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Am I bu to feel that this is an inappropriate thing to say to a parent who's lost lost their child?

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EnfysHeulenEira · 29/09/2024 08:29

Lost my son Isaac six moths ago to neroblastoma; it was absolutely the worst Time or our lives.

At the time we go so many people comment. Post or text

oh that's so, I'll give my littles a extra big squeeze tonight: I don't think I'd still be here if I was you, I'd have killed myself

I mean thanks I guess, I've got 2 year old and I am 39 weeks pregnant.I can't give up, my babies need me.

I saw a woman who used to be good friends with me before Isaac died and then dropped me when he died, said to me yesterday. Oh wow you look glowing! I'm so glad you were able to move on and replace Isaac, you know when that sorry thing happened I just couldn't stop crying thinking about my own babies dying I just hug them a little tight now

First of all there is no replacing Isaac! Second of all you knew I was pregnant when we lost him and lastly fuck out about the holding your babies tighter. Someone wrote in a card that was attacked to flowers we got '
sleep well Isaac, will give my baby a big hug tonight'

If you're one of those people who say that, please stop

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sonofrageandlove · 29/09/2024 08:35

That’s awful I cannot believe people actually thought that was acceptable! Sorry for your loss

Dontjudgeme101 · 29/09/2024 08:35

I am so sorry. That’s awful op 💐💐💐

CableCar · 29/09/2024 08:34

Totally inappropriate of people to say. My condolences OP 💜

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 29/09/2024 08:34

Good grief what awful things to say to you. Hugely inappropriate @EnfysHeulenEira so sorry xx

Sprookjesbos · 29/09/2024 08:33

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Isaac.

I'm honestly shocked that anyone would say those things to you? That seems so obviously tactless and heartless.

I think some people just lack emotional intelligence and social awareness.

Bruisername · 29/09/2024 08:33

I’m really sorry for your loss and I agree that those comments were insensitive

its very hard to know what to say to someone when something so tragic has happened as words just aren’t enough but I think the basic is to not make it about you (which talking about what you would do or about hugging your own kids tighter is)

FrenchandSaunders · 29/09/2024 08:33

Christ almighty what the fuck is wrong with these people 😡.

So sorry OP.

Mumofteenandtween · 29/09/2024 08:32

Yep - completely inappropriate.

I am so sorry for your loss.

cansu · 29/09/2024 08:31

Those all sound awful things to say.

EnfysHeulenEira · 29/09/2024 08:30

Not appropriate in the title 🤦‍♀️

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