DH refusing to drive my car

Lots of people have problems with depth perception and /or spatial awareness, maybe your husband is one of them? Going from a fiat500, one of the smallest cars around, to an SUV is a massive jump.

It's an SUV - how is that not big?

I wouldn’t drive my partner’s car for the same reason but then I would just call an Uber to go to dinner and back and not expect a lift.

I sympathise with your DH - it is horrendous driving a much bigger car than you are used to and have refused a courtesy car which was a good bit bigger than the one I normally drove, after an accident which wasn't our fault. We were told that they were offering that car as it was the same 'class' as our car. Same class it may have been, but it was both longer and wider. ( We did get a smaller one)!

If it really worries him that much, he is much more likely to have an accident in it, if he's feeling that unconfident. Having said that, he's being unreasonable to expect you to drive him everywhere until his is fixed

I'm not a fan of driving DH's car but that's an ergonomics issue not about size of vehicle. I am insured, and I do drive it if it's the more practical option. Most of the time we tend to do the his 'n' hers car thing because it's a PITA adjusting the seats and mirrors around each time. I have to scoot along bringing his seat forwards from somewhere near the back and he struggles with the space to even bend down to reach the seat lever in mine as it's so close to the steering wheel and pedals. We wouldn't want to not be named drivers on the other's car and at the point of starting a policy, it tends to be no disadvantage, and can even be cheaper.

Just refusing to drive an avaliable car because it's big and expecting the other driver to put themselves out is selfish and pathetic.

Bigger cars tend to be nicer to drive. They have better view points from being higher/ more upright seating. They tend to have better design features even at more basic models and they tend to have more power and comfortable suspension. Also other drivers tend to drive with more respect with fewer issues like tail gating. I notice the difference in small, basic hire cars. More space in a parking space and smallier turning circles are about the only advantage of a small car.

Aren't you embarrassed by him?? He sounds like a wuss. I drive big cars, small cars, horse lorries. I'm a 4 ft 9 women with no great driving skills but I'm not a wimp like he seems to be.

The word you need to learn is No. Why the hell are you pandering to him? You are enabling him.

DH has never driven and doesn't have or want a licence. The arrangement has always been that if I can I'll drive him but if I can't or it would be inconvenient then he gets a bus, walks or rides his bike.

Be clear that he absolutely does not have to drive your car if he doesn't want to but that you're not his chauffeur and won't be going out of your way to fulfil his every transportation need. So he'll have to make his own arrangements.

Agreed

Driving is driving - my husband’s car is bigger than mine but I still drive it if I need to. Don’t like having to shoehorn it into small parking spaces admittedly but driving it is no different to driving anything else :/

I mean, it's his choice as to what he feels comfortable driving or not, but he shouldn't then be expecting you to taxi him around.

I'm surprised that he won't even try it out to be honest. No doubt there was a time when even driving a little Fiat 500 would have seemed daunting, but he got used to that.

He sounds pathetic. Stop being a taxi service for him.

Including work. Is there a bus he can get?

In that case I’d just put him on the insurance and let him know the car is available if he needs to go somewhere.

His insurance covers third party damage if he’s driving someone else’s car with their permission.

I would check the policy very carefully. 'Drive other cars' doesn't ordinarily include spouses vehicles.

You don’t need to go with him for a drive. Thats probably what’s putting him off. He just needs to go by himself.

He's pathetic. Bigger cars are easy to drive, sometimes easier than small ones. I may be biased as I have an irrational hatred of Fiat 500 drivers 😂 they're worse than Audi drivers. But honestly, my driving instructor had 2 cars. A little auto and a manual 7 seater that handled like the Titanic. I could switch easily between them and I was not what you would call a natural driver.

He needs to either at least try it or get really comfortable with public transport.

This.

What a wet wipe he is. Why didn’t you stand your ground and refuse to drive him like he’s refusing to drive your car?

He is not unreasonable to not drive your car and you are not unreasonable to say no to lifts.

Are taxis an option where you live ? I’m a single parent and when my kids all needed to be in different places, we often resorted to taxis.

If he's scared and doesn't want to drive it, thats really up to him...

But refusing to try AND then expecting you to ferry him around like a personal chauffeur... nope! Stop doing that immediately - if you're not going that way anyway, tell him to fuck off with that idea!