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To think the one who wakes in the night should sleep a bit later the next morning?

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Oneandaquarter · 28/09/2024 21:47

DD wakes in the night and she also wakes crazy early at around 5 … AIBU to think DH should get up with her then since I’ve been up in the night?

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BurbageBrook · 28/09/2024 22:06

YANBU OP. That's what we do. I BF and wake up in the night more (these days only when she's teething usually) so DH wakes up early with her.

Skykidsspy · 28/09/2024 22:04

Yes - pre agreed turns.

but also, sleep train!

pizzaHeart · 28/09/2024 22:02

i would say yes, you should stay in bed longer but I would also consider when each of you goes to bed; how physically exhausting are your days and generally how much sleep each of you needs.

user1471517900 · 28/09/2024 22:01

Oneandaquarter · 28/09/2024 21:55

as presumably the other parent gets woken at 1am too is this a joke?

It depends. You can be up anything from ten minutes to two hours.

Not a joke. Even if they don't get up, surely they get woken up?

If you're up for two hours then you should get sleep though. The OP didn't make it clear that it was multiple times and for hours.

Tbskejue · 28/09/2024 21:58

DH briefly waking in the night but not having to get out of bed and deal with DC is nothing like being actively up with them

Tbskejue · 28/09/2024 21:57

I get up with DC in the night and DH gets up with them early in the morning. It means we both work out with about the same energy/tiredness levels.

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Oneandaquarter · 28/09/2024 21:55

as presumably the other parent gets woken at 1am too is this a joke?

It depends. You can be up anything from ten minutes to two hours.

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user1471517900 · 28/09/2024 21:53

Clearly I need sleep as I just made up that the child woke up at 1am. No idea where I got that from.

Ss32 · 28/09/2024 21:53

I do most of the night wakes with our baby as she is bfed, OH wakes with the toddler but that’s rare as she generally sleeps through. On the weekends he usually does both early morning wake ups because he has had better sleep at night. It works well for us and I think it’s fair

user1471517900 · 28/09/2024 21:52

When you say "wakes in the night" - do you mean that they need a little bit of comfort and then back to sleep.

And then 5am is the "I'm getting up now" wake up?

If that's the case, I'd say they're not the same. I'd alternate between the two as presumably the other parent gets woken at 1am too.

Ohmy88 · 28/09/2024 21:52

We take it in turns. I tried to do a bit more than my DH when I was on mat leave but tbh it was probably only 60/40. Now I’m back at work we take it in turns to be “on duty” & that includes night wakes & the early morning…

Moonshiners · 28/09/2024 21:51

Definitely. Mix it up though if you can.

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Oneandaquarter · 28/09/2024 21:51

Really … so even though I’m up two or three times I have to get up at 5?? 🥱

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Doubledded123 · 28/09/2024 21:49

Take it in turns