DH refusing to drive my car

Sometimes we have to be adults and do stuff that is intimidating and nerve wracking. I was nervous about hiring a van recently to transport furniture but it was surprisingly easy to drive.
I think making him take public transport will motivate your DH to try driving the Tiguan. Natural consequences do motivate people. Driving him around is a rod for your own back. You are his spouse, not chauffeur.

Not to derail, but you may well find that, come renewal time, it's actually cheaper to add him on to the insurance, even if he point-blank refuses to ever drive your car. Worth checking.

I'm 4' 11" tall and I used to drive a people carrier. No problem with it at all.

Tell him to man up.

He is BU.

I hate driving my DH car as it’s so different from mine, but if mine is in the garage then I suck it up and use his. I feel a bit uncomfortable using it but I’m just grateful to have a backup option really and certainly wouldn’t be asking him to chauffeur me around!

Well every day is a school day!
We're insured on each other's cars but I'd never heard of this

You didn't have to though for goodness sake. You say to him take my car or get a taxi. Goodness sake

Just in case he does decide to go for it, this doesn't usually cover driving your spouse's car.

Who drives on holiday or long drives? Family days out? To get big items from shops? Has car seat in their car? Is that by any chance always you too?

DH doesn't drive. He has gone out today by bus. He will either get the bus or an Uber back. I will occasionally offer a lift -when it's not inconvenient for me - but he would never demand it.

I certainly wouldn't be inconveniencing both myself and my child if he was capable of driving himself in a car which is available, but chose not to. No is a complete sentence.

It easily fits in a normal parking spot, it fits down a typical road, it’s got five seats, it’s shorter than a Focus or Golf estate (albeit fractionally wider)… it’s an ordinary family car. If he’s got spatial awareness or depth perception issues serious enough he can’t drive it then arguably he shouldn’t be driving anything.

That normally excludes a spouse or partner, or anyone that lives at the same address.
Check your policy details before suggesting he does that. I doubt very much he will be covered.

Haven't voted, as not sure which question you are asking.
I think any driver IBU to not be able to drive other cars (that they are insured for).
I think YABU to chauffeur him about so much whilst resenting it.
Depending on what it would cost you extra, it would seem logical for both of you to be able to drive either car if adding the other doesn't shoot the cost of your premium up.
I would not be putting a little one in the car to ferry him about when they should be in bed, as there are always alternatives (public transport, mate drives, postpone and do the meal when he has his car back, insure himself on your car for a week, etc etc).

What attracted you to such a wet lettuce.

Sorry i neant to say the kind thing would be to give some lifts and encourage him to take taxi sometimes .

I dont drive my DH car because its too big and its also different to mine in many ways. I think the kind thing to do would be to encourage him to take a taxi or go by bike. Not everyone finds it easy to switch between cars.

He isn't covered. OP said he has 'drive other cars' on his own policy; usually this isn't applicable to spouses cars.

Yanbu.

But I think your both in the right (as well as wrong).

He's right not to drive a car he's not comfortable driving.

You're right that he shouldn't expect you to be a taxi service and drag dd out.

He's wrong for expecting such a taxi service.

And you're wrong for providing it against your will.

I was the same about big cars until I had a shot. I love being high up, was in my element driving a minibus.

He's probably prefer it if he would just had a go. You might not get it back.

I'd absolutely refuse to drive him, if he's covered on your insurance and has a license.

My friend is like this, she won't drive anything bigger than a 1.2 😅 he's not unreasonable being uncomfortable I don't think, but he is to be asking for lifts when it's his issue and choice to not drive your car when you've offered. It's fine to say no OP!

My husband developed epilepsy last year. So now he can't drive.
He would never expect me to do that for him especially when it comes to having to take our child out late at night.

He's aware I have to do the running around for our daughter/school runs etc and is aware I can't do everything.
I do drop him off places if I can. If it's late or I'm at work etc he takes public transport.

I wouldn't offer to take him anywhere when he can drive and there is a car available! If he doesn't want to drive....then he needs to find an alternative!

What a wimp you married OP!

Your dh needs to man the fuck up as your car isn’t exactly big ….. stop giving him lifts

I find the idea of his and hers cars when you're married weird anyway. We have two cars, they are both ours and we drive them interchangeably.

Has he not been driving very long? He really needs to just step up and try the bigger car.

BTW, my DH would not drive my Seat Ibiza. It wasn't big enough for him! I loved that car.

IMO these replies are harsh.

Ffs it’s your husband, is it that much of an inconvenience to give him a few lifts for a week or two.