped with tombolas before and if a child won an alcoholic prize the policy was not to give it to them directly but ask them to bring the adult they were there with over to claim it.

Swapping would have been far too much hassle and opened the door for people to ask for other swaps because whatever they won was unwanted or unsuitable in some way

Exactly this. You’d open the floodgates to teetotallers asking to swap their alcohol prize, vegans asking to swap their pack of sweets with gelatin in etc. The point of a tombola is you get what you’re given!

saltinesandcoffeecups · 29/09/2024 14:25

I remember one year cleaning up at my school’s fall bazaar in the ring toss game. I think I ended up with 3 or 4 2-liter bottles of coke, 2 bottles of champagne and a bottle of wine. I was 7 or 8 at the time. The people working the game just told me to get an adult to collect the liquor 🤷‍♀️ so I had my friends mum who took us collect them and she gave them back when she dropped me off at home. My mum was a little confused why I came home with so much alcohol but didn’t complain.

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