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To have expected them to swap DD’s tombola prize?

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

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clarehhh · 02/10/2024 16:09

I would just say to her when you drink it, this is the lovely wine you won for us. Possibly even give her a couple of pounds for a treat

Ellie1015 · 02/10/2024 12:42

At 7 I would expect her to be able to handle the disappointment if not winning the teddy. However glad all sorted.

Eejitmum101 · 02/10/2024 07:55

Wow, some people are so ungrateful.
I'll take the wine anyday

BlueFlowers5 · 01/10/2024 12:51

Can't you swap it with her for something she likes?

2dogsandabudgie · 01/10/2024 11:01

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 21:11

Oh yeah… 🤣

I’m going to have a glass of wine 😂

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I must admit it took me a while to work it out 😂

sweeneytoddsrazor · 01/10/2024 03:25

CorbyTrouserPress · 30/09/2024 21:30

If this is your job then you must know this would be classed as an incidental lottery under the Gambling Act 2005 and as such children can purchase tickets. As the alcohol was not given to a child but to the adult then I’m not sure what law you think they have broken.

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Having run many tombolas and made sure everything was legal and above board I would say no laws have been broken

DogsandFlowers · 30/09/2024 23:21

It's the whole point of a tombola no???
YABU it's a pound
Move on

whatsappdoc · 30/09/2024 23:13

I think you let a good teaching moment go by going back for the teddy. My dd would have been chuffed to get the wine as a win is a result in itself. I remember her grinning all over her face for once winning a box of dishwasher tablets.

Longleggedgiraffe · 30/09/2024 23:07

Technically, I thin k, they were in the wrong for giving the wine to her. As soon as it was obviously for a child they should have come up with something else.

Makingchocolatecake · 30/09/2024 22:45

I think most people would just drink the wine and buy their child some sweets or something.

Or keep it until she's old enough!!!

Sometimesright · 30/09/2024 21:44

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

Give her a couple of quid and drink it yourself

CorbyTrouserPress · 30/09/2024 21:30

Pumpkinsoup24 · 30/09/2024 18:50

They are breaking the law as you can't give children alcohol....and as mich fun as it is, children arnt actually allowed to gamble or take part in tombolas. It's not a family tombola if it is offering wine.
And before anyone jumps in with...children can, it's my job to know the law. Most people don't even realise that if your child picks the number for the scratch cards, then the cashier is supposed to refuse the sale and if caught going along with it will lose their job and a heft fine to the cashier and company and possible lose their licence.
You could have reported it if it was a pub, om sure he'd love to swap it for you than get a 38,000 fine.

If this is your job then you must know this would be classed as an incidental lottery under the Gambling Act 2005 and as such children can purchase tickets. As the alcohol was not given to a child but to the adult then I’m not sure what law you think they have broken.

Screamingabdabz · 30/09/2024 21:18

This would’ve been an ideal opportunity to teach your child about disappointment and building resilience. But no. She had to have the teddy at all costs. Parenting fail.

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 21:11

2dogsandabudgie · 30/09/2024 20:54

If the OP's daughter say had ticket no. 150 and the teddy was say no. 300, they just swap the tickets over so now ticket no. 300 is on the wine and 150 is on the teddy. The other ticket with 300 on it is still in the drum.

Hope I've explained that somewhat clearly 😁

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Oh yeah… 🤣

I’m going to have a glass of wine 😂

TickingAlongNicely · 30/09/2024 21:08

They didn't give the wine to the child though, they gave it directly to an adult.

MrsLighthouse · 30/09/2024 21:00

Annoying and as others have pointed out alcohol should be only given to over 18’s … but honestly it’s a non problem.

2dogsandabudgie · 30/09/2024 20:54

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 20:37

I’ve been thinking about this so much to make sure I’ve got this right 😂

but…wouldn’t swapping the ticket also involve rummaging around in the tub of tickets to find and dispose of the actual teddy prize ticket? 🤔

so not actually all that easy 😂

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If the OP's daughter say had ticket no. 150 and the teddy was say no. 300, they just swap the tickets over so now ticket no. 300 is on the wine and 150 is on the teddy. The other ticket with 300 on it is still in the drum.

Hope I've explained that somewhat clearly 😁

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 30/09/2024 20:50

My DS would have been chuffed to win a bottle of wine for me 😂😂

I can't believe you went back OP!

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 20:39

My DSs old year 6 teacher asked for tombola prizes for a school fair. I asked if they were allowed to accept alcohol so I could get rid of the bottles of jammy red the MIL insists on inflicting on us because I’m generous like that. She replied that was great as they had a separate bottle tombola.

Which sounds like my sort of fete event I will be honest 😂

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 20:37

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:36

You just swap the numbers on the prize, that’s all. It takes 2 seconds.

so if you give her a child friendly prize. You take the number off the child prize and then put it on the bottle of wine, sorted.

This would be the easiest thing to do after a child had won alcohol.

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I’ve been thinking about this so much to make sure I’ve got this right 😂

but…wouldn’t swapping the ticket also involve rummaging around in the tub of tickets to find and dispose of the actual teddy prize ticket? 🤔

so not actually all that easy 😂

JudgeJ · 30/09/2024 20:25

Thwart · 30/09/2024 20:07

My 10 year old was most pleased with the bottle of Laphroaig of the same age he won at the village fete this year.

If that had been my tombola he would have won it quite late on, I keep the best tickets in my pocket for the first half!

JudgeJ · 30/09/2024 20:23

ToNiceWithSpice · 29/09/2024 19:32

Bloody hell, this is how tombolas have worked forever , do people really have to moan about everything these days?

You would not believe some of the whining we get at the Christmas event, even adults saying 'Can I swap this for that?' and sulking when told No.

Bowies · 30/09/2024 20:09

By rights she should not have been allowed to enter, but it happened to me in the ‘olden days’ and sat in a cupboard for years. It was quite a novelty!
No-one would have asked for or expected a swap.

I don’t think you should expect to have it both ways OP. You could have just had a laugh about it and offered to buy her a teddy in exchange,

Thwart · 30/09/2024 20:07

My 10 year old was most pleased with the bottle of Laphroaig of the same age he won at the village fete this year.

justfornow1 · 30/09/2024 20:02

My DS 8 at the time won a tin of value new potatoes. She was lucky 😂