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DH refusing to drive my car

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GlowingStar · 29/09/2024 13:52

DH’s car is in the garage and has been for a week now (they are saying he won’t get it back until the end of next week!) which has left me to do all the driving over the past week. DH drives a tiny Fiat 500. I’ve tried to get him to drive my Tiguan over the past week but he just refuses and says it’s “too big” for him to drive compared to his Fiat. So I’ve had to do all the driving for the past week, including dropping him off at places where he could just drive to himself while I stay at home with DD but instead I have to drive him there because he refuses to drive my car. AIBU to just expect him to drive my car until he gets his car back and stop complaining that my car is too big? For example, last night he went for a meal with a friend, I had to take DD out the house twice to drop him off and pick him up, he could have just driven himself there like he would normally in his car but he wouldn’t do it as apparently my car is “too big” for him to drive,

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thunderbanana · 29/09/2024 13:58

up to him if he thinks it’s to big to drive
but I wouldn’t be ferrying him about then complaining about it. The first time he asked I’d of handed him my car keys and said it’s that or catch a bus

Circumferences · 29/09/2024 13:58

He sounds considerate.
I wouldn't want my husband driving my car if he wasn't used to it!
You should be maybe a bit happy he's cautious and not an irresponsible twat

Doublesidedstickytape · 29/09/2024 13:57

You don’t have to do anything. You can tell your DH to drive himself.

IAmASpoon · 29/09/2024 13:57

I don't drive, my partner does. It would never occur to me to demand he drive me somewhere or pick me up?! I either walk, get the bus or a taxi. He also sometimes offers to drop me off or pick me up if it's not particularly inconvenient for him but I'd never expect it. That's ridiculous.

Lammveg · 29/09/2024 13:56

I do get the anxiety of driving a bigger car but he'll never learn unless he tries. Tell him to take it for a short local drive so he gets used to it, and he will adjust quickly.

Absolutely do not keep giving him lifts (which I know is easier said than done), but it's not fair especially when you have to take DD as well.

Pandasnacks · 29/09/2024 13:55

He's saying no to driving your car, you can say no to being his taxi.

Macaroninecklace · 29/09/2024 13:55

Well he can decide to drive it or not, but I wouldn’t have been providing an evening taxi service with my child alongside just to take him to see his friends.

nutbrownhare15 · 29/09/2024 13:54

You didn't have to take your DD out though, you could and should have said no. Is there a reason why you can't say no to him?

saltinesandcoffeecups · 29/09/2024 13:54

Well you are being unreasonable if you continue to drive him and then complain about it. Just tell him no.

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