To have unfriended this person?

You're not being unreasonable to unfriend her because she doesn't need shit, judgemental friends like you.

What's it to you if she's having some fun? Life doesn't stop because someone died. Good on her for doing something that makes her happy in a shit time.

I don’t usually give negative feedback on MN. But OP you have made this post all about you and your feelings of loss about your mum and what you went through when she died. This is not about your friend.

Is this a reverse by any chance?

If genuine then you are being very u reasonable, it's her life and you have no right to judge her choice.

Are you 15? Christ, I imagine she won’t even notice.

Yep YABVU. My mum, her sisters and a big group of friends had a boozy weekend away the week my grandmother died. It had been booked for a birthday for ages and my grandmother had begged them not to miss it. She loved a party and her holidays, it was bittersweet but right somehow

YABVU

When we lost my DGM we went on our pre-booked holiday with my DM, who was devastated by losing her beloved mother but my DGM would have gone mad if we’d cancelled to sit at home grieving.

The ability to do other things does not mean people haven’t been bowled over by grief.

Amazing how you’ve made it all about you

I doubt she's going to miss the loss of your "friendship".

YABVU. My amazing lovely mum died last year and lived for her holidays. She would have come back to haunt me if I'd have cancelled one.

In fact me and my sisters went on a pre-booked break between mum's (unexpected) death and funeral. It was a really great way to step away and bond and remember her without having to deal with all the arranging we inevitably had to do once we got home.

Beyond weird and you’ve done her a favour unfriending her. She’s not you and you don’t own her. Next level judgemental.

Surely this must be a reverse/ goady posting.

If you’re old enough to post in this forum surely you’re old enough to have learned that everyone is not the same, no situation is the same as another, no family is the same and there is no one acceptable way to tell or show emotion - in particular, grief. Grief drives people a bit insane, particularly where it’s something unspeakable like the loss of a child or very shocking.

I’m aware that I am inclined to be somewhat dubious and judgemental about the sincerity and sense of people who grieve very openly for years for elderly people who’ve lived a full life, focus on every sad day and make sure they remember every anniversary in a kind of self indulgent way and seem to ‘get off’ on extracting every iota of misery and drama out of their own, or more commonly, other’s grief. I’m a more ‘life is for the living’ person who thinks you have a moral duty to try to be happy and get on etc.

But I’m not God. It’s not for me to judge and I never really know how others feel inside or what’s really going on with them. So I reprimand myself to give others the benefit of the doubt and to be kind and not judge. Life is hard. Cut others some slack and pray they do the same for you.

Yes, you over reacted.

It's maybe not the wisest thing for her to be posting pics of her having fun when she'd so recently posted about her mum but people are still allowed to enjoy themselves even when grieving. We went away just after my lovely dad died, it was pre booked, the kids were looking forward it, I wanted to take my mind off it & my dad would have wanted us to go

You are being v v v unreasonable. You have no idea the circumstances behind her mother's death. My parents are both gone and both times, I grieved BEFORE they died - one from hideous cancer and one from dementia. Both had long drawn out deaths and I was totally relieved when they passed because they (and us) were no longer in pain.
You have behaved like a terrible 'friend' and she's better off without you.

OP, do you think you are a nice person? Genuinely curious. Your approach to this is absolutely horrible. It is her grief to manage how she wishes.

Hahahahaaaaa this has to be a joke?

Hmm when my own mother died over 5 years ago I've never cried or been upset at the thought of her death, to be honest she wasn't a nice person to me. So never felt the need to grieve but my sister who she was equally horrible too, wept buckets and grieved for a long time. People are different, your friend might not have felt a need to grieve or might have thought well my mum would want me to enjoy my holiday so I will .Perhaps it was just the excuse you needed to get rid of her off your friends list? Just remember People grieve in different ways

It's good that you unfriended her.

She should be free from having any friends judging the appropriateness of her grief response, and you've helped her achieve that.

You are really not a nice person. Don't friend her again - she does not deserve judgemental people like you in her life. No one does.

Judgemental. Very, unclench your pearls love

Fucking hell I've read a lot of AIBU and this is by far the best post yet. Yes, YABVVVVVVU, everyone deals with grief in different ways, and she is better off without you nitpicking how she deals with hers.

Some of the responses on here bit harsh... you had an emotional reaction and probably sparked by your remaining grief over your mother. Just explain to her what happened and make it up.. am sure she'll understand, good luck OP

You expect them to cancel a family holiday they might have been saving for for years, lose their deposit and maybe the cost of the whole thing? What about the kids? They deserve a holiday and it's terrible their grandma's died. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You need to see things from other people's perspective before being so judgemental. She can post whatever she likes on SM about her family holiday. What a mean response you have to something perfectly normal.

Is this a pisstake?
You are being really daft.