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Lost kitten, was I wrong.

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timeforacoffeebreak · 29/09/2024 12:25

I found a kitten on Friday afternoon whilst picking my child up from school. It was in the playground, and as I was about to leave I saw a group of older children picking up and dropping this kitten, then chasing it around the playground.
I ended up picking her up and taking her home. She's no more than 12 weeks old.
I've posted it online on all of the lost cat groups I can, and the local ones I can find. Loads of shares, but nothing.
I've taken her to the vets, they said perfectly healthy little thing, but no chip.
I've put up posters near where I found her and a little around where we live.
She was grubby, and her claws are incredibly worn, and almost black at the tips, but she is very friendly.
My family thinking I was being unreasonable to take her home (we are only a few mins walk away from where I found her) and that essentially I have just stolen somebody else's cat.
But in my opinion, I've saved her from a bad situation, and I'm trying to find her owner. I couldn't have left her there, terrified. And the school is near a very busy main road.
Kittens that young that aren't chipped OR spayed should NOT be out like that!?
We have 2 cats already, so we are able to provide for her for the time being, and if nobody comes forward, we will keep her.
Was I being wrong here? What would you do?

OP posts:
WhichEllie · 29/09/2024 14:02

timeforacoffeebreak · 29/09/2024 12:51

For some reason she does look a lot bigger in pictures!! The vet had a look at her teeth and confirmed she was around that mark though. Though nobody really knows an exact age 😆

Vets are notoriously awful at guesstimating kitten’s ages. That one is at least 5 months, so make sure she stays indoors or gets spayed soon as she’s getting close to that age. She’s a cutie!

Thameslock · 29/09/2024 14:02

Your new arrival will remember that you saved her! Whether she will be grateful or not!who knows. she is a cat! We have found though that our rescue moggies have always turned out to be the sweetest little souls. Good on you for giving her a loving home, sod the family,they are just being arseholes…

timeforacoffeebreak · 29/09/2024 13:58

BCSurvivor · 29/09/2024 13:41

You've definitely done the right thing.
The only thing I would add, re the posters, is to be really careful about handing a vulnerable kitten over to someone without proof of ownership.
Sadly, there are some truly awful people out there who "acquire" free cats via social media for dog baiting, etc.

On the poster it does have a picture of her , my number, and that to come forward you need proof of ownership. I. e a photo or something otherwise she won't be handed over. They've been up over 24 hours and nothing yet. I am really considering taking them down.

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FupaTrooper · 29/09/2024 13:57

People too irresponsible to microchip their cats before letting go them out, don't deserve them. So even if she wasn't a stray, she is better off with you.
You did the right thing OP, she looks beautiful.

sassyduck · 29/09/2024 13:55

You definitely did the right thing. Really hope she gets to stay with you.

Noshowlomo · 29/09/2024 13:54

What a beautiful cat you have 😍 you are 100% in the right in what you did.

bulb34 · 29/09/2024 13:51

You did absolutely the right thing - well done! A kitten that young should not be out!

Sinisterbag · 29/09/2024 13:51

Why does this never happen to me?!! You did absolutely the right thing OP, congrats on your gorgeous new cat Smile

Tryingtryinghoping · 29/09/2024 13:50

You did the right thing . I remember when I found 2 kittens 5/6 weeks old and I couldn’t catch them and nobody not even rescues would help me and I tried everything it didn’t have a good ending sadly it really affected me for ages

Cocothecoconut · 29/09/2024 13:49

I think you now have a cat OP
she is gorgeous

Howmanyusernames123 · 29/09/2024 13:49

“Cat distribution system” is bollocks. It’s an excuse to steal/keep cats. You can’t and shouldn’t just keep cats unless you are as certain as you can be it’s unwanted.

o/p as long as you have made reasonable attempts to finds owners- posters, vets, social media etc then it’s your responsibility as to what happens.

OhmygodDont · 29/09/2024 13:48

Fedupwithteenagers24 · 29/09/2024 13:43

Our vet wouldn’t spay our kitten at 12 weeks and said the chip process hurts so would do at the same time
So could be a reason there is no chip etc

Seems odd unless kitten was very small ours will chip from 8 weeks though it is franchised.

sundayagainagain · 29/09/2024 13:43

You did the right thing. And I think you should take the posters down, the cat has found her home.

Fedupwithteenagers24 · 29/09/2024 13:43

Our vet wouldn’t spay our kitten at 12 weeks and said the chip process hurts so would do at the same time
So could be a reason there is no chip etc

BCSurvivor · 29/09/2024 13:41

You've definitely done the right thing.
The only thing I would add, re the posters, is to be really careful about handing a vulnerable kitten over to someone without proof of ownership.
Sadly, there are some truly awful people out there who "acquire" free cats via social media for dog baiting, etc.

PosiePetal · 29/09/2024 13:37

What exactly do your family think you should have done , then ? Leave her to die? You absolutely did the only things anyone should do.

FS90 · 29/09/2024 13:37

You absolutely did the right thing. Thank goodness you found her, that was a dire situation for her to be in. I would report the children to the school!

Runningupthecurtains · 29/09/2024 13:36

timeforacoffeebreak · 29/09/2024 12:40

Here she is everybody ☺️

I was about to say I couldn't possibly answer that question without photo!
Of course you did the right thing. Congratulations on your third cat 🐈 💕

Catandsquirrel · 29/09/2024 13:35

You did the right thing, the children were mistreating her at the time and your judgement was that she was too little to be out safely. Different if you just took a fancy to a big healthy adult and started claiming it looked lost. If anyone recognises her, they'll see the posters and be so happy she's been looked after. She might be feral or a farm cat, most pets are chipped these days.

I would report the children to the school. Even if you don't know names, a general assembly on kindness to animals wouldn't go amiss.

Butnothingsclear · 29/09/2024 13:35

Any one looking for their cat would ask the local vet and look on Facebook.

Id take the posters down after a couple of days to be honest. You don’t want her taken by anyone that might wish her harm.

iloveeverykindofcat · 29/09/2024 13:33

Oh my gosh, you've done the right thing OP, no way should a kitten that young be out on its own. If she had an owner they obviously didn't care about her. I've got a young girl from Cats Protection who was turned over to the shelter at the age of 8 months or so, with her own kitten (that she played with like a toy, because she was a kitten herself), because...the owners didn't want a cat anymore. That's it. They had a ton of animals and periodically lost interest in them. Some people treat pets as easy-come, easy-go commodities.

MereDintofPandiculation · 29/09/2024 13:31

Get her spayed asap. Then anyone wanting to claim her for breeding won’t be interested.

MissSkegness1951 · 29/09/2024 13:25

You've made a lot of effort to find the owners and no one has come forward so I imagine the cat was deliberately dumped in an area where children would see it and parents would do as you did and take it home.

Igmum · 29/09/2024 13:22

You absolutely did the right thing and she is gorgeous 😻 so is your tortie @EachandEveryone and sounds like she has loads of tortietude.

Here's to the happy and safe kittens everywhere ❤️

OhmygodDont · 29/09/2024 13:21

EachandEveryone · 29/09/2024 13:20

I would stop looking for her owner. They will probably only breed from her. They clearly don’t care.
Here is my kitten found afew weeks ago aged about seven weeks. I made no effort to find her owner. She was with her sister and I don’t think would’ve survived much longer outside. She now stops around my flat like lady muck and her sister lives on a ginormous house with human siblings. I have no regrets.

Such a pretty kitty