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Who is bu regarding lifts?

195 replies

Nostalgianostalgic · 28/09/2024 17:12

There are two people. Gordon and Billy.

Billy is giving Gordon a lift regularly. That's fine and Billy doesn't mind at all under the circumstances. Without going into it all it's a reasonably arrangement.

But when Billy goes to pick Gordon up Billy texts Gordon just as he's leaving to say "on way". It's a 2 minute drive away.

When Billy arrives, he's having to wait several minutes for Gordon to come out to the car and is getting annoyed.

Gordon says that Billy should text again to say that he's there, but Billy thinks as he's helping Gordon, that Gordon should be ready and waiting at the door.

Who is bu?

OP posts:
CookiePookie · 28/09/2024 19:06

So perhaps one text (when leaving) to say he’s outside (but not really there yet) so once Billy is actually outside Gordon will be coming out. Maybe…

larklane17 · 28/09/2024 19:03

Billy, don't be a hero, don't be a fool with your life.
( As the song goes.)

wellIguessitwouldberice · 28/09/2024 19:02

Gordon is being unreasonable but Billy should set expectation clearly.

loropianalover · 28/09/2024 19:01

Gordon is in the wrong but Billy is coming out the bigger fool for sitting in the car and waiting like a chauffeur.

I’d just say the lifts are not working out anymore and don’t offer any second chances. If someone doesn’t have the decency to be standing at the front door/in the porch when they know someone is 2 mins away, it’s not my job to educate them on manners or provide a service to them.

RandomMess · 28/09/2024 19:01

Start texting

On my way! If you aren't outside waiting I'll leave without you.

Thursdaygirl · 28/09/2024 18:57

But even if Gordon received a “I’m here/outside” text,how long would he need to actually get himself outside???

Bloom15 · 28/09/2024 18:56

Gordon sounds like a pain in the arse. And I don't even drive

Chester23 · 28/09/2024 18:55

Gordon. I had this situation I stopped giving the lift

JudgieJudie · 28/09/2024 18:54

Who are you? Billy or Gordon?

AmeliaEarache · 28/09/2024 18:54

Gordon ought to tread carefully if he still wants to benefit from lifts

goodboystepup · 28/09/2024 18:52

Tell Gordon that if he's not standing outside waiting when Billy arrives, Billy will in future drive on and not wait.

Dora33 · 28/09/2024 18:52

Billy is giving the lift and wants Gordon to be ready to go at the door when he arrives. He texts 2 minutes beforehand so Gordon knows to be ready.
No reason for Billy to then text again when he is outside Gordon's house.
Gordon is being very unreasonable not to accept that Billy isn't sending a second text.

YellowAsteroid · 28/09/2024 18:51

Gordon is UNreasonable. Billy should stop giving him lifts for a bit.

Mummyoflittledragon · 28/09/2024 18:51

JWhipple · 28/09/2024 18:47

Did you post this as a build up to this?

lol. Simpler times. Yup Gordon is a moron!

byteme1011 · 28/09/2024 18:48

Honestly just tell Gordon to sort out alternative transport - 2 mins (who takes 5 minutes to put shoes on!)

LightSpeeds · 28/09/2024 18:45

Yeah I've had this with people, before, when I'm picking them up and they're not ready, fucking around for 10 minutes after I've arrived, expecting me to text them AGAIN to say I'm there. It's bloody rude.

AlwaysGinPlease · 28/09/2024 18:44

Gordon would be walking or catching the bus if I was Billy.

HeliotropePJs · 28/09/2024 18:44

Billy should tell Gordon he's tired of waiting, so either Gordon is ready at X o'clock (without any reminder at all), or he can start finding another means of transport. Gordon doesn't care that Billy's annoyed to be kept waiting? He's forfeited this favour.

Cherrysoup · 28/09/2024 18:43

If it’s the same time every day, Gordon should be outside waiting, obviously. He’s an idiot.

MidnightBlossom · 28/09/2024 18:42

Perhaps Gordon needs a reminder that he's getting a freebie lift from a mate, rather than ordering an Uber. So demanding text message notifications which essentially perform the office of "your driver is here", is a bit fucking cheeky.

He should be outside and waiting. Bill should tell him if he's not then he will drive on, and Gordon can make his own way.

44PumpLane · 28/09/2024 18:39

Gordon is being a piss taker and maybe Billy needs to be unable to take him for a few weeks so Gordon realises how much easier his life is getting a lift and perhaps he could be the one ha going about for a minute or two in his hike wearing shoes so he's actually ready to go once he gets the text from Billy!

Hurrayforfridays · 28/09/2024 18:35

Gordon is being massively unreasonable. Someone is doing him a favour and he's keeping them waiting? I am someone who gets lifts - we arrange a time and I am ready and waiting to walk out the door at the agreed time (no texts) because anything else would be rude!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/09/2024 18:34

Nostalgianostalgic · 28/09/2024 18:05

I know it doesn't take a second to text and say I'm here, but then Billy has got to wait for Gordon to get his shoes on and Billy is ending up waiting in the car for 5 over minutes.

From leaving to get to Gordon's house it really is only 2 minutes, so 'on way' means 2 minutes away.

I have a real issue with people who don’t realise having their shoes in is part of being ready! You don’t start putting your shoes in only once everyone else is ready to walk out the door, or in this case is waiting outside.

If you’re shoes aren’t on, you aren’t ready!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/09/2024 18:32

Gordon is being U and in danger of losing his lifts!

Gordon sounds deliberately difficult- like he wants to make a point.