Am I bu to feel that this is an inappropriate thing to say to a parent who's lost lost their child?

I do very very sorry for what you and your family have been through. No words can make it better xxx

The phrase "I'm holding my babies tighter tonight" is one of those things that circulates after horrible stories in the news, but it is spectacularly dim and insensitive to say that directly to a grieving mother, let alone write it down in a card. People just don't think. As for the other comments, just unbelievable.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Isaac.x

These are absolute shits and sound about 15 years old. Certainly not mature enough to be mothers.

I also found the worst thing anyone could say when I had a very recent loss was … absolutely nothing. Honestly what does it cost to just say ‘I am so sorry. I am thinking of you’.

RIP Isaac (what a lovely name).

So sorry for your loss, and that you've had such crass comments from people who shouldn't have been so insensitive.

I'm so sorry for your loss. The examples you gave are disgustingly thoughtless comments, what is wrong with people that they think it's acceptable to say these things?! As if you're not going through enough! Nothing will replace your boy, he was his own little individual self. ❤️

Its become a catch phrase hasn't it for any tragic situation involving children? The people saying it to you are not very bright or emotionally intelligent and their brain has leapt to what they know. I'm sorry you have encountered so many people like this. I hope its been balanced by other supportive comments and that other people have said things to bring you what comfort they could. I'm sorry for your loss and hope your future brings you peace, happy memories of Isaac, and joy in the children you have with you.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My friend's little girl died at 4 years of age and she had people are say some of the most horrific, thoughtless shit.

Some people are incredibly self absorbed and make everything about themselves.

My friend cut out a lot of assholes after her daughter died. She also had the other extreme too, people pretending they didn't see her to avoid talking to her.

I hope you have some decent people around you, who are supportive.

I hope your post will highlight who insensitive people can be but those that need to hear it the most are unfortunately unlikely to listen.

RIP Issac.

Omg no I agree what a selfish and awful thing to say. I would tell them to F off!! Sorry for your loss :( x

so sorry for your loss, hope you have kind and supportive people around you.

Completely thoughtless.

I hope you are all doing ok xx Six months is no time at all xx

This; RIP Isaac

Sorry for your loss OP. And I agree completely that these are unhelpful and thoughtless comments.

I hope you posting about this might make someone think twice before they comment in future.

@Bubblesgun I appreciate that was true for you.

The difficulty with grief is that we are all different and we all find different things comforting.

Trying to tell someone how it is in absolutes (eg there are seven stages) isn't helpful because it may not be so for them. It's like expecting someone else to take comfort from religion because you do.

That's why so many people fear getting it wrong, because no one knows what is going to be wrong or right until it happens (although the OP's case will never be OK).

Hi there, I am so, so sorry for your loss of your child. I am not a mother so I can only try to imagine but can't. I just wish you strength and love.

It's at devastating times that we find out who our real friends are. I've been lucky enough to search for and find a couple of friends who are wise and truly love and respect me in an unselfish way. From your post it is clear that you are a sensitive and deep thinker. I hope you are able to distance yourself from the people who make you feel hurt and alienated, and find a few people who treat you with the care and love you deserve.

I'm so sorry op. They are making your loss about them and their kids. Awful. And then your supposed to thank them for the flowers.

When I do see reporting of a tragic event, they often say something like, "hug your loved ones a little tighter today" etc, I'm wondering if they're mirroring that type of comment/advice without realizing how insensitive it is to direct that to the parents.

@tothelefttotheleft absolutely right

Jesus christ any words but the ones that were said to the OP.
Honestly what a stupid, thoughtless and ignorant post that you would actually have to ask that.

@EnfysHeulenEira It's definitely them and not you. Not one word they said was appropriate.

You believe what you want to believe, i wont try to change your mind and I certainly wont tell you my story.
but there are 7 stages of grief and yes you do move through them.
take care

But people don't have to make grieving parents feel worse do they?

@SummerFade

What did you send that led to that reaction?

@Calliopespa

That's such a lovely thing to do.