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Ex’s friend asking me for money

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Shyfrog · 28/09/2024 15:04

A friend of my ex who I am not on speaking terms with has reached out and is asking me for money because they need to pay for transport to college so they can get a degree and move out eventually. I don’t know them but I don’t find it completely impossible that they have no one they can ask for money from. They live with their grandma who has dementia and their family members won’t give them any money because they’re not on good terms. I am on benefits and have a little bit of money for giving gifts for birthdays and Christmas to anyone close to me. My judgement isn’t that great. What questions can I ask to work out if they’re genuine

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MrsKwazi · 28/09/2024 15:12

Just say no. You don’t need to work anything out, just no. Not your responsibility to waste any headspace in trying to figure out if they are genuine!!
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm!

Bigcat25 · 28/09/2024 15:11

Whether they are genuine or not, just say no.

Prisonpillow · 28/09/2024 15:11

No questions to be asked. Just block them.

Day99 · 28/09/2024 15:11

Why do you even entertain the question, just say no and block.

Aintthatso · 28/09/2024 15:11

You don’t even know them?!

How many other people are they asking?

Cocothecoconut · 28/09/2024 15:10

neither A borrower or lender be !
youll never see the money or them again
or
they will tap you for more

Londonrach1 · 28/09/2024 15:09

Just say no! Never ever ever lend money to a friend unless you can afford to never see it again. No and block

Asparename · 28/09/2024 15:09

Don’t give them any money and block them. If they are genuinely going to university they can apply for a student loan from the government like all the other students have to.

PullTheBricksDown · 28/09/2024 15:09

'Sorry I can't afford it as I'm low income myself but good luck to you' then block

Hoppinggreen · 28/09/2024 15:07

You don't ask anything , you block them

chestnutroast · 28/09/2024 15:06

you don’t work op

you shouldn’t be lending anyone anything FGS

Clumsy12345 · 28/09/2024 15:06

Scam

chestnutroast · 28/09/2024 15:05

op i’m guessing you don’t have much money to your name

added to which you sound very vulnerable

don’t even bother responding don’t let alone asking questions

no doubt t ex has told him to hit you up for
money because you’re an easy target