To have unfriended this person?

Your'e quite right. I just read the part where she realised she was wrong and apologised but have now seen that she wont be trying to correct her error and more.

So really, OP is completey wrong and its probably best the friendship is over.

What makes you think that OP is remorseful, far from it from the two posts she’s put up.

She’s stated she’s not adding her again as a friend, that’s best for the other person I think.

OP can you add her back as a friend? For all she knows it could be a facebook glitch or been hacked.
If you can, I would.

You were obviously massively unreasonable and recognise that now but its not too take to salvage the friendship.

I recently lost an aunt (a brief illness) and her sons (who had lost their father at a young age) organised everything ie the funeral etc. They were clearly distraught and loved their mum dearly. One week after the funeral they both went on a couple of Stag does around Europe and I saw photos on Social media of them enjoying themselves.

All I could think was good for them and was happy to see them smiling after such a torrid time. Pretty sure its what their mum would have wanted to. It doesnt take away the fact I know they were devastated.

OP I am embarrassed for you

You have over reacted majorly!!! Just because she was on holiday drinking, does not mean she is nor grieving. She could have gone away to help with the pain , cheer her children up or have something positive going on in a place where it's full of darkness. I know a guy who lost his wife , left behind 3 children , he took them on holiday. Nothing wrong with it at all. People deal with grief differently.

OP. I'm sorry for your loss and I think your reaction to this friend's posts were more about the fact that you are still grieving yourself. It affects everyone differently. I hope you can find someone in RL to talk it through with.

Very harsh stance to take and you were no 'real' friend to just drop her like that. They probably had that holiday booked months, if not a year ago in advance and perhaps had a conversation with the family saying they didn't want to go but everyone agreed they should, maybe even her mother told her they should still go if anything happened to her! Even if it didn't happen like that, who are you to judge? Just because you wouldn't have gone, doesn't mean EVERYONE else has to think like you. I certainly wouldn't want my children and grandchildren to miss out on anything because of my passing, I would want them to get on with their lives. We are only here for a very short time after all!!

This has to be a joke surely? This person's life has absolutely nothing to do with you. If she wants to go on holiday with her family that's her business. What a strange reaction. IF this post is legitimate then you ABVU.

Nor did I.
Obviously it was sad for her family but it didn't affect me.
I never understood the old enforced mourning periods. Seems to have been a moneyspinner more than anything.

You might have had a mourning period for the queen. I certainly didn't! And I didn't watch the funeral.

We didn't do official mourning when the queen died. We went to a waterpark in celebration of her life it being open rather than watch the funeral on the telly

I had no official mourning period when the Queen died, why would I?

And as I’ve said it’s not a sign of the times, that’s bullshit!

It’s obviously triggered something in you and the fact you’re asking means you know you’ve overreacted.

you can’t really judge her on how you felt. You’re different people with different circumstances.

This has obviously brought back difficult memories for you, I get it, but don’t take it out on your friend.

'It’s a sign that people die and celebration of life is more important!
instead of the staged mourning, wearing black and faux wailing.'

No one's talking about staged mourning, wearing black and faux wailing?
As an example, we had an official mourning period when the late queen died and this lasted until after her funeral. People used to follow a similar etiquette more closely - many faiths still do.
Each to their own....

It’s a sign that people die and celebration of life is more important!

instead of the staged mourning, wearing black and faux wailing.

Many years ago, it was considered respectful to have a mourning period in between the death and at least until the funeral. One wasn't supposed to go out to social events, holidays etc until the mourning period was over. This no longer seems to be a thing anymore for some and I suppose it's just a sign of the times that many no longer do this.

Massive over-reaction on your part.

Why shouldn't she have a (very likely long-ago booked) holiday? You can still be sad and hurting, and manage to put a brave face on.
Perhaps she wasn't close to her mum, and there's a lot of baggage?

You've been incredibly judgemental, and rather cruel. If your ex-friend knew what you'd written here, she'd probably be very glad to have been unfriended.

You are being ridiculous and about 12. Time to grow up OP.

Are you high?? Imagine judging someone for not sitting home weeping in their mourning clothes for a certain amount of time! Heaven forbid they are trying to keep a bit of normality for their kids during a crap time! You did her a favour I’d say

Wow. Maybe just maybe she was thinking about her family, a pre arranged holiday most likely. My mother died 2 days before my daughter’s 5th birthday. I insisted we still had the party.
i hope u don’t befriend her again. You are not the right kind of friend

We were due to go on a cruise just after my father in law died, we considered not going but, as we had made the arrangements for the funeral, there didn't seem any point in cancelling. Life goes on, I bet her Mum would have wanted her to go on holiday. Just because she is smiling in a photo doesn't mean she isn't grieving.

Completely agree with this, I can’t imagine being annoyed that someone grieved a different way to me.

You’re obviously entitled to unfriend her, but I definitely don’t think the majority of people would agree with your perspective and you shouldn’t expect them to.

As others have said maybe she wasn’t as close with her mum as you were with yours, maybe she needed some time away with her family as a break etc. I’m not that close to my mum, yeah I’d be upset etc, byt honestly I wouldn’t stop doing normal things if she passed because we’ve just never been super close. My siblings would probably be a bit more upset than me as they have a slightly closer relationship with her as they live closer, but would completely understand if I wanted to take some family time after a death and would know they could reach out to me if needed. I definitely wouldn’t unfriend someone over a post like this if I otherwise liked seeing their posts and interacting with them.

Not everyone experiences the same feelings and situations as you do, you’ve got to remember that.

I really hope she hasn't noticed. What an unbelievably shitty thing to do.

YABU.