To not want to buy Christmas gifts

YANBU but I don’t get why you are trawling the shops when you could just order something online?

you sound like you don't like her much anyway so if she is offended what difference will it make ?
no judgement btw as she sounds hard work !

I've really cut down in recent years, and plan to cut more. I'm down to my DD, mum snd dad. My DB is hosting this year so I might make a Christmas hamper for him to say thanks but I won't go mad.

My side of the family do secret santa and we include the kids in this. Its a £10 limit and the rule is, everyone chooses for the person that they get, even the kids get involved with choosing. Its good fun and not too costly.

My dh side of the family, I am going to suggest not doing adult gifts this year, except for parent in laws. We all have kids so no childless person ends up buying but not recieving and I'm sure we all secretly feel we buy for the sake of buying...its generally generic bath sets or socks.

I'm going to say I'm just buying for actual children from now on, this includes not buying my adult neices and nephews on this side (all over 20 years old now) and just cut it right down and hope no-one gets offended

I've completely stopped birthdays and Christmas,only buying for my dc and dh
I'm so sick of never getting a thankyou ,that I'm not sending any more

The thing is, the issue is your sibling. You still want to buy gifts for your parents/dcs/dh.
As it's only 1 person, would it really save that much stress?
Your sibling doesn't have kids, so I would imagine they would feel really left out. You only have one sibling so I'd just do it, small token and not think much more into it

An Aunt and I have an agreement that we will each treat ourselves with the money we would have spent on gifts and postage. So if you chose not to treat yourself, that's on you. Funds my Christmas cheeseboard every year!

I said to my siblings 'our families are getting bigger and things are a bit tight so I would rather not do Christmas gifts any more'. Honestly, they were all pretty relieved. Don't make it more of a drama than you need to. Even if your sister is a bit peeved she will get over it.

I said per household. My aunt and uncle and I have a set amount we spend on each other. They don't have children and I live alone. Obviously family circumstances differ. Op indicated they would still give to parents.

My family don't do gift giving anymore, and it's such a relief. No pressure at Christmas.

I mean the only gifting grandparents parents and children idea.

I don't think this is fair for adults without children. We have a couple in our family and they would just be giving and getting nothing to open themselves

Either tell her you are stopping Xmas presents except for children and your parents or set a price limit per household and stick to it. Tell her you are setting a limit and suggest she sticks to It too. It doesn't sound like she will like whatever you get anyway!

Your sibling really doesn't sound like a very nice person. I think you should just say that you want to stop presents due to finance. It's rude to criticise someone's gift giving when they have made an effort and as for being afraid to tell them a gift was from Asda, what a snob. I'd much prefer it, if my gift giver found a bargain!

Me and my brother just give each other chocs or fudge, we know the other will like. Neither of us are money orientated though, even though he earns way more than me. He would be fine if we stopped and understands that having kids is expensive, even though he doesn't have any.

She can naff off then. I challenge you to send a text today!

Make her something like a Dundee cake, buy a Christmas themed tin ( or use an empty chocolate tub) post. Job done.
Or, just send a card.

If your dsis buys for your dc then I think you do need to get them something. Or you knock buying for everyone on head.

Don't then, start a new tradition and trend.
You've been brainwashed into thinking you have to buy presents but you don't.
I've stopped cards, presents, tree, it's liberating.
You have choice.
Hopefully more people will start following suit and be refused to be drawn into the madness of Christmas.

Just tell
them now that you feel that Christmas has become too commercialised and stressful and that from now on you will only be buying gifts for your parents and children and you’d prefer it if they didn’t buy anything for you. If they really feel they have to them you’d prefer they make a donation in your name to x charity. Tell them if they do giv

One of my brothers doesn’t give gifts. I still send a token something for nieces and nephews but they know there is no pressure to reciprocate as I just do it because I like to (if he had told me explicitly no presents then I wouldn’t even do that).

Alternatively how’s your baking. Sometimes I just make biscuits/scones/flapjack for friends birthdays. Thoughtful but cheap.

I agree with other posters and just tell her now. Tell her that you want a smaller, less fuss christmas. I only buy for immediate family now. The only card I send is to my favourite uncle who lives a long way away from us and we always get one back from him too, which makes my Xmas as he always writes a little letter to go inside 😊

We stay in on Xmas day. I see my mum and her partner beforehand and after the day itself and see other family members beforehand, too. MIL pops round late afternoon Xmas day, and I'll drive her home, but other than that, we have a lovely, relaxed, less stressed Xmas now. We don't go OTT on presents or food etc. We just buy what we are actually going to eat. Our children are now 18 and 11 and don't want for much anymore, which is bliss 😆 But I've always budgeted. Do Xmas your way!